My mother-in-law came to my house to care for the elderly, and my sister-in-law's family also moved in, and my husband supported me to blow them away
My mother-in-law took my sister-in-law's family to spend her old age together, I don't want to live together, my husband can't tolerate it, and I can't compromise!
My name is Xinyi and I am 38 years old. My parents gave me this name in the hope that I could live a happy life, but the reality of marriage made me feel ashamed of this name full of beautiful meanings.
My family lives in a third-tier city, and I am the only daughter in the family. My parents poured all their love into me alone.
In the group of college fellows, I got acquainted with Sun Yi. Because we had the same last word in our names, we were impressed with each other.
Then it developed into cliché dates, dinners, and since we were both in the same city, we chatted very closely. A few months later, we were in a relationship.
I have a sister-in-law who is a little restless. Sun Yi's family is in the countryside of our city, and in addition to her parents, she also has a younger sister named Sun Ting. She didn't go to school again after graduating from junior high school, and she felt that going to school was in vain, and she couldn't get into college anyway, so it was better to earn money in advance. Sun Yi's parents have pampered her since she was a child, and she can only decide by herself.
When Sun Ting was a teenager, she followed adults to school in the town to sell clothes. She is very eloquent, and she is good at dressing, which has attracted a lot of business to her boss.
Over time, she catches the attention of some of the town's thugs, and at a young age she falls in love with an unreliable young man. When Sun Yi's parents heard about this, they hurriedly found a few uncles from their family to come to town and dragged her home. After eating and drinking at home for several months, she slowly broke off contact with the gangsters.
Sun Yi and I got married, and after graduation, we found a job in the city, our lives gradually stabilized, and preparations for the wedding began.
The in-laws mentioned financial difficulties, saying that it was difficult for the family to provide much dowry, and they could only come up with 5,000 yuan. This made me feel helpless for a while, and the banquet money and bride price seemed to be stretched.
When complaining to his parents, they understood that Sun Yi's family conditions were limited, and it was difficult for the two children to accumulate wealth with limited land. They supported me, but also reminded me to think twice.
Despite this, I am reluctant to give up my relationship with Sun Yi for many years. His gentleness, thoughtfulness, and kindness to me made me reluctant to let go easily. Not only is he progressing in his career, but he is also someone I am willing to rely on for the rest of my life.
My mom told me that as a daughter in the palm of their hand, they couldn't bear to see my quality of life decline because of marriage. Although he reminded me, he finally supported my decision.
We rented a two-bedroom apartment, had a simple wedding and started our happy life. Soon, we welcomed the birth of our daughter.
However, my mother-in-law refused to come and take care of me during my confinement because of the patriarchal attitude. When I was pregnant, Sun Yi couldn't take care of me at all times due to work. My mom hasn't retired yet, and she can't come over at any time.
Faced with such a predicament, Sun Yi tried to ask her mother-in-law to come over to help, but was refused. In order to ensure my health, my mother had to cook for me every day at noon and evening, and come back on weekends to help clean up.
Luckily, after a month, I was able to get out of bed and eat normally. During the birth, only my parents and Sun Yi were around. After her daughter was born, Sun Yi called her in-laws, but the other party did not respond much.
Everyone guessed the reason, and I reluctantly asked the confinement lady to help. At the end of my confinement, I decided to quit my job and concentrate on taking care of my children at home. On weekends, my mom would come over to help out so I could have some time to relax.
As time passed, my daughter grew up and was about to go to kindergarten.
We decided to buy a new home. In recent years, Sun Yi has worked very hard and accumulated a lot of funds through commissions and year-end bonuses. We discussed and decided to buy a school district house in one step to prepare our daughter for school in the future.
My parents were very supportive when they learned that we were planning to buy a house, and generously used their savings of 300,000 yuan to help us pay for the down payment. After comparing different locations, floor plans and floors, we quickly chose a house of our choice. With the support of his parents, he is still short of 150,000 yuan to complete the down payment.
