In the world of emotions, women are eager to find a way to be able to firmly eat the hearts of men. And the "abandoned cat effect" may be one such method. The so-called "abandonment effect", simply put, is to make men realize your importance by "giving up". In a relationship, the right use of the abandonment effect can make it easier for you to take the initiative. 
The origin of the abandoned cat effectThe concept of the cat abandonment effect stems from people's observation of cats. When a cat is abandoned and then adopted, it becomes extremely dependent on its owner, because for it, it loses its former dependence and cherishes it when it has it again. In the world of feelings, when a person is ignored or given up in a relationship, he may have a strong ** because of this, and cherish the feelings he has more. It can also be understood as "wanting to catch and indulge". How to use the abandoned cat effectThe "abandoned cat effect", also known as "desire to get away with it", is a psychological tactic that some women usually use in order to attract men's attention and make them compromise for something. For example, they may threaten divorce or breakup to put pressure on men to achieve their own goals. However, this strategy is not clever. Truly clever desire to capture is unobtrusive, imperceptible, and can develop in a predetermined direction. 
Moderately lukewarm:In a relationship, it is necessary to maintain a certain distance and coldness appropriately. This is not to say that you should be cold and unforgiving to the other person, but that you should show your independence and autonomy at the right time. Don't always revolve around each other, but also have your own life and hobbies. This will make the other person aware of your importance and will also increase the sense of mystery in each other. Emphasizing self-worth:In the process of using the abandoned cat effect, emphasizing self-worth is very crucial. You have to make the other person understand that you are a person with your own personality and value, and not an appendage who is completely dependent on the other person. Only when you respect and love yourself will the other party cherish you more. Seize the moment:When using the abandoned cat effect, timing is very important. Sometimes, using this method too early can make the other person feel ignored and left out, and using it too late may be ineffective. Therefore, in practice, you need to judge when to use this method on a case-by-case basis. 
In the hit drama "The First Half of My Life", the third party Ling Ling is a master of using the "abandoned cat effect" perfectly. Chen Junsheng didn't seriously consider divorce and was in a state of hesitation, while Ling Ling was well aware of his psychological state. Although she hoped in her heart that Chen Junsheng would take the initiative to file for divorce, she understood that this matter could not be rushed, especially not by herself. So, Ling Ling skillfully showed the great pain she endured for this relationship, expressed the emotional dilemma of being suffocated by love, and even on the verge of collapse and unable to continue, and expressed her willingness to choose to endure the pain in order to prove her deep love for Chen Junsheng and let him return to his original life track. The more Ling Ling showed her determination to abandon everything and leave resolutely, the stronger the guilt in Chen Junsheng's heart became, and the more urgent the desire to keep her became. After Chen Junsheng was deeply touched by this emotional fluctuation, Ling Ling took a moment away at the right time to let him truly experience the taste of losing her, which further strengthened Chen Junsheng's determination to divorce. During this period, every step Ling Ling made was a well-thought-out strategic layout, and Chen Junsheng walked into the trap that Ling Ling dug for him step by step, and he couldn't help himself. 
The true meaning of emotionAlthough the "abandoned cat effect" can help women gain more initiative in their relationships to a certain extent, in addition, true love should be based on mutual respect, trust and understanding. In addition to the appropriate use of the "abandoned cat effect", it is also necessary to understand the feelings and needs of men in a timely manner, and only under the premise of mutual support and care can a truly stable and happy relationship be established.