I, a girl born in 93, with a height of 172 and a face value of 7 points, is from a second-tier city, but I am struggling in the life of Beipiao. Now that she has reached the age of establishment, she is still a young woman with no three lives, and she can only barely make ends meet.
Looking back, I feel like I lived blindly. With a score of 520 in the college entrance examination, I entered the junior college by mistake. After work, although I was recognized by my leaders and colleagues, I kept changing positions to find a position that suited me and liked.
In the eyes of my friends, I was excellent and good-looking, and I thought I would meet the right person. However, the cruelty of reality has gradually made me sober up. The double blow of the epidemic and the economic situation has made me deeply aware of my vulnerability.
After the depression, I started a new life. Working in a relatively easy and simple clerical job in a small company, the friendliness of my colleagues and leaders helped me gradually recover. But anxiety is still there: job instability, difficulty in changing jobs, and lack of advantage in the marriage market.
In order to change the status quo, I tried various methods. Participate in sewing courses and hope to have a skill; I am preparing for graduate school while working, hoping for a better future. However, after the exam, I fell back into fear and anxiety about the future.
Now, I'm still confused and don't know what I really want. Perhaps, this is my biggest problem. In this big city, there are thousands of people like me, and we are all trying to find our own happiness. Hopefully, we can all find our own future.
I received a lot of suggestions from my friends. We have selected some representative comments to share, in addition to giving the questioner an encouragement, but also to let everyone feel this energy.
Give me some insights.
First question, I think Leng Da's concept of ordinal position can be well explained to this point. Parents are parents, and children should treat them as they do to their parents. It doesn't matter if they give their brother a little more or less. Yes, it should be. But parents are also just parents. You have great expectations that your parents will give you material things equally, which is why you are so disappointed at the moment. Parents give to whom they are free, and it is their freedom to dispose of their property, and it is not what should be given to their children in the first place. The gift will definitely be uneven, there is a confirmation of love, and it is okay if there is not. And you improve your parents' lives by living together, and I feel that you want to show that you are good to your parents in this way, and you actually want to get feedback from your parents, which is not ashamed, but this thought may make you unhappy. I hope you can be nice to my parents when I want to be nice to them, regardless of whether they will give me things like they would for my brother. If you can't, you'd rather follow your heart and not push too hard.
The second point is that by describing the subject, you may be a little bit kind to the boy, and you are eager to have a relationship, and you also have a lot of expectations. And I feel that the subject has a kind of urgency to start a family. I strongly advise the subject not to have an intimate relationship with any boy for the time being. Now you are in an unstable state, you can't attract good boys, and you will only sacrifice yourself to short-term men. Work hard to have a career, and when your heart is full, you can start a family with others.
The third point is that if the heroine wants to understand why she wants to change careers, she can choose to save money to study when her career encounters a bottleneck. Every industry is not easy to do, and there is a high probability of jumping from one mud pit to another if you rashly change careers. I didn't do well in the field I was deeply engaged in, and I lost my foothold in a new field.
There are a lot of things, and the questions are going to be broken one by one, bless you.