So, Sun Yi called her in-laws and asked if she could provide some funding. When my mother-in-law learned that we were going to buy a big house of more than 100 square meters in the city, she was a little surprised, and she seemed to find it hard to believe that we had so much money. Sun Yi explained to her: "Mom, plus the 300,000 yuan given by my mother-in-law, we are still 150,000 yuan short of enough, see if the family can support some." The money was borrowed from you, and I will pay it back to you as soon as possible. ”
However, the mother-in-law responded: "We have money to lend you, and we won't grow much money on those few acres of land at home!" It's like your mother-in-law who eats national food, and there is still income every month! ”
After hearing this, Sun Yi asked, "Didn't you lend tens of thousands of dollars to the second uncle's family a few years ago?" At that time, he took 20,000 yuan from me and lent it to him, did he pay back the money? ”
The mother-in-law was a little embarrassed and said, "I haven't paid back this money!" ”
Then I'll call the second uncle and ask to see if he can make up something? Sun Yi made a suggestion.
Don't, don't ask, he doesn't have any money! The mother-in-law responded.
How do you know he has no money? Sun Yi asked.
Alas, I'll tell you, your second uncle's money will be returned to us the next year. ”
What about the money? You can give me the 20,000 you took from me, I'm really in a hurry to use it! Sun Yi said anxiously.
The money is gone, and your 20,000 is gone! The mother-in-law replied bitterly.
Yes? What happened? What's wrong at home? How can it cost so much money? Sun Yi was stunned.
It's all paid off to Sun Ting's family! It's all to blame for this dead ghost gambling money, making people block the door to ask for accounts, Sun Ting was so frightened that she ran back to ask us for money, saying that if she didn't pay back the money that day, she would set the house on order. We hurriedly withdrew the tens of thousands of dollars to her to pay off the debt. ”
Why didn't Sun Ting call the police? When did this happen? Why didn't anyone tell me? Sun Yi asked in shock.
What to call the police? We can't resist those people, even if the police come, Sun Ting's family will have to go to prison for gambling. At that time, they were able to arrest all the people who wanted to pay the accounts, but as soon as they were released from prison, it was better to take the lives of Sun Ting's family! How can I tell you this kind of ugly thing again, Sun Ting won't let me say it. ”
Originally, I just wanted to borrow some money from my in-laws, but I accidentally revealed a huge secret, Sun Yi was so angry that my hands trembled, and I didn't dare to speak easily, after all, this is the first time I have seen him so angry!
In desperation, I could only call my parents and ask them to help borrow 150,000 again.
On the day the purchase contract was signed, my husband said, "This is our first new house, write your name!" ”
I made the decision, put your name on this house, and when we buy another one, we will write our names on it! ”
Oh my God, dear, you're so good, you still have plans for a second home! ”
Of course, I promised you that I would give you a good life and not break my promise. Since you married me, whether it is a wedding, giving birth to a child, or taking care of a child, I have seen the dedication of you and your parents, especially this time to buy a house, my father-in-law and mother-in-law helped with more than half of the down payment, I will not be ungrateful, write your name on the real estate certificate, but also for your protection! ”
Listening to what my dear said, I couldn't help but wet my eyes with tears, and I really wished my parents would hear this promise.
Not long after our mother-in-law moved into our new house, my mother-in-law called Sun Yi to ask for money, "Sun Yi, now that we are old and in good health, you have to give us 3,000 yuan a month for the elderly." ”
Mom, what does this mean? Pension expenses? You're only in your 50s, so talk about pension so early? ”
We have worked hard all our lives to raise you two, and now we are always uncomfortable and unable to move. ”
Mom, you know, we just bought a house and borrowed a lot of money, can you wait for me to slow down? ”
You have to buy a house only if you have money! Your salary is so high, the leakage between your fingers is enough for me and your father's pension. ”
Alas, Mom, how can you say that? More than half of the money we paid to buy a house was helped by our parents-in-law, and we need to pay it back. The expenses when we get married are also paid by our parents-in-law, so what's the use of our 5,000 yuan! We have money, and I have earned it through hard work! The dear's tone grew more agitated and his voice grew higher.
In order not to scare the child, I carried my daughter into the bedroom, and although the door was closed, I could still hear my dear talking.
Raise you so that you can finish college, and we will also pay! ”
Mom, if you say that, I'll really have to sort it out for you. In the four years of college, I only paid the tuition fee in the first semester of my freshman year, and I earned the tuition fee for the other years by working part-time, and I never asked you for a penny. On the contrary, what about Sun Ting, think about it, how much money has been spent on her over the years? I used to give tens of thousands of dollars to my family, did I give them all to Sun Ting? ”
What's wrong with her? I can't watch my daughter suffer at her in-laws' house! Don't give me some useless! Starting next month, 2,000 yuan per month will be transferred to your dad's card! ”
Well, okay, 2000 is fine, it's better than nothing. The mother-in-law heard the dear's impatient tone, and hung up after speaking.
