There is a unique funeral culture in Chinese civilization, emphasizing that the deceased is great and people-oriented. Therefore, when a loved one passes away, we don't have to dwell too much on their past, and even the grievances and hatred before death should be let go at this moment.
We must not confuse the dead with the living, and there are some contradictions that have not been resolved during the lifetime, and there is no need to continue to entangle them in the deceased. Whether it's a trivial contradiction or a deep hatred, the deceased will no longer perceive anything about their past.
The hatred of the enemy for the deceased does not dissipate with the passing of the soul, but for the family of the deceased, how to properly bury the soul is the most important. All over the world, both in the East and the West, people believe in reincarnation and look forward to the rest of the dead.
In the Chinese civilization, letting the deceased rest in peace is a respect for life, without life, the Chinese civilization will not be brilliant. The existence of life gives meaning to civilization so that humanity can avoid becoming the walking dead.
Therefore, the reason why the Chinese people are so in awe of funeral culture is because life is incomparably precious, and conscience and virtue are supreme.
Cherish the present, be kind to others, leave the beauty to your family, and have no regrets in life. The dead are gone, the living can only pray, and funeral customs become the way of remembrance. Going to the grave every year is not only a remembrance of the deceased, but also an expression of family affection.
When you are alive, you long for a place to live, and after you die, you also need a place to settle your soul.
Yin and yang are separated, and it is impossible to talk about the past with the deceased. On the occasion of burning incense and worshipping, we pray to the heavens that the deceased will not suffer again in the next life. However, there are also some taboos to avoid bad luck in the process of going to the grave.
These three taboos are not only respect for the deceased, but also reverence for the crystallization of the wisdom of the ancestors. Although the act of going to the grave is mysterious in the eyes of people, and some people will even describe it as feudal superstition, we should understand that funeral culture is not a simple product of feudal culture.
Mr. Lu Xun once said that we should "take the essence and remove the dross", and effectively screen the ancient culture, rather than denying it entirely.
Going to the grave to worship ancestors is a serious ritual that requires careful preparation and careful consideration, as it involves a relationship with the deceased and cannot be hastily done. In addition, holding a funeral and receiving praise from neighbors is also a manifestation of the hard work of striving for a good name and cherishing feathers during life, and even after death, it is important for the family to feel this respect and honor.
Therefore, going to the grave to worship ancestors and holding funerals are important traditions deeply imprinted in the hearts of the Chinese nation.
In order to make the funeral of the deceased more solemn and respectful, as family members, we will do our best to make all-round preparations to express our respect for the deceased. However, even if we are well prepared, there are some things that must be avoided, especially at funerals.
One of them is to try not to drink alcohol, as the meaning of a funeral is different from a wedding feast for the couple. If you act out of line due to excessive alcohol consumption at the funeral, it will not only damage the face of the host of the funeral, but also make relatives and friends feel embarrassed and uncomfortable, so it is obviously not worth the loss.
When attending a funeral, we should respect the deceased and the family and not make mistakes because of inappropriate behavior. Going to the grave is also a solemn occasion, and we should show our grief and not be too public.
These are all respects for the deceased and the occasion, otherwise it would be seen as disrespectful and deviant. If in the eyes of the older generation, these actions would be seen as disrespectful to the deceased and a lack of importance to the occasion.
There is an opinion that the soul of the deceased does not disappear immediately, but lingers in the world for a while, perhaps to remember the distractions and chaos of the world. If the undead see their own desecrated funeral at this time, it is unknown whether their souls will take revenge when they return to the ground.
The point is that doing so violates the principle of putting the dead first and is disrespectful to life. Every life deserves to be treated with respect and kindness, both during life and after death.
Therefore, on the way to the funeral or to the grave, we should all avoid overly ostentatious behavior.
Avoid overly bright colors such as red and green because people usually choose black and white for solemn occasions. Black and white, though plain, reveals elegance and shows deep respect for the deceased.
These two colors not only look calm and atmospheric, but also rich in depth. Wearing overly conspicuous clothing may embarrass the family of the deceased, while courteous elders may feel that it is detrimental to the family image.
There are many occasions in life where we can show our beauty, but on this special occasion, we don't need to express ourselves too much, otherwise it may give people a sensational feeling and maybe even make the family criticized.
A funeral is a solemn and sad occasion and is not suitable for young children to attend. Children's three views are not yet mature, and they may make some inappropriate actions. In addition, they are not as physically fit as adults and may get sick from the cold.
So let's let adults express homesickness, children's minds are not yet set, and it is better to keep them at home for the sake of their safety.
In this age where the devil is in the details, we can't ignore any of the smallest details. The preservation and preservation of traditional culture is crucial, but that doesn't mean we can't be flexible.
The improvisation of Chinese civilization is an important part of modern thought, and the funeral culture serves human beings with seven emotions and six desires, giving the cold culture a temperature. People-oriented has always been the soul of Chinese civilization.
However, when people are able to actively adapt to the development of civilization, it is also necessary to reform civilization appropriately. Civilization must keep pace with the times, otherwise it will be swept away by the tide of the times.
Man and civilization have always shaped each other, and both are indispensable. Civilization endows people with a rich and diverse spiritual world, and people promote the development of civilization through practical activities.
This mutually reinforcing relationship makes civilization indispensable. Although funeral culture may appear conservative and rigorous, it is also a reflection of human care and kindness.