Life and death".
The meaning of life and death is very large, because it is a rehearsal of death.
You're going to have a hard time seeing some people again, does that mean you've "lost" them?
Isn't it a big enough comfort for you to just know that the other person is still there, no matter how far away it is, there will always be a day when you will see each other again?
If you believe that human existence ends in death, then if a person is separated from you and cannot optimistically expect to meet again, and you know that they will eventually cease to be connected, then that person is essentially equivalent to actual death for you.
You are not parting in life, but in death.
This side is the last side of this life.
As a result, "graduation" has become the final farewell gift for at least half of the students. Not to mention graduation, leaving home in the future, colleagues leaving, lovers breaking up - especially lovers breaking up, all of them are not only life and death, but also death.
You can try to "stay connected", but soon you will find that no matter how much you try to strengthen your connection, you will eventually lose a large number of people. Besides, how much strength do you have to strengthen?How long can you strengthen?In particular, many of these people you don't want to lose will probably see your connection as pestering and intrusive.
Especially TA.
You may think, "Then I'll go the other way, I highly value the time together, and I don't want to be separated from me." ”
First of all, don't deceive yourself, you only have one kind of cherishing gear, the degree of cherishing you before is the degree of the greatest cherishing you can do, and you simply don't have the "more cherished" gear to be raised. The "decision" itself is nothing more than self-deception – you know it yourself.
Second, it is precisely your attitude of "absolutely unacceptable separation" that distorts the personality and status in the relationship. You want absolute insurance, you want proof of loyalty, you want to cast a name, you want a mortgage, you want a deed of sale. You have to eliminate the possibility of separation, and only when there is no possibility of separation can you set up camp.
And this so-called "elimination of the possibility of separation" is just a literal phrase of "capturing and handcuffing".
It is precisely this "do not separate" that causes others to separate from you.
Otherwise, why would you sigh - "Others are obviously not as precious as me, but they don't know the goods".
No matter how you look at it, there is no effective way to "solve" this problem.
Conversely, if you believe that the human soul is immortal. Then the whole formula is reversed.
There is no need to rush or panic.
The other party exists no matter what, and each other has a chance to see each other again no matter what. This is not even affected by the longevity of the person.
Since time is not an absolute obstacle, space is even less of a problem. All the people who have met you in the same world, those whom you already know exist, as long as you remember, recognize and are willing to recognize each other when you meet again, will never be separated from you in the strict sense.
To be in the same world is to be in the same place, to be the ultimate and eternal gathering. The distance between time and space is an empty concept for the infinite immortal soul.
As long as you know, remember, and are willing to be together, the immortal souls who have stepped into the same world will never be separated—for in infinite time everything that is possible will happen.
As you already know, the only two questions about separation or not are:
Have you decided to remember?
Would you like to meet again?
If you remember, if you will, then there is no separation. Whether it is life or death, it is all in vain.
You can then graduate with confidence, study abroad, break up, and leave the hospital with confidence.
As long as you think, you will not lose anyone, it is impossible to lose at all.
So, have you decided?Would you like to?