Dictation: Mr. Chen.
Author: Xiaoya.
On the third day of the Lunar New Year, I went to the cemetery located in the county alone.
I came to a cemetery, looked at the two **s on the tombstone, stretched out my hand to caress it, and muttered to myself.
Wife, son, I've come to see you, are you doing well underground? Where do you have the New Year? ”
On the left, the tombstone of my only son and my wife, who died 7 years ago, and on the right, is the tombstone of my wife, who died five years ago.
Old woman, the reason why I buried my son here in the first place was because I thought that when we were older, we would go back to our hometown in the countryside to live, so that we would want to come and see our son, which would be more convenient。When people are old, they also want to return to their roots, and I also want to be buried with my son, so that I can continue to take care of my son after he dies. However, now, I regret it, and I feel that although this is my hometown, there is no place for me to stay. ”
Originally, I thought that although my son was gone, I still had a younger brother and a nephew, and when I was old, I could go back to my hometown in the countryside to support the elderly, and I could rely on each other. Since my son is gone, my little nephew has also mentioned to me many times about pension, patting his chest and promising to provide for me.
At that time, when I heard this, I felt very relieved, thinking that I had not hurt my little nephew in vain. When my son was alive, I also loved my little nephew very much, not only gave my little nephew a generous amount of New Year's money every year, but also often bought things and sent them back.
When my brother's family cried to me that life was sad and my little nephew had no money to study, I often lent them a helping hand, not to mention the money lent back and forth, but at least 100,000 yuan, and they never paid it back.
Originally, I didn't think there was anything wrong with this, but recently I found out that my nephew's so-called pension for me is actually just an excuse, and their real purpose is the property I have worked so hard for.
I am 59 years old this year, and my younger brother is three years younger than me.
My mother passed away due to illness when my 10-year-old brother was 7 years old, and since then I have taken on the responsibility of the eldest son and taken good care of my younger brother. When we got married, my dad couldn't hold on anymore and died.
After burying my father, my brother and I hugged each other and cried, choosing to go our separate ways. My younger brother decided to stay in his hometown in the countryside, first farming for a living, and then, with my support, opened a restaurant in the town, earning barely enough money to support his family.
I went south with my relatives and started from scratch with my wife. After decades of hard work, our business improved, we got a house in the city, saved a fortune, and raised our son.
Under our training, my son is very good, not only admitted to a key university, but also has a very high income. Eleven years ago, my 25-year-old son got married and married his college classmates, and I pooled money with my in-laws to buy them a wedding house in the city.
The year after my son got married, my daughter-in-law gave birth to a granddaughter, and the old woman and I were very happy to bring them the children so that the young couple could work hard with peace of mind. Originally, we thought that we could live the rest of our lives and help take care of our granddaughter, and when we needed someone to take care of us, we could naturally get the filial piety of our son and daughter-in-law, but there were unforeseen circumstances.
Seven years ago, my little granddaughter was only two years old, but my son had an accident. That day, my son was on a business trip and was involved in a traffic accident on the way back. When we arrived at the hospital, the doctor's sentence "I'm sorry, we did our best, please mourn and change" made me feel like I had fallen into an ice cellar, and the old woman passed out.
I went to the morgue and looked at my son, who was cold and had his eyes closed, unable to say a word. At that time, I felt like the sky was falling.
After her son left, the old woman collapsed, and she fell seriously ill, and her physical condition became extremely bad in an instant. Although my daughter-in-law and I tried to take care of the old woman, the loss of her son caused the old woman to go insane, and eventually, in the third year of her son's death, my wife left a suicide note and committed suicide.
In the suicide note, the old woman told me many times that she was sorry, saying that she had broken her promise and was going to leave me, but she really didn't have the courage to live, she was worried about her son under Jiuquan, and hoped that I could live well and watch my granddaughter grow up**.
I buried the old woman in tears, buried her and my son in my hometown county, and then, I took out my savings to pay off the mortgage of my son's marriage house and gave it to my daughter-in-law, as if I paid for my son's granddaughter's child support.
I told my daughter-in-law that I knew she was still young and that it was cruel to her to ask her not to remarry. I don't ask for anything else, I just ask my daughter-in-law to raise my granddaughter, so that my granddaughter can marry a good family in the future and live a happy life, so that my son has a queen, and my daughter-in-law tearfully agreed.
After my daughter-in-law left, I lived alone in the old house, living a life of two points and one line. In fact, I have long lost hope in life, but my granddaughter makes me worry, I want to hold on until my granddaughter grows up**, watch her be admitted to college, marry a wife, have children, and can take on her own life, so that I can go to see my son and give an explanation to the old woman and son.
