When I was a child, my mother used to take me to company parties, and I got to know the daughter of my mother's boss, a big sister who was 6 years older than me. We often played together, and I pulled the corner of her clothes and ran happily with her.
As we got older, our contact gradually diminished, and we only occasionally heard about my sister from my mother. I heard that she once had a relationship, but was opposed by her family, who thought her boyfriend was unreliable. However, the older sister in love chose to run away from home, live with her boyfriend, and cut off contact with her family.
Half a year later, my sister returned home with her luggage, and the family said that her boyfriend had abandoned her sister. But my sister firmly denied it, saying that her boyfriend was just going abroad to work, and he would come back to pick her up and go to the United States in 10 years. Seeing this, the family didn't say anything more.
Today, I am married and have a family, and my sister is still single. I heard that in the early years, she was disgusted with her family's blind date arrangement, and insisted on waiting for the man who said he would come back to pick her up.
But now 10 years have passed, and my sister no longer has expectations, so she obeys the family's arrangement.
It's just that the current sister seems to have been disappointed in love, and when she goes on a blind date, she talks more about the conditions of both parties and the life plan after marriage, but she doesn't show much interest in the blind date.
There are many people who say that my sister is stupid, and they say that when they hear the so-called "go abroad to work and come back in ten years", they know that it is an excuse to break up.
There are also people who feel worthless for their sisters, and feel that a good sister paper has been deceived by a scumbag, but she is still stupid and doesn't know.
It is said that a woman in love has zero IQ.
In fact, a woman in love is not a low IQ, but is overinvested in a relationship, so much so that she can't believe that some reasons for separation are actually excuses for the other party.
There was a WeChat comment that asked: "He proposed that it is for my good to break up now, and he thinks that long-term pain is better than short-term pain." Should I be with him with confidence, or should I swing my sword and slash the thread as he wishes? This kind of confusion has also been experienced by Bao.
Po and her ex-boyfriend were college classmates and have been in love for three years. She had dreamed of spending the rest of her life with him when she graduated. However, on the eve of graduation, her boyfriend proposed to break up on the grounds of "for your good", claiming that the future is full of unknowns, and long pain is better than short pain. Po was sad but accepted.
However, less than a month after the breakup, Po found that her boyfriend and her schoolgirl had been ambiguous for a long time. In order to hide her sadness, she frequented the bar, but met her current husband Peng Xiang there. Although Peng Xiang has always stayed away from entertainment venues, he often goes to bars in order to protect Bao.
Ah Bao and Peng Xiang spent the wind and rain together, and finally entered the marriage hall. Po once used her ex-boyfriend's words to comfort herself, thinking that a breakup was inevitable. It wasn't until she spent her life with Peng Xiang that she understood that true love is not afraid of the future and will find solutions to problems for each other. People who love each other do not break up because of disagreements, but tolerate each other and make concessions.
Po's experience tells us that long pain is not as good as short pain is not necessarily the truth. True love requires both parties to work together to face difficulties and challenges.
Someone asked: "He said that we are not suitable to be boyfriend and girlfriend, should I still insist on redemption?" ”；
Someone asked, "He's going to break up with me because his parents don't approve of us being together." What should I do? ”；
Someone else asked: "He admits that he loves me, but he says he loves freedom more." He also asked me to wait for him for 2 years, and then come back when he matured. Am I going to wait for him? ”。
There was a saying circulating on the Internet: "There are thousands of excuses to separate, but there is only one reason not to separate." ”
If he loves you, he will try to overcome any problems he encounters, and will never sacrifice the love between you and succumb to fate.
But if he doesn't love you, everything that happens between you can be a reason to break up.
If you miss a ** from him, he will feel that you don't care about him and are not the considerate lover he wants.
You love to read, he loves to play basketball, and he thinks that you have different interests and are not suitable to be together.
Even, if you have never met his family, he thinks that his parents don't like you.
Even, before the future comes, he said that there is no future between you, and barely being together will only end in tragedy.
I know that in fact, women's IQ is not low. And no matter how low the IQ of a woman in love is, it is not that she can't see through her lover's lies.
The reason why a woman asks these stupid questions is just because she doesn't want to see the two people who were in love at the beginning fall to the point of mutual suspicion, and she doesn't want to see the man who swore that he would love her for the rest of his life and regret it in a blink of an eye.
So, if you're smart enough, what you need to do is not to question the man face to face when he says these "reasons" for the breakup, nor to blindly believe his rhetoric and save the love on your own.
What you need to do is to respect his choice and accept the fact that they are separated from each other.
Then try to improve yourself so that when you see him again in the future, he will regret his decision and regret the fact that he didn't love you enough with these unreasonable excuses to break up.