In our work unit, there is an eldest sister who is usually low-key and unassuming, and seems very introverted.
However, when I got to know her better, I found that she has a very outstanding performance in work and life. Every leader highly affirmed her work ability, and her husband and wife relationship and the growth of her children are also very harmonious and happy. Despite being over 50 years old, she is not particularly beautiful, but she exudes a good temperament.
I found her to have several outstanding characteristics:
The first is that she pays great attention to the improvement of her own abilities. Although she gets along well with everyone, she doesn't get involved in gossip within the unit and doesn't talk about family trivialities. However, whenever someone asks her for advice on work, she is always able to say yes and give detailed answers, which benefits everyone who asks her for advice. In daily communication, she shares more inconsequential fun and delicious things.
Once, when I asked her curiously why she always knew how to be so silent, she told me very frankly: "It may only take a year to learn to speak, but it takes a lifetime to learn not to speak." In the small society of the unit, it is often useless to talk too much, it is better to remain silent; Less words are the most valuable. And, don't waste time gossiping, but study hard to improve yourself. "To my surprise, she quietly obtained her CPA certificate, which made me admire her dedication and self-discipline even more.
The second is that she pays a lot of attention to her image. Although she is over 50 years old, she may have gained a little weight in recent years due to her age, but she still maintains the image of a middle-aged person with a well-managed figure. Her dress is a role model for many of us professionals. Her outfits are generous and decent, with black, gray, and white as the main colors, and occasionally wear some Morandi colors. Every time you wear some silk scarves and other accessories, it always looks elegant and generous.
She told me that her clothes have been worn for many years, because her figure has not changed much, and the clothes she buys are simple and classic in style. It's very simple for her to buy clothes, which are to identify a few brands that suit her, which are basically monochrome and rarely have patterns. She believes that patterned clothing is more practical. By matching some accessories, such as silk scarves, scarves, brooches, etc., you can increase the layering of wearing. In contrast, I am often influenced by fashion trends and buy clothes that don't suit me, and my advice has benefited me a lot.
Thirdly, she attaches great importance to spending time with her children and will never make excuses because she is busy with work. Her children excel in their studies and life, and although she rarely confides in her colleagues about family matters, she is very attentive to her children's education. Every Sunday, it is a family day where the family of three shares their lives, learning experiences and communicates with each other. Her husband is also a family person, and he leaves work on Sundays to devote himself to the children. This harmony in family relationships also allowed her children to refrain from much rebellious behavior during adolescence.
In the end, she never disturbs the happiness of others. She believes that everyone's view of happiness is different, so you should not judge the happiness of others with your own opinion. She always told us to manage our own happiness and not disturb the happiness of others. I remember once when I was eating in the cafeteria, a colleague was wearing a newly bought ** bracelet, and one of her colleagues commented: "On the 20th anniversary of marriage, you should give an international brand, the gold bracelet is too cheesy." But the eldest sister stood up and said: "The key to gifts between husband and wife is to express love, not international brands." Everyone's view of happiness is different, and we should not judge the happiness of others by our own standards. Her words silenced everyone and deepened my admiration for her.
Manage your own happiness well and don't disturb the happiness of others, this is a truly amazing woman.
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