I walked out of the bedroom slowly, and my husband looked at me with a guilty face: "Daughter-in-law, my mother has to ask me for 3,000 yuan of pension money every month. ”
I also heard that my parents can't work anymore, and we should really take the monthly pension money. ”
If they really need it, I'll give it with a tight hand. Their physical condition is not so bad, I also took them to have a physical examination a few months ago, except for my father, who has a little problem with the blood vessels in the brain, everything else is fine. The pension money she wants today is likely to be stuffed into Sun Ting's pocket again, her family is really a bottomless pit! ”
On the 1st of the second month, after playing **, Sun Yi transferred 2,000 yuan to her father-in-law's account.
Half a year later, my father-in-law suddenly died of a cerebral hemorrhage.
My mother-in-law, who is in her 50s, came to my house to care for the elderly and lost her husband, and her mother-in-law was too lonely at home, whether her husband was at work or resting, she often called him **, which was some trivial things, but the implication was that she wanted to come to the city to care for the elderly.
My husband understood what his mother-in-law meant, but because of my daughter-in-law, he didn't express his position directly.
Although it should be natural for my mother-in-law to come to my son's house to care for the elderly, I don't think I'm a person with a small belly, but I don't want her to come.
Back then, my in-laws were willing to give us a little more money for our marriage, not to mention the bride price. From the birth of my daughter to the full moon wine, I saw my granddaughter once in total, and I also disliked the girl and urged me to have a second child. Two mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law who have never lived together suddenly live together, conflicts are inevitable, I really don't want to live a miasma, and it is not beneficial to my daughter's growth.
The mother-in-law came by herself, and one morning, there was a knock at the door. When I opened the door, my mother-in-law came with a full load and decided to move in to support the elderly!
Since we came, we couldn't send it back, so we had to pack up a house for her to live in. Maybe it's the first time we arrived, but we got along well and lived peacefully.
A few days after the mother-in-law showed unusual behavior, the house and the outside became familiar, and the mother-in-law began to become self-willed.
Breakfast should be eaten outside, saying that the breakfast at home has not changed much, and the elderly should enjoy life, and should be eaten in a different way every day.
Sun Yi didn't eat at home at noon, and she couldn't eat too greasy food, so she only made two vegetarian dishes, and then made dishes with meat when Sun Yi went home to eat in the evening.
I don't think that's going to work, the child's nutrition has to keep up.
What nutrition do girls need? When you grow up, you're someone else's family! "Not only did she say I could do anything, but she couldn't tolerate her saying that my daughter wasn't.
Mom, your daughter is also a girl, why do you always post it upside down like this? Sun Yi is also a girl, why don't you hurt him? "I can accept her saying I can do anything, but I can't tolerate her saying my daughter.
How can there be a daughter-in-law who talks to her mother-in-law like this? That's enough, it's hard to say. Sun Ting is a girl, and I have a son, do you have a son? ”
Finally, she showed her true colors. Seeing her being unreasonable, I picked up the child and went downstairs, I didn't want to wait for her anymore, what do we like to eat and buy outside!
In the evening, my husband worked overtime and didn't come home for dinner, so my daughter and I didn't come back until dinner at my mother's house.
My sister-in-law's family unexpectedly decided to stay for a long time, and the next morning, I chose to enjoy a leisurely natural awakening and planned to take my daughter out for breakfast.
In my dreams, I heard a burst of voices coming from my house. No, my husband didn't come home last night, and my mother-in-law should be the only one in the living room.
Sensing that something was wrong, I hurriedly got up and opened the door, only to see that the living room was already full of several large bags of luggage, my sister-in-law and her husband were stepping on the clean carpet in front of the sofa with their shoes on, and the two children were playing happily on the sofa without taking off their shoes.
Oh my God, this is **? Is this still my home? A wave of anger surged into my heart, and I tried my best to restrain myself, "Sun Ting, why are you here?" Is this moving? Hurry up and let the child come down, the shoes have not been taken off, and the sofa cover is too difficult to wash. ”
Sister-in-law, you are at home, hurry up and make us something to eat, starved to death, came early in the morning by the car from the village into the city, and did not eat at all. ”
Go buy them soy milk fritters, Sun Ting likes to eat this the most! "My mother-in-law instructed me.
Mom, I still have to get your granddaughter out of bed, you can encourage them to eat! "I pulled the kids off, took off my shoes, and went back to the bedroom.
