In the finale of the TV series "Snail House", Song Siming's death is like the tranquility before the storm. Before dying, the last five words he whispered in his mouth were like a mystery that evoked reverie. The audience's interpretation of these five words reflects their different understandings of his deep and complex heart. Some people are moved by his deep affection and think that he still does not forget seaweed at the last moment of his life, which is the embodiment of the supremacy of true love. And someone sneered at his behavior, cheated in marriage, and violated the oath of marriage, isn't such a man a scumbag?
After the TV series was broadcast, what people paid the most attention to was Song Siming's love triangle. However, when we look back at this work again many years later, we will find that "Snail House" is not only about love entanglements, but also a true portrayal of the dilemma of middle-aged marriage.
The seemingly accidental extramarital affair is actually the result of intensified inner conflicts. As soon as Song Siming appeared on the stage, he gave people a deep and complex feeling. He was the secretary of the city **, with a prominent position, but his life was simple and unpretentious. His family lives in an ordinary community, with simple decoration and no trace of luxury. In his personal life, he maintained great restraint and self-discipline, never indulged himself outside, and never lost his respect and love for his wife.
At a drinking party, when Song Siming first met Seaweed, although he was a little interested in this innocent girl, he never thought of turning her into his lover. But fate always likes to joke, and the appearance of seaweed is like a key that opens the door to Song Siming's deep memory. She is young, beautiful, and more importantly, she looks very similar to the girl Song Siming had a crush on when he was young.
Song Siming came from a poor background, and he came from a rural family with difficult living conditions. The impoverished environment made him set a wish since he was a child: he wanted to get ahead and live a privileged life. This desire has always driven him to work hard. However, such a native family also made Song Siming have an indelible inferiority complex in his heart.
In college, Song Siming was deeply in love with a professor's daughter. This love is like an unsprouted seed in his heart, quietly buried. He studied hard, hoping to cover up his inner shyness with achievements, and hoped to confess his love to her one day when he became famous. However, God did not fulfill people's wishes, and the girl died early due to illness, and he did not even wait for the time to confess. This crush that ended without a problem became an eternal regret in Song Siming's heart.
Until the appearance of seaweed, she not only looked like the girl he had a crush on, but also inspired his yearning and pursuit of a better life. So he walked to the seaweed, to a journey that was both beautiful and painful. However, this is only an unrealizable dream and an insurmountable tragedy. The secret love that was once hidden in the heart unexpectedly revived after middle age. However, Song Siming is no longer an ignorant teenager who knew little about the world in his college days. The immersion in officialdom and the experience of life gave him a deeper self-control over his emotions. When he met Seaweed, a woman who was very similar in appearance and temperament to the girl he once had a crush on, although Song Siming had a good impression, he maintained a high degree of restraint.
If it weren't for that accidental drunken out-of-control, Song Siming might never have crossed the moral line and embarked on the road of betraying marriage. That drunken impulse gave Song Siming an intimate relationship with Seaweed. When he first tasted the forbidden fruit, he had a brief entanglement in his heart, but when he misunderstood that seaweed was the first time, he was shocked. The shock was followed by an ecstasy. It turned out that he had always had a "** complex", which was deeply ingrained in his heart.
He was married to Jiang Miaomiao, but after learning that she was not perfect, he was always haunted in his heart. However, the power of Jiang Miaomiao's mother's family made Song Siming have to choose to remain silent. For years, the secret had stuck in his throat like a fishbone. And now, this ** complex has been satisfied in Seaweed, and he feels that he finally has a woman completely. This kind of psychological satisfaction made Song Siming, who originally adhered to his principles, go further and further on the road of extramarital affairs.
Before meeting Seaweed, Song Siming was scornful of extramarital affairs in the outside world, but this was only because he didn't meet the right people and the right time. After encountering seaweed, his previous insistence collapsed instantly, in addition to the psychological trouble of being unable to ask for it when he was young, it also reflected his boredom with married life.
In marriage, what is more terrible than sexlessness is boredom. After marrying Jiang Miaomiao, with the support of the Yue family, Song Siming was like a fish in water in officialdom. As the position progressed, there were more and more socializing, and the time to communicate with his wife became less and less. After her daughter was born, Jiang Miaomiao devoted herself to the child, and the time when the two of them could sit down and eat together became precious. In this kind of life, the love that once existed is gradually worn out, and the marriage becomes dull and uninteresting.
Behind this seemingly accidental extramarital affair, there is actually inevitability. Deep in Song Siming's heart, he has always longed for a relationship that can make his heart move and be full of passion. The appearance of seaweed just met this need in his heart. And the satisfaction of this need made him gradually fall into the quagmire of extramarital affairs and couldn't extricate himself. In the marriage relationship between Song Siming and Jiang Miaomiao, a gap that is difficult to cross gradually emerges. Jiang Miaomiao's needs for Song Siming became more and more perfunctory, and when Song Siming wanted to be close to her, she was always absent-minded and couldn't give him the response he deserved. Once, when the two were immersed in a romantic atmosphere, Jiang Miaomiao suddenly remembered her daughter's school test, which made Song Siming's enthusiasm cool down instantly.
As time passed, Song Siming gradually lost interest in this kind of married life. He began to realize that what made him even more unbearable than sexless marriage was Jiang Miaomiao's boredom. Entering middle age, they are no longer as passionate and fresh as they were when they were newly married. Once, when Song Siming went home, he found that Jiang Miaomiao did not close the door when he went to the toilet, and a wave of displeasure surged in his heart. Even though it was just a small thing, it planted a ticking time bomb in their marriage.
