Do you want to help your friends?
Many people feel that it is because they are too kind, so friends will never refuse to ask for help, and they will be taken advantage of by friends, and they are very angry afterwards but don't know how to deal with it.
In fact, there is a reason why this kind of person does not dare to refuse others, and he feels that he is at a loss afterwards. The first point is that this kind of person is not confident in his heart and is afraid of losing others.
You must know that it is because you are afraid of losing others in your heart, and you are not independent in personality, so you dare not refuse, which is the lowest problem.
For example, when a child is young, he must listen to his parents, because he knows that the cost of rejecting his parents is very high. When the child grows up, you will find that it will be easy for him to reject his parents.
The second point is not to label yourself as a good person, first of all, let yourself be an independent person. Why are some people so easily taken advantage of? There is a saying that says it well: a small good is a great evil, and a great good seems to be ruthless.
For example, sometimes what seems to be a small kindness is taken advantage of by others and does something meaningless. You could have saved time to spend time with your family, or to do your business, but you were taken advantage of by your friends.
You have to know that some people have no bottom line, they could have spent one or two thousand yuan to hire a nanny or temporary worker to do something, and he asked you to do it, or even asked you to do work such as moving.
He's just using you as a temporary worker, so you have to understand a lot of things. I have two pieces of advice for these so-called "kind" people.
First, it is recommended that you learn to be independent in personality, dare to refuse others to be yourself, and do your best, which is the premise. Then don't pretend to be a "good person", it doesn't matter if you are a "good person" or not, first of all, it is important to be an independent person.
Don't label yourself first and be the so-called "good guy" in front of your friends. You want to be a "good person", but others think you are a bully.