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Do you know that each of us has a journey on the way to find a partner, which is full of difficulties and pains, which is exactly the "battle of the night" that men and women show in the choice of partners?
Men have a significant desire to protect and take responsibility, which is the result of a long evolutionary process. Because of society's expectations, men are often seen as the main financial supporters of a family or group. As a result, men are more willing to accept and accept the opposite sex who are financially less privileged because this choice satisfies their need to achieve self-worth.
Plus men have less pressure to have childrenMen have more time and energy than women to improve themselves and improve their social status, so as to attract and maintain partnerships. Therefore, it is relatively easy for men to accept the opposite sex whose living conditions are inferior to their own.
In modern society, gaining a sense of accomplishment and success has always been an important factor driving men's actions. It's not hard to find that men tend to spend more time at work and in their careers. Therefore, even when looking for a partner, men seek out partners who will make them feel fulfilled, even if those partners are not of the same socioeconomic status as themselves. This is the modern social context of male "backward compatibility".
Men in this one"War"prefers to choose those women who are of lower social status or wealth than themselves in order to achieve self-worth and act as that"Heroic protectors"For example, Successful CEO, he accepted Mary, who was far less successful than him, as his partner, and he did not look down on Mary because her conditions were worse than him, but was full of tolerance and love for Mary. However, in the process, he also put in a lot of effort and sacrifice, endured great psychological pressure, and his pain was deeply hidden.
Women are more likely to "look upward" when choosing a partner than men who are "backward compatible". When choosing a partner, women usually choose men who are better or at least on par with them.
In contrast, women have a greater physiological cost in terms of childbearing, which makes them more cautious when choosing a partner. Women tend to pay more attention to each other's economic status and social status, which can provide better living security for themselves and their future children. In addition, women often quit their jobs temporarily or for long periods of time after marriage for reasons such as childcare, which also makes it even more necessary for them to have a partner with a secure economic and social status. Therefore, women's "looking up" is actually a strategy of self-protection, more like a plan and expectation for future life.
At the same time, women are usually more cautious in the marriage market due to physiological reasons and the influence of traditional beliefs. Especially in the modern world,With the improvement of women's status and the improvement of their sense of independence, women no longer only pay attention to the economic conditions of the other party when choosing a partner, but also pay attention to whether the other party respects them and whether they can resonate with them spiritually. However, although the selection criteria of women have changed, the basic principle of choosing the other party whose socioeconomic status is not lower than their own has not changed, which is the modern social background of women's "upward compatibility".
In contrast to the tolerant earth, women seem to be more fussy birds, and they tend to choose better branches to perch ontoost. Why do they prefer men with good conditions? Behind this, what kind of survival and female wisdom are hidden
And for women, choosing a better partner seems to be a survival instinct buried deep in their hearts. However, behind this seemingly rational and calm choice is also a silent struggle and pain. Because they know that choosing means sacrificing, it means giving up more possibilities that are possible. Their pain grows silently in the depths of their hearts.
between men and women", not just about the dilemma of men and women in choosing a partnerIt's about how we understand and respect gender differences, and how we deal with our deepest pain. In the relationship between the sexes, can we go beyond the traditional expectations of social roles to understand and respect everyone's choices? Are we able to accept and understand men?"Hero complex", female"Carefully selected"and see the bitterness and difficulties behind it?
This is undoubtedly a question worthy of deep reflection by each of us. Because it is on the basis of understanding and respect that we can get out of this"The Battle of the Night"to achieve gender equality in the true sense of the word. Only in this way can our society achieve fundamental peace, harmony, justice and freedom. Let's stop holding men hostage"Heroic protectors"Under the role of women, fall into"Carefully selected"The dilemma gives everyone the right to freely choose their own life and become their true self.
It's a long and difficult struggle, but I firmly believe that as long as everyone is brave enough to face themselves and understand others, we will get out of this"Dark night"and welcome all of us"Dawn"