It's a mess, it's really a mess! I calmed my anger a little.
My daughter woke up and asked me curiously, "Mom, who's out there?" ”
I replied, "Today my mother will take you to the small park to play, you can play as long as you want." The daughter jumped happily on the bed.
My mother-in-law was in charge of the house and drove our family to live in a small bedroom. When I was dressing my daughter, I heard Sun Ting say, "Mom, which room do we live in?" That's not enough to live, huh? ”
My house has three bedrooms and two living rooms, I live in a large bedroom with Sun Yi and my daughter, my mother-in-law lives in a small bedroom, and one is a study.
There are four of you, live in your brother's big bedroom, let them live in my small bedroom, that bed can sleep three people, I sleep in the small bed in the study, this is just right. "Mother-in-law is arranging the room.
As soon as I heard this, it turned out that Sun Ting was planning to live for a long time, and my mother-in-law's abacus sounded, and she drove our family to the small bedroom, and my house was going to be surnamed Sun!
This is too serious about yourself! Mistress - I, I'm still at home, I'm still here, when will it be her turn to tell the fingers!
If you are in a hurry, the little white rabbit can also defeat the old fox. picked up the mobile phone and sent a voice message to her husband, telling him the current situation at home, and handed her daughter a box of milk and a picture book, telling her, "Wait a minute, mom will take care of something and then come to dress you, don't go out of the bedroom." ”
When I opened the door, I bumped into my sister-in-law who was about to carry my luggage into our bedroom, touched my forehead, and pushed my sister-in-law out and closed the door hard.
What is this for? What are you doing! What about usurping family property? Your brother isn't dead yet! ”
What do you say, sister-in-law? Don't curse my brother! ”
Didn't you tell your brother to hurry up and squeeze us all into the hut? ”
Isn't it just a place to sleep, isn't it the same as sleeping in a big house? "Mother-in-law came out to play round.
My home, why should I make do with it? "I won't let me say a word.
It's your home, but it's also our home, the house belongs to my son, I'm, you have to listen to me! "The mother-in-law is unreasonable.
Hey swarthy, who told you the house belongs to your son? How much money did you take to live here? You didn't take a penny when you bought a house! For Sun Yi's sake, you will be exempted from living for a few days before you live, from today onwards, if you want to live with me, 100 yuan a day per person, come on, pay the money first and then stay! "I'll come as much as I talk angry, I admit it, it's a big deal to be sent to the hospital in a daze, I pay for the medical expenses, and I can't let them be so domineering in my house!
After saying that, I reached out to them and asked for money.
Phew, you live in my son's house and ask me for money! The mother-in-law was a little trembling with anger, "This is his brother-in-law, sister, and nephew, I think who dares to ask them for money?" ”
Don't live here if you don't pay for it, there are many hotels outside. "It is estimated that Sun Yi is almost here, and I have to delay a little longer.
Why stay in a hotel? Why should I stay in a hotel when I come to my son's house to care for the elderly! ”
Do you think it's appropriate to retire in your 50s? My parents are older than you and still working. Could it be that your old grandson family has a gold mine or a silver mine, and retired so early? Or do you think your son took the opportunity to dig up the golden pimple? ”
You, you, you unfilial woman, what else will you do besides giving birth to a girl**? I, I, I'll let Sun Yi come, I'll let Sun Yi divorce you, and we'll find a successor who can give birth to a grandson! The mother-in-law was so angry that her hands trembled and she hit her son **. As soon as it was connected, it was hung up, and it seems that my husband has arrived at the door.
Sure enough, there was a sound of unlocking, and my husband came back.
After listening to her husband's words, her mother-in-law and sister-in-law sprinkled all over the ground. Looking at the mess of luggage on the floor, the various shoe prints on the sofa, the mud stains on the carpet, and the mother-in-law's red face with anger, my sister-in-law staring at me fiercely as if she wanted to dig out my heart, liver, spleen, lungs and kidneys, my husband understood that a war was breaking out here.
The whole family looked at him, and he calmly changed into slippers, walked up to me, and asked me where my daughter was? I pointed to the room and told him that my daughter was okay and would not come out, so he found a chair and sat down.
Sun Ting, why are you here today? ”
I'm here to see my mother, I haven't seen my mother for a few days, I miss her a lot! The sister-in-law replied with a pout.
See you now, mom, let's go! "My husband is still calm.
