Money or husband, which is more important?
There may be 1,000 answers to this question from 1,000 women.
But perhaps many women will subconsciously think that money is much more important than men.
Is that really the case? Not praised. But for Wind Chime, who has experienced changes in her life, her thoughts in the first and second half of her life are completely different.
Feelings are fluid, and mentalities are changing. As long as you don't live up to yourself, it's the best answer.
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Until he was over 40 years old, Feng Chime realized that her husband was the most solid and reassuring support.
Before this, Wind Chime had always felt that the most reliable thing in the world was money, and her husband was just a mascot of a town house.
Wind chimes have such thoughts, and there is a reason.
The man is the eldest son of a large family, and his parents raised the man with the help of the whole family, and the man was finally able to get out of the small mountain village, finish college, work in the provincial town, get married, and settle down.
So men always say that without the family in their hometown, there would be no place for him today.
But for the wind chime, a man is a foolish person who does not distinguish between right and wrong.
Indeed, the exploitation of men by extended families is indeed serious.
Parents rely on men, younger siblings rely on men, and even nephews and nieces are also the responsibility of men.
Wind Chime said that for so many years, the most words that parents-in-law have said to men are:
You can't be ungrateful, it was not easy for us to train you back then.
Because of this sentence, men respond to their parents, younger siblings, nephews and nieces and do their best.
When the epidemic was at its worst last year, the old mother of the family fell, and so did the son, and the wind chime itself had the mildest symptoms, but it was also top-heavy, weak, and swallowing saliva like swallowing a blade.
There are a lot of sick numbers at home, but the man leaves them alone and goes to help his nephew run a job.
During that time, it was the wind chime who dragged the sick body alone, taking care of the old mother and taking care of the son, and one night when he was extremely tired, the wind chime locked himself in the bedroom, covered his face and secretly cried.
Because for so many years, he has always been exploited and oppressed, and men are stupid and filial faces, and the wind chimes have always been dead to money, and they are only disappointed in men.
II. II. II
When people reach middle age, they are actually pillow people.
In the first half of this year, during a physical examination of wind chimes, breast cancer was detected.
Thinking that the father has died, the mother is old, the son is not yet independent, and the man has always been an unreliable master, the wind chime can't help but tremble for the future life.
At the critical moment, it was the man who stood up, accompanied her, and gave her encouragement. The man said:
Don't have the baggage of thoughts, it's time to check it, it's time to check it, and even if it's bad and you need to have it removed, I won't dislike you.
The last sentence made the tears of the wind chimes flow out instantly. She checked the relevant information, and forty percent of the women who had undergone excision surgery were abandoned or betrayed by their husbands.
But the man was very determined, and after that, he pushed away all the dispensable things and wholeheartedly accompanied the wind chime to the doctor.
Fortunately, in the end, there was a false alarm, and the wind chimes were misdiagnosed.
The whole process is full of pain and entanglement, but the relationship between husband and wife has entered an unprecedented honeymoon period.
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Marriage is not only the matching of conditions and the exchange of interests, but also the union of two people's lives with each other.
In marriage, money is naturally very important, after all, money can solve 99% of life's problems.
But love and trust in marriage are more important. Marriage without love and expectation is either death or separation, and this is not so easy for most people to accept.
After all, people are emotional animals, and the cutting of a marriage is not something as simple as just talking.
In marriage, it is important for a woman to learn to love herself, but it is also important to learn her husband and learn to manage her marriage well.
Don't turn your home into a cold hotel, don't turn marriage into a naked transaction, all relationships, if only competition and calculation remain, only the game of interests remains, then you will only be hurt in the end.
Middle-aged When people reach middle age, they get older, and their experience must keep up.
The mentality of life and the ecology of marriage should also be adjusted and changed.
In this way, you will not live up to your years, your partner, and the feelings and efforts you have put in.