I'm 32 years old, and I insist on taking my vegetative brother and semi-self-care mother to marry, is it wrong?
My name is Xiaoyun, I was born in Shandong, and when I was a child, there were five people in my family, my father, my mother, my brother, my younger brother and me. Although life is not particularly rich, the family is happy and happy together.
No, when I was 11 years old, my life was completely rewritten because of an accident.
That year, my 8-year-old brother unfortunately died, and my brother was the most sensible child of the three of us.
Dad was so sad and mentally unhealthy that he became nervous and beat me and my brother at every turn, and every time my dad had a seizure, I was so scared that I ran away, and it was always my brother who suffered.
My brother and I lived cautiously every day, and after half a year, my mentally disturbed father was in bed and unable to move because of a car accident.
In the hospital bed, I lay on my father and cried, how I wished that my father would stand up, even if he beat me hard, I was willing.
But my father was never able to stand up again, and he needed to be fed every day because he had no teeth, and my brother and I had to chew every meal before feeding it.
At first, a lot of people talked about it, but my brother and I felt that as long as Dad survived, the most important thing was to survive.
After three years like this, I am also 14 years old, and I originally thought that under our care, my father would slowly get better.
But God seems to have deliberately can't get along with our family, and the originally crumbling family has once again made matters worse because of an accident by my brother.
This year, my brother was also in a car accident due to a traffic accident, and the moment my mother and I got the news, we felt like the sky was about to fall.
Luckily, my brother's life was saved, but unfortunately, my brother became a vegetative state, and he lay in bed as if he were asleep, refusing to wake up no matter what I called.
Mom washed her face with tears all day long, and her already weak body became even weaker, as if the wind would blow and she would fall down and never get up again.
A few months later, my father's condition deteriorated and I had to have surgery because my brother needed my mother's care, and I had to wait for my father outside the operating room alone.
I curled up and sat on the bench, praying over and over again, God, to make my dad well.
How lonely, helpless and scared I am at this moment, how I wish I could have someone around me to share some of the burden.
But the fate of the disease still ruthlessly took away my father's life......
After handling my father's funeral, my mother also seemed to be demented, often sitting alone in a daze, not talking, and not nursing my brother.
I know that my mother is uncomfortable, the three men I love the most, two left, and one was lying on the hospital bed and became a vegetative person.
However, I can't fall, now I am my mother's spiritual support, I endured my grief and pretended to be very strong to comfort my mother: "Mom, what about you and me?" Let's take care of my brother together, and my brother will definitely get better. ”
Since then, I have just turned 16 years old and dropped out of school to work, and the burden of family life has all been on my thin shoulders.
I went to work during the day and rushed home at night because I knew my brother and mom were waiting for me at home.
I never had my own spare time, and at first my colleagues would call me to go out to play or party, but I refused every time, and then my colleagues also knew about my family situation and stopped calling me.
When my brother had an accident for more than a year, he had a sputum aspirator during his time in the hospital, but later due to family difficulties, we couldn't afford to rent a sputum aspirator of several hundred yuan a month.
In desperation, I had no choice but to insert a tube into my brother's throat and use my mouth to help suck phlegm.
The first time I threw up, I vomited a mess, my stomach kept churning and I couldn't eat anything.
My brother himself is a patient, and he has been lying down, and there is a lot of sediment in his throat, and the strange smell makes it uncomfortable just thinking about it.
But there was no way, if he didn't do this, his brother would have difficulty breathing, and then he gritted his teeth and persisted for a few days, and he was no longer nauseous.
Fortunately, after a few months, my brother's condition improved, so he didn't need to suction.
At that time, it was only 2,000 yuan a month at work, and the family's expenses were not enough at all, to be honest, I was a girl, and I also loved beauty, but I hadn't bought a new dress for three years.
Later, someone introduced me to a boyfriend, and in order to date, I gritted my teeth and bought a 100 yuan skirt, and after I didn't want to come back, I was scolded by my mother.
She blamed me for spending money indiscriminately, and insisted that I return the skirt and buy a new one for 30 yuan.
In this way, my mother is still not satisfied, and keeps criticizing me for not doing this right, and not doing it well. I know my mother is scared that after I find a boyfriend, she and my brother will be left behind.
For this reason, the first boyfriend I talked to, under the interference of my mother, also ended up without a problem.
Many people around me saw me as pitiful, carrying so much at a young age, and persuaded me to push my mother and brother to the door of the welfare home and ignore them.
But I can't bear it, although my brother can't move, and my mother is also semi-self-care, but they are my only two relatives in this world, how can I leave them alone?
On this day, when I was cleaning up the sheets, I found a packet of rat poison under my mother's bed, and I asked my mother, "Mom, we don't have rats in our house, what are you buying this for?" When my mother heard this, tears flowed from her eyes.
I also instantly understood that my mother didn't want to be a drag on me, so I hugged my mother and cried and prayed: "Mom, you must not think about doing stupid things, you and your brother are the spiritual pillars of my life......."”
Our mother and daughter hugged and cried.
Since then, whenever someone introduces me to a boyfriend, I will tell them about the situation at home as soon as possibleAnd insisted, if you accept me, you have to accept my family, and after you get married, you have to take care of my brother and mother with me.
I know that this is a bit unfair to the man, and the job of taking care of people is not a day or two, it is a protracted battle, and it is difficult to do without strong perseverance.
But,I can't leave my brother and mother alone, and if I want to get married, I must bring them both with me, otherwise I will be in vain!
Xiaoyun is a very strong and loving girl, I believe that such a good girl will definitely meet the boy who understands her and can give her warmth.
I wish Xiaoyun and his family better and better!