I don't know if you've ever heard of the term "dog name", which is an Internet term used to refer to people who do not make a good impression on others, repeatedly lower their dignity, and make a warm appearance. His cold ass. In love, there are people who will sacrifice everything for their partner and let go of themselves, but such people are often not valued. In fact, we should not be stingy in any relationship.
Why not be a slut? Human beings are inherently strong-willed, so everyone wants to be with talented people, and no one likes to be with humble people who have no principles and no ideals. The more humble you are, the easier it is for you to be despised, and the more unprincipled and bold you are, the easier it is for you to be taken advantage of and harmed.
This is a story I once read. There was a girl who loved a boy very much and did a lot for him. She brought breakfast to the boy every morning, tutored him with his homework, and didn't even let the other boys chase him. However, the boy was hot and cold towards her, and sometimes lost his temper with her. The girl was sad, but she chose to endure it anyway. She felt that if she was good enough, one day the boy would fall in love with her. However, this is not the case, and the boy ends up dating someone else.
This story tells us: in a relationship, if you always give alone, but the other person does not respond accordingly, you will become cheaper and cheaper. Your kindness and devotion may be taken for granted in the eyes of the other person, and they may get tired of it. Therefore, we must learn to love ourselves and not impose our happiness on others.
Actually, we shouldn't be stingy, not only in love, but also in other relationships. For example, at work, if you always unconditionally accept the tasks assigned to you by the leader and dare not refuse the requests of your colleagues, you are a "good person", and others will easily bully you. Do yourself a favor and stop working more. In interpersonal communication, if you always cater to others and are afraid to express your thoughts and opinions, others will think that you have no opinions and will not take you seriously.
So how can you avoid being a stingy guy?
First, we need to learn to love ourselves, respect our own feelings and needs, and not make ourselves wrong in order to respond to others.
Second, we must have our own principles and ultimate goals, and we cannot easily compromise or make concessions. We must be brave enough to say "no" when others violate our principles or ultimate goals.
Finally, we need to improve our self-worth, become better and more confident.
Jane Eyre includes the following lines: ".
Do you think that I am poor, humble, unattractive, insignificant, without a soul or a heart? You're wrong. I'm just like you. "A lot of souls are filled with hearts. If God had given me a little beauty and a lot of money, it would have been as hard for you to leave me as I am for you now. "I'm not talking to you. This is a norm based on social life and customs. My soul is speaking to your soul.
This sentence shows that everyone is equal, and no one should look down on or belittle themselves because of their origin, status, or other factors.
We must learn to love ourselves, improve our self-worth, become a better version of ourselves, and be more confident. Only in this way can we earn the respect and attention of others and build truly beautiful relationships. Remember, if you bloom, butterflies will come, and if you are great, God will arrange it.