Zhou Yuan's wedding proposal.
Evergreen. Marriage proposal is actually a prelude to the marriage of both men and women.
After the handsome women and guys on both sides meet, they can still have a feeling of love at first sight, and they can grind out a little spark, and then they will understand each other, almost, that is, both parties feel that they can enter the agenda, so they will give the matchmaker a meeting and express their wishes. Even if you are in free love, you have to find someone to propose to the woman. Generally, marriage is divided into three steps: proposing, marrying, and marrying.
The Chinese New Year is a season of jubilation, a year of waiting. Not only are there many happy events, everyone is happy, but it is also the best way to visit relatives and friends, and friends gather.
The most noteworthy thing is that it is also the time to match young boys and girls, because they are always busy, they are busy with their own careers, and there are many people. Marriage is sometimes misunderstood, "which young girl is not good at spring, which young man is not good at love", busy day after day, there are many older leftover women, due to the urgent urging of parents, I have to put the blind date in my heart, according to the voice of my parents, and obey my words. Taking advantage of the Chinese New Year, which is also a time for reunion, it can become a marriage.
Approaching the end of the year, the family will worry about the unmarried children, and tell this trust, when will the woman come back, come back and let the two babies meet, and give that a message, my son, the twentieth ** of the lunar month will be on vacation, or let the two babies add WeChat to chat first. This is also busy with professional matchmakers, and relatives and friends also piggyback on this. As the saying goes: Matchmaking the marriage of the red media is better than creating a seventh-level floating slaughter.
Waiting for the opportunity, the two babies met, left each other**, added WeChat, after understanding, both parties were satisfied, the parents had no "opinions", now most parents are very open-minded, in a word, as long as the two babies are willing, adults have no opinions. This is the matchmaker spoke, and told the man that everything is going well, just look at the day to propose, and then there will be a propose.
Relatives are proposed in various places, which are much the same, but they just follow the customs. When it comes to proposing, the matter is half the battle.
Generally, the man brings the five-color ceremony, (the five-color ceremony, in the Fufeng area, that is, tobacco, alcohol, sugar tea and a gift) to the woman's house. The matter of proposing relatives is an indispensable procedure in the Guanzhong area, especially Fufeng. Whether it is someone pulling the line or falling in love freely, the procedure of proposing marriage is indispensable.
The ancient custom of proposing marriage must be wanted, the man's family personally came to the door to show the woman's respect for the woman's family, and the gifts brought to the door must be even numbers, such as cigarettes, wine, and tea. Smoke is a "good red cat", and wine in Fufeng Baoji is of course "six years of west wind", of course, it is also determined by people, and there is no fixed frame. Candy to buy red bags to show good luck. The gift box indicates auspiciousness and joy, and so on.
In general, the gifts for proposing relatives are more expensive than the gifts that usually go to the house, and it is best to have a certain volume, more variety, and look richer. Before giving gifts, it is necessary to consider both the preferences of the prospective father-in-law and the preferences of the prospective mother-in-law, and it is best to discuss with the girl in advance what kind of gift to choose, she knows her parents better than you. In this way, it will be enough to do what it likes, things will go smoothly, and everyone will be happy.
The proposal is to go to the woman's house with the elders of the family, or the highly respected person, who can speak well, together with the parents.
First of all, the guy must clean up himself, pay attention to his clothing and appearance, and dress appropriately. Make a good impression on the woman's parents, and you will get twice the result with half the effort. In the past, they were all riding motorcycles or bicycles, but now they are driving or hiring cars, which is fast and magnificent. Therefore, I usually go to the woman's house at about half past ten in the morning, and the woman's family will clean up the house early, set it up, and smoke and drink sugar and tea in order to entertain new guests. When they arrived at the woman's door, they were ready to greet them, shook hands and said hello when they entered the door, and then sat down.
Although it is a passing scene, the woman also prepared a sumptuous meal for the guests, although she was extremely polite, not allowed to prepare the meal, she had already served it on the table between the words, and the male host was invited to the table, even if the man was hungry, he could only eat a few bites, and he should put his eyes high, serve tea and pour water, and hand cigarettes and chopsticks, so that the woman's family felt that the guy was good, and the praise of the neighbors could add points, and the following words were easy to say.
After eating, it is the protagonist of the matchmaker. I will call the man's parents, "come to talk to you", say how much the bride price is in the house next door, say how to arrange the three gold, now there are too many clothes to wear, buy a few less, ask for forty or fifty catties of cotton, a few quilts, and the following related matters. When making a marriage, the return gift to the woman's relatives should also follow the local customs, and the man should be in place, and he should not dare to be negligent, in case he will be embarrassed when the time comes.
After saying this, the matchmaker has to explain to the woman, and the woman's parents nod and are satisfied, even if today's major event has been completed. The woman's parents don't care about these if they are satisfied with the man, otherwise they will embarrass the matchmaker. The best thing to say is to say, "You look at it."
The bride price, (the customs vary from place to place, ranging from 80,000 to 100,000, different from person to person) The boy's family conditions are good, and if he has a job, the bride price will be less, and there will be more brothers without a job, which will be relatively more, for fear that the woman will marry and suffer. Therefore, the bride price has become a dark box operation, and others do not know. How many clothes, the three gold issues were discussed by both sides, seeing that the big event was auspicious, they were all happy, polite words, laughter and laughter filled the small courtyard of the farmhouse, and they were happy.
At this time, it is also time to leave the woman's house, usually leaving at noon, and the man's parents will have a hanging heart to let go of their stomachs, and they can proceed to the next procedure to determine the marriage. As soon as I walked out of the door, I would be surrounded by the sister-in-law of the neighbor next door, and the aunt would be difficult to withdraw, and ......they were all struggling to eat candy