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There is a filial daughter in front of the bed for a long time In the face of disabled parents, do you practice filial piety or work?
Recently, Lili, a 30-year-old woman in Henan, nursing her 74-year-old dementia father, has attracted widespread attention. This incident sheds light on the difficult choices that single-child families face today when one or both parents lose the ability to care for themselves. As an only child, how should we face and place our parents? This is a stinging question that requires us to dig deeper.
Lily is an ordinary woman, and at the age of 30, it should be the best period for her to chase her dreams and start a career. However, she was plagued by her father's Alzheimer's disease. From early morning to midnight, Lily always circled around her father and took care of all his daily life. Her time and energy are occupied by these trivial matters and cannot be freely disposed of. She used to have her own dreams, such as going out to work or traveling, but these bright futures were destroyed by her father's illness. In this family, it seems that she is the only one left functioning normally.
Lily's life is becoming more and more abnormal. She spends her days in the company of feces, and her father's strange behavior and loss of self-care make her no longer feel nauseous, but become numb. She was always on the lookout for fear that her father would make a mess of the house again. Her exhortations and exhortations were like talking to the air to an old man with dementia, and in a few minutes, she was confronted with the filth of the ground. No one was spared on the neat bed or clothes. Not only did her father show no remorse, but he also insulted her and reprimanded her in all kinds of arrogant and arrogant ways. Lily didn't dare to beat her old father, so she could only swallow her anger over and over again. In the face of this sudden change, she no longer has the mind to celebrate the New Year, and her life is only a mechanical repetition of wiping feces.
Lily's pain sparked widespread resonance and discussion. Many people face similar distress, and they share Lily's despair. They shared their experiences and described their pain in dealing with their parents with dementia. Someone said: "My mother is also demented, she doesn't say anything about defecation and urination everywhere, and she also gouges the door in the middle of the night, so that I can't sleep at all." Another person said: "It's too painful, sometimes I really want to cut it off, but I can't bear it." He's my mom after all. ”
Caring for parents with dementia is not only a physical and mental drain on their children, but also a difficult psychological adjustment process. Many people are on the brink of life and may be in a desperate situation at any time. Most of our generation comes from one-child families, and when young people enjoy the care of their parents, have we ever thought that our aging parents need our reciprocation? The future pension crisis is destined to be more ferocious and cruel than the previous generation.
In the face of this problem, we cannot avoid it, and we should think about it as soon as possible. We should make plans for the last journey of our lives while everything is still under control. We can't pass on this pain to the next generation, we have to take responsibility for our parents and do our best to accommodate them and give them a decent old age.
When facing a disabled parent, we can consider the following:
First, seek professional help. Dementia is a condition that requires professional care and medical treatment, and we should seek the help of professional doctors and caregivers who are able to provide better care and care.
Second, build a support network. We can look for support groups or communities for families of people with dementia to share experiences and emotions with them, to support and encourage each other.
After zui, arrange your time and energy reasonably. We can consider hiring some temporary workers or domestic caregivers to help take care of our parents, which can reduce our burden and allow us to have more time and energy to work and take care of our own lives.
When dealing with parents with disabilities, we need to balance our family and work to find a balance. We need to understand that it is our responsibility to be filial to our parents, but we must not sacrifice our lives and careers either. Only on the basis of finding a balance can we face it better.
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