Many parents feel that it is difficult for introverted children to have a good future, so they change their tricks to force their children to have more contact with society, and forcibly let them make friends, share, say hello, and perform in public, hoping that their children can be lively and outgoing. As everyone knows, this kind of compulsion will cause great psychological trauma to children, causing them to gradually reduce their recognition of themselves, become inferior and more introverted, and refuse or even fear interpersonal communication.
In fact, introversion is not a disadvantage and can also create infinite value. Take Bill Gates and Warren Buffett as examples, as a child, Gates did not like to take the initiative to contact people, was not good at talking, loved to study new technologies, liked to be alone and did not care about other people's opinions. Warren Buffett is also an introvert, who can spend hours indulging in a book with a model train, or quietly staring at a toothbrush given by his mother for two hours.
Introverted children may not be very expressive, but they are sensitive to the emotions of others and have a strong sense of empathy. Introverted children are good at thinking and are able to find more details and deeper meanings, which gives them a unique advantage in areas such as learning, research, and the arts. And, because they are able to focus their attention on what they are interested in, they often reach the state of self-forgetfulness. Their ability to work quietly on their own for long periods of time on their own can bring unexpected benefits to their children – perseverance, and good beginnings and finishes. In solitude, people are not disturbed by the opinions and ideas of others, and they think deeply. So, introverted children have an advantage in creativity and critical thinking. They may not be loud political leaders, but they may be the backbone of academia and think tanks. In psychology, introversion in children is generally divided into the following situations.
Social introverts. Such children are not shy or anxious in social situations, may even enjoy socializing, and may be more sociable than extroverts when around close friends. However, if they stay outside for too long, they will feel depleted of their emotional energy and no longer want to be around people. Therefore, parents should pay attention to not putting their children in an unfamiliar environment for too long, so as to maintain their children's interest and love for social interaction and avoid social anxiety.
Thinking introverts. Thinking introverts don't mind socializing either, but they prefer to immerse themselves in their own little world. They are very introspective, have unique thought processes, and are more attuned to their feelings than the average person. Therefore, parents should respect their children's choices, such as how to greet people, what kind of friends to make, whether to share their toys, etc., give them more space to think, but not interfere with their ideas too much.
Anxious introversion. Such children are always worried that they are not doing well enough, wondering what others think of them, and this overthinking may affect the normal flow of social interaction. Even with close friends, they are uncomfortable and crave solitude. Therefore, on the one hand, parents should accept and recognize their children's feelings, allow them to spend more time alone, and on the other hand, encourage children to take small steps, starting with small actions such as trying to share and say hello, and give timely encouragement when they do; Even if you can't, tell your child that Mom and Dad love you and that you have your own strengths and strengths to reduce your child's anxiety.
Restrained introversion. Such children do not like to change their lives, they are always thoughtful, they need to be informed and planned in advance, and they cannot change the arrangements at the last minute, otherwise they will feel very uncomfortable. Parents should see their children as individuals, discuss everything with them, and let them know the overall plan, and if they can be informed in advance, the child will feel safer. For example, say to your child, "Tomorrow we are going to a dinner party, there may be a lot of people you don't know, someone will ask you questions, you may feel nervous and scared, and if you don't like to say hello, it's okay to nod your head." ”
Psychologist Carl Jung said, "There is no such thing as a good or bad personality. Parents should respect their children's introverted personality and respect their characteristics and ways of understanding and thinking about the world, so that they can grow up to be people who love life and have a sound personality. ▲
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