Text|Wang Hugo.
Many people's living conditions are superficial marriages, but in fact they are single, which is now a very common widowed marriage. Widowed marriages are actually particularly painful, because you may not worry about food and clothing in the eyes of others, but only you know what you have silently borne at home. So how can we improve our marital situation in the face of such a situation? Today Hugo gives you a few suggestions, I hope it can help you.
1. Accept the fact that the marriage is unhappy.
If you want to improve your widowed marriage, you have to accept that you have suffered from widowhood. The reason why many people can't solve it is because she doesn't want to face this fact in her own heart. may be very happy in front of relatives and friends, so she has no place to talk about the discomfort in her heart, because she wants to maintain her image of a happy marriage. In fact, it is a kind of escape or self-deception, which will only make you more miserable. Accepting reality is the first step out of the predicament.
2. Rediscover yourself.
After getting married, many people, especially women, lose themselves. I'm so-and-so's wife, I'm the mother of my children, so what about me, who am I? It seems that the girl dancing in a flower dress before marriage has completely disappeared. In fact, this is a misunderstanding. The essence of marriage should be a combination of two independent individuals, not a process of constantly discarding the self. Then this person must be unhappy. In a widowed marriage, you can reallocate your attention to yourself. What are your hobbies and hobbies, and then start pursuing the things that make you happy again. A woman with an ego is a shining person.
3. Try to communicate openly with your partner.
Once you've accepted the facts, you can try to communicate openly with your partner. Try to sit down with your partner and not blame each other, both of whom only express their inner thoughts. At this time, you will find that the other party does have depression and pain in his heart. Because an unhappy marriage will never be a person's pain. Don't blame the other person right away, that will only make communication more difficult. Talk about your feelings, listen to his thoughts, and slowly find a solution to the problem.
4. Try to rebuild intimacy.
After communication, if you feel that your marriage is still alive, then this is the time to try to rebuild intimacy. Care more about each other, think about each other's feelings before doing things, and try to do something romantic, so that your relationship can slowly warm up. Of course, if two people have been indifferent for a long time, this requires a slow and gradual process, don't rush, take your time.
Fifth, professional help.
When you have tried many ways and can't improve the relationship, then you need to seek professional help, we can give you more professional advice and guidance, you just need to follow the guidance step by step to repair the relationship.
Widowed marriages are not formed in a day, and they are not all caused by the problems of one party, it can only be said that one person may have more problems and the other person has fewer problems, so to improve widowed marriage, it must also be achieved by two people working together. Exclusive benefits for high-quality authors