A woman who makes men obsessed knows how to grasp men's weaknesses
In the consultation room, one of the questions I often hear from female clients is: How can I make men unforgettable? People in love have a heart that cares about each other, always wants to understand each other's dynamics, and wants to see each other every day.
Even before going to bed at night, the tone and demeanor of the other person are in my mind.
How to make a man obsessed with you is not only to attract their attention for a short time, but also to know how to use their weaknesses and use them skillfully in daily interactions.
If a woman is able to make a man obsessed with her, then she must not be just because she is beautiful or gentle and considerate, but because she possesses a deeper level of charm.
Therefore, if you want to manage love for a long time and make a man miss you, you need to discover and show your unique charm.
We all understand that the key to success is not what mistakes we avoid, but what we get right. In love, quarrels and boredom are common and trivial things, and selfishness and lust are also normal manifestations of human nature.
If a woman can make a man still miss him years later, then she must have taken advantage of the weakness of human nature and grasped the key crux of the matter.
Next, let's share an example of "obsessiveness" from a male perspective.
How to understand men's persistence and persistence in love.
When Wang Hao graduated from college, he broke up with his girlfriend due to a misunderstanding and has never seen each other since. This lovelorn experience caused him to fall into a trough, and it took him a full 3 years to slowly come out of the pain, and he lost nearly 20 pounds.
Even after work, Wang Hao will inadvertently inquire about the news of his ex-girlfriend from others, claiming that he has let go on the surface, but in fact he has never forgotten it. Last year, his ex-girlfriend got married, and Wang Hao finally made up his mind and quietly participated in his ex-girlfriend's wedding.
Stinky boy, he actually married the person I love the most. "Through this case, we found that there is a general nostalgia in human beings. From a psychological point of view, nostalgia, as an emotional experience, can help us beautify the past in our memory, filter out the parts that are more relevant to ourselves, and retain the beauty of the past.
Therefore, nostalgia has a certain dissipating, repairing and compensating effect on negative emotions, bringing us emotional satisfaction and comfort.
If you want the other person to remember you for a long time, you need to "fall in love with human nature" and discover and exploit the other person's weaknesses. First of all, we need to understand that people are selfish, even in love.
Therefore, don't expect the other party's sweet words to be more than your love, accept this reality in order to better grasp the initiative in love.
Some women tend to lose themselves in a relationship and pay too much attention to each other's needs and expectations. The idea of what she is like in the eyes of the other person will only make women lose their uniqueness in the relationship.
The only woman who makes men forget is always the kind of woman who is independent and only works hard for her own life. If you want a man to be obsessed with you, it is essential to establish a sense of "self-centeredness".
I hope that women can truly realize that their own affairs are the most important.
Live your life and pursue your life prospects. Take care of your priorities and focus on relationships and men. Don't rely too much on others, but think for yourself.
Only by understanding human nature can we better understand love. Girls who are able to focus on their own growth will attract more happiness around them and make the people who have been with them unforgettable.
Don't be afraid to be yourself in a beautiful mess and show your vulnerability, which will make you more authentic and appealing. Remember, your value should not be defined by others, but created by yourself.
END - Author |Tommy edIt doesn't rain Reference: Bruk, A, scholl, s. g., bless, h. (2018). beautiful mess effect: self–other differences in evaluation of showing vulnerability. journal of personality and social psychology, 115(2), 192-205