Since the death of my son, my brother's family has called me every once in a while, shushing me and asking for warmth, chatting and chatting about the matter of pension, and telling me not to worry, my little nephew will provide for me.
The little nephew is 32 years old this year, and although he was admitted to university, the school is not very good, and the income is not very high. I married my daughter-in-law three years ago, and I am currently working outside with my daughter-in-law and have not yet bought a house.
I know that with my little nephew's financial situation, it is not easy to take on the responsibility of supporting the family, and even my younger brother and daughter-in-law may not be able to count on them, let alone me. At that time, when I heard the words of my brother's family, I was more relieved and didn't say much.
In any case, my brother's family is one of the few relatives I have in the world, so over the years, I have been back to my hometown a lot, and I have had more contact with my old family. The more contacts there are, the more things will happen.
For example, I learned from a relative that my younger daughter-in-law once told my niece and daughter-in-law in order to let her little nephew marry her daughter-in-law: "Although we don't have money, my son's uncle does!" His son is gone, his daughter-in-law has remarried, he has a house and a car in a big city, and he has savings, which will definitely be my son's in the future. You marry my son, aren't all these yours? ”
When I heard this, I was very angry, and at that time, I had hopeful that it was a lie. However, my relatives said this, which made me feel very uncomfortable, after all, my son's death was my biggest scar, but my brother said this, how could I accept it?
A month ago, at the warm invitation of my younger brother, I returned to my hometown in the countryside to celebrate the Chinese New Year with my younger brother's family. Half a month ago, I overheard my nephew talking to my niece and daughter-in-law, and I realized that what my relatives and friends said was true.
My niece and daughter-in-law are pregnant, and I say to my little nephew, "I have children, when can I live in a big house?" Why don't you talk to your uncle and ask them to support us in buying a house? ”
The little nephew said: "I originally thought about it, but I thought about it again, even if my eldest Berken lent us money to buy a house, it was only a down payment, and we could still afford a few thousand mortgages?" ”
The niece asked what to do, and the little nephew said his plan:"I discussed with my parents, and planned to go to work at the uncle during the Chinese New Year, and I told the uncle in a few days, saying that I was worried that it would be inconvenient for the uncle to live alone in the city, and I wanted to take care of the uncle. As long as he agrees, we will stay in his house. When you give birth, we will take my parents over on the grounds of taking the baby to confinement. In this way, isn't the uncle's family our family? Aren't we going to live in a big house? ”
The little nephew also said that when they lived under the same roof with me, they would have more opportunities to talk to me about the elderly, persuade me to give them more benefits, and when the children need to go to school, they will find a way for me to loosen my mouth and transfer the house and get the house.
I have felt heart-rending pain five times in my life, two times when my parents died, once when I lost my son, and once when my wife left, and my little nephew's words were undoubtedly invisible blades, cutting my heart to pieces.
On the second day of the Lunar New Year, they really brought the topic to this matter as planned. The little nephew said, "Uncle, I have quit my job, and I want to go to work with you for the Chinese New Year." ”
I remained silent and asked why, the little nephew said that it was mainly because I was worried that it would be inconvenient for me to live alone, afraid that something would happen to me, and wanted to take care of me, and my younger brother and daughter-in-law and niece and daughter-in-law also echoed on the side, saying that with the little nephew by my side, they were relieved and asked me to agree to let the little nephew live in my house.
I sighed, feeling so chilled that I finally saved a little face for them, and did not expose their true thoughts, but only refused on the grounds that I was used to living alone and did not want more people in the family.
They probably didn't expect me to refuse, first stunned, then didn't give up, continued to try to persuade me, and didn't let go when they saw me, my brother was anxious, and roared: "You are so unreasonable, what will you do when you get old?" Who are you going to rely on? ”
At this point, I could no longer show mercy, stood up, and turned to leave. Before leaving, I told my brother's family: "My current property is all the hard work I have with the old woman, and it originally belonged to my son." Now my son is gone, but he still has a daughter, and these are my granddaughter's in the future, don't worry about it. As for my pension problem, don't worry about it, if I can't move, I'll go to a nursing home, I can afford it anyway. I have made a will, and when I die, I will give all the rest of my property to my granddaughter.
I walked away, letting my brother's family scold me behind my back, and never looked back. After that, I came to the county seat, stayed in the county seat for two days, paid homage to my wife and son, and now I have returned home.
I thought clearly, from now on I still don't want to interact with my brother, I am afraid of such a relative who is worried about my property, and I really can't afford it.
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