I'm not leaving, where my mother is, I'll be there! ”
Just as I'm going to send my mother to your house, you're with her every day! ”
I'm not going back, I'm going to retire here! **Don't go! The mother-in-law said with her mouth shut.
I'm not going back, you see my husband and your nephew are here, and we're looking for jobs in the city and letting the kids go to school in the city. Sun Ting said.
Yes, yes, Sun Yi, isn't this a school district room? It's time for the eldest of Sun Ting's family to go to elementary school. Just let him go to elementary school with you! ”
My husband took a deep breath and calmed down his emotions, you're all done, it's time for me to say:
Mom should be here to support the elderly, as a son I can't get rid of her, but Mom, you can't be disrespectful to the old. I have the obligation to support you in old age, but ten years to see your mother-in-law and ten years to see your daughter-in-law, think about the big and small things that have happened since we got married and bought a house, how do you and your father treat your daughter-in-law? I don't need to go into details, right? Also, my daughter also has a name, not called a girl**, if your old man continues to be patriarchal, please forgive me for not being filial! Sun Ting, I bought this school district house for my daughter to go to school, and there is only one school place in this suite, so I can't promise my nephew to go to school here. If you are going to live here for a long time and work to earn money, please go out and rent a house, you can't live in my house. Come and visit, I welcome. This is the most important point, this home is mine, but the house is in the name of my daughter-in-law, and she has the right to decide everything about this house, because the money to buy the house is from my parents-in-law. So, Mom, if your daughter-in-law doesn't want to, you really can't live here for the elderly, either I'll send you back to your hometown, or I'll rent you a house nearby. ”
My mother-in-law stared at Sun Yi with suspicion on her face, then turned to look at me, and suddenly, she was lying on the ground and rolling around, and cried: "Oh my God, this is simply forcing me to be cornered!" Wife, take me away quickly, I really can't stand it......Her cries rose higher and higher. The sister-in-law ignored her mother, sat on the side, patted her legs and began to cry as well.
Sun Yi sat there quietly, although she couldn't see the expression on her face, she must have been exhausted by these two women in her heart.
On the side, the brother-in-law and the child sat on the sofa, intently scrolling on their mobile phones, glancing over here from time to time, as if they were no stranger to this kind of scene. They may have become accustomed to such family strife.
I turned around and walked into the bedroom, closed the door, took out the title deed from the drawer, and dialed the property's **, while continuing to dress my daughter.
The mother-in-law and sister-in-law were evicted from the house. Soon, the property and community security came to my house, I showed them my ID card and property deed, told them that someone had trespassed into the resident's house and asked them to deal with it.
The security guard put the luggage of the mother-in-law and sister-in-law in the elevator room, but they still stuck on the ground and refused to leave. Eventually, the security guards had to take them out. The brother-in-law felt embarrassed and pulled the two children to leave first.
The husband handed the security guard 200 yuan and begged them to help find a taxi to take the family back.
Closing the door, I looked at the chaotic home, felt a trace of guilt in my heart, and said to my husband, "Am I going too far?" ”
My husband responded: "Although you didn't say it, I have seen my mother-in-law's attitude towards you and your daughter at home these days." ”
You, how do you know?"I was a little confused, after all, I didn't want my husband to delay his work because of these trivial matters, and there were some things I didn't tell him.
Have you forgotten?The confinement lady invited in the confinement, did I install a camera at home?I didn't expect it to come in handy this time. I was on my way home just now, but I saw the live broadcast, I didn't expect you, who are usually gentle, to be so eloquent in a quarrel!My husband said teasingly.
You're such a scoundrel to watch me quarrel with my mother-in-law!I couldn't help but smack him hard, "However, I was really nervous at the time, and I kept wondering why you didn't come back yetWill you blame me?Later, I completely let it go, after all, in the face of my mother-in-law and sister-in-law, I really didn't have any confidence at all. ”
Don't worry, even if it's my mom and my sister, I won't let them be unreasonable. "My husband comforted me.
Eventually, peace and beauty were restored to the home.
There is a concept known as a "sense of proportion" and that we all play different roles at all stages of life and in different contexts, and we must be clear about our boundaries so that life does not get out of order.
Instead of dwelling on being a parasite for others, we should live independently, not dependently on others.
Whether it is parents or siblings, if they blindly cross the line, it will inevitably arouse the disgust of others. In relationships, it is crucial to know restraint, and over-dependence can lead to chaos in life.