Contrary to Jiang Miaomiao's boredom, the appearance of seaweed brought freshness and excitement to Song Siming. Her youthful vitality allowed Song Siming to regain the passion that had gradually faded in marriage. He began to sink into this passion and could not extricate himself.
When people reach middle age, many people feel tired and dull in the face of long-term marital relationships and fading passions. At this time, the couple should work together to maintain each other's passion and affection and increase each other's attractiveness. However, many people ignore this and cause the relationship between husband and wife to drift apart. The Dilemma of a Middle-Aged Couple: Struggles and Choices in Marriage.
They try to find solutions with external stimuli rather than solving problems from within. This approach often pushes the marriage to the brink of danger. In the past, marriage was a harbor and a dependence on each other, but now it can become a cage that binds both parties. But in fact, to maintain the stability of marriage, in addition to the thin marriage book, what is more important is the correct view of marriage.
Song Siming's marriage to Jiang Miaomiao is one such example. When Song Siming's derailment was discovered by Jiang Miaomiao, instead of admitting his mistake, he tried to defend himself with the excuse of "normalcy in the circle". He once prided himself on despising that kind of behavior, but now he slapped himself in the face. Although he had an extramarital affair, he never thought of divorce. For him, the social impact and economic damage of divorce far outweigh his short-lived passion. In order to appease Jiang Miaomiao, he even did not hesitate to use drugs to maintain the life of the couple, which seemed to maintain the peace on the surface, but in fact made their relationship more complicated and tense.
And Jiang Miaomiao, in the face of Song Siming's derailment, although she was in pain, she chose not to let go. She listened to Song Siming's defense and used the concepts in the circle to find reasons for herself. She fears being marginalized and losing her current affluent life and social status. Therefore, she chose to forgive, but the way she chose was a sigh. She did not choose to communicate frankly with Song Siming, but decided to negotiate with Xiaosan Seaweed. She contemptuously said to Seaweed that men looking for beautiful women just to save face, such words not only exposed her inner anxiety and helplessness, but also showed her shallow understanding of marriage.
The true concept of marriage tells us that when faced with problems, we need to be honest with each other and communicate and solve them. It's not about looking for external stimuli or excuses for your mistakes. Only in this way can we truly maintain the stability and longevity of our marriage. Taking an oath of sovereignty is Jiang Miaomiao's way of maintaining her marriage. She hopes that Seaweed can leave with interest and resume her married life with Song Siming. Jiang Miaomiao's taunt made Seaweed embarrassed, like a defeated rooster, and left in disgrace. Jiang Miaomiao thought that as long as Xiao San left, everything would be back on track. However, this is just wishful thinking on her part. A broken marriage is like a broken mirror, difficult to repair.
In this marriage, Song Siming and Jiang Miaomiao's views on marriage are deformed. After Song Siming's cheating, his feelings for his wife have long disappeared, but he is still unwilling to give up his marriage. He needed this marriage to maintain his image, and at the same time relied on his wife's care, and did not want to lose this comfortable life. In addition to her feelings for Song Siming, Jiang Miaomiao is unwilling to give up her status and comfortable life. They both neglect the foundation of maintaining a marriage – affection. A marriage without affection is like walking on stilts that can fall at any time.
When people reach middle age, they can achieve happiness by restraining their desires and cherishing their eyes. Song Siming once hated extramarital affairs and has always remained sober. But after having a relationship with Seaweed, he couldn't stop in time. He was carried away by lust and couldn't help himself. Eventually, his indulgent desires destroyed his marriage and buried his own life. Guarding the twists and turns of marriage.
Maintaining a long-lasting marriage is no easy task in the long course of life. Full of money and desire, they are like beasts lurking in the shadows, ready to pounce on those who are not paying attention. Money and lust, their power is enormous, and they can easily tear apart an otherwise close relationship. But marriage, it's not just about two people, it's also about children, family, and financial ties. It requires not only affection, but also the blending of responsibility and love.
Freshness is like a brilliant firework, its beauty is instantaneous, and its light will gradually dim as time passes. And family affection and responsibility are what we need to bear all the time, regardless of wealth or poverty. The ** in the outside world may be endless, but the stories of those who abandon their families because of the impulse of the moment are sighing. Don't lose the stability and happiness that have been built up over the years and through joint efforts.
The real marriage killer, it is not the outside world, but time. When a marriage turns from passion to insipidity, it may disappear before we know it if we don't care for it with care. Marriage is like planting flowers, only when you water and care for them with your heart, will it continue to bloom into beautiful flowers. On the contrary, if there is a lack of love and effort, it will naturally wither and wither.
Getting married may be easy, but maintaining a marriage can be difficult. Marriage that has gone through middle age requires us to restrain our inner impulses and cherish the partner in front of us. And the secret of happiness often lies in how we view and cherish this ordinary life.
Song Siming, he was in a high position, but he failed to understand this. This also culminated in his tragic end. He was blinded by power and lust, and ignored the value and meaning of family. Although his life was brilliant, it ended up lonely and desolate. And we should learn from his story and understand that true happiness does not lie in the **** and freshness of the outside world, but in the warmth and long-term companionship of the family.