Born in a famous family, his daughter is well-known, he has been arrogant all his life, and he died in a foreign land
Hu Shi once praised Huang Yifan: "She is an unconventional lady. "Growing up at the intersection of the old and the new, she has an open mind, an independent character, and a resolute resistance to the constraints of traditional bad habits.
Huang Yifan, the first divorced woman in modern China, her life was full of the pursuit of freedom, and with her courage and determination, she traveled all over the world to finally realize her yearning for freedom.
Although Huang Yifan is wrapped around a pair of small feet in the ladies of the ** wealthy family, she seems to be bound by the feudal cage, but her free and easy, longing for freedom, arrogant, sassy, and pungent personality makes it difficult to ignore her unique personality.
She is not an ordinary lady, she is Huang Yifan, an informal woman.
At that time, Huang Yifan was one of the few new-minded women who had received a new education and was open-minded, and she hated the vulgarity of the old society. After getting acquainted with Hu Shih, her thoughts were deeply influenced by Hu Shih, and sometimes Hu Shi was deeply impressed by her unique insights. ”
Huang Yifan longs for freedom and independence, she is unwilling to be bound by feudal traditional customs, and is always eager to break free from the cage and break through herself. In 1922, the Huang family's main house died in Shanghai, which undoubtedly brought new opportunities and challenges to Huang Yifan.
This means that most of the Huang family's property goes to Huang Yifan and her younger brother. So, Huang Yifan got some valuable jewelry. coincided with Huang Yifan's sister-in-law going to study abroad, and Huang Yifan had money and opportunities in her hands, so she had the idea of going with her sister-in-law.
Despite the opposition of the Zhang family, Huang Yifan was determined to go. However, the response to this decision came sooner than expected, but it made her worry about her two children at home. In the days leading up to her departure, she would always weep silently in bed.
Eileen Chang once recalled the scene of her mother lying in bed, describing it as a green boat drifting in the endless turbulence of the ocean. Eventually, my mother bought a ticket to England and left her home in search of her heart's freedom, England.
However, Huang Yifan did not speak English at this time, and only sold some antiques before embarking on the journey.
When Zhang Ailing was only 4 years old and her son Zhang Zijing was only 3 years old, the departure of her mother Huang Yifan made them feel both familiar and unfamiliar. Later, Huang Yifan went to England, where he had close contacts with Xu Beihong, Jiang Biwei and other cultural people.
In addition to studying, Huang Yifan is also keen on skiing and dancing, and has a colorful life. In the upper class of London, she was dressed in a gorgeous cheongsam and enjoyed her freedom and love of life to the fullest.
Huang Yifan was born in a famous family, and his father once held important positions in the late Qing Dynasty. However, she grew up in an incomplete family. My father contracted an illness on his way to Guangxi and died young in less than a year at the age of 30.
Although she never met her father, she became a widow at an early age. Huang Yifan's mother was pregnant with a dragon and phoenix fetus, of which the girl was Huang Yifan and the boy was Huang Dingzhu. However, since her mother's status is a concubine, her status is obviously not comparable to that of the children of the main house.
Huang Yifan's childhood was not happy, but as a lady, her identity was not affected. Her delicate figure and elegant temperament made her worth twice as she grew up.
At the age of 22, as a famous daughter, she married Zhang Tingzhong, also known as Zhang Zhiyi, the grandson of the famous minister Li Hongzhang. Her marriage has been blessed by fame, and Zhang Zhiyi's family wealth is comparable to hers.
In her eyes, Zhang Zhiyi is a literati with a melancholy temperament and a love of recitation.
Every day, he enjoys poetry and songs alone in his garden, immersing himself in them. Time flies, and Huang Yifan gave birth to Zhang Ailing and Zhang Zijing successively. In the eyes of others, the union of this couple is like a match made in heaven, which is enviable.
As time passed, Huang Yifan gradually realized that there were huge differences in their views on life, and it could even be said that they had nothing in common, and often quarreled over trivial matters of daily life.
In the days that followed, Zhang Zhiyi completely exposed his outdated and rotten ideology.
Huang Yifan once commented that he was unbearably old-fashioned, unwilling to change, and stuck to his comfort zone. However, in the four years since Huang Yifan left the UK, Zhang Zhiyi has not changed and continues his bad habits.
In Zhang Ailing's memory, every week, a new female member will be welcomed in the family. At the same time, her father often smokes Y tablets with his fox friends.
This absurd pattern of life continued in Zhang Zhiyi's life for several years. However, he has no love for Huang Yifan, who is alone in a foreign country.
It was only after the abuse of the Y film that he almost lost his life that he realized the importance of his family, so he wrote to his wife, promising to completely reform himself, quit bad habits and give up taking concubines.
At this time, Huang Yifan was at a low point in his life.
She had spent four years in England and amassed a considerable fortune by buying and selling antiques. However, is there any difference between this kind of old life and those who live at home?
After all, there comes a time when antiques run out. During this time, she has been thinking about this problem, holding Zhang Zhiyi's letter in her hand, and thinking about her child.
The words in the letter were earnest, rekindling Huang Yifan's extinguished hope. She silently thought to herself, "It's time to go back." "Maybe Zhang Zhiyi has changed.
After Huang Yifan returned to her hometown in Tianjin, she felt intolerable about the chaotic environment at home. So she asked the family to move to a garden villa in Shanghai.
The environment is very elegant, with greenery and flowers, full of life and energy.
Huang Yifan's aesthetic concept is perfectly reflected in the flowers and plants in the garden, in which she often grows a variety of beautiful ornamental plants. Whenever the breeze blows through the flowers, she sits in a chair and enjoys the peace and harmony.
Every flower, every grass, fills her heart with peace and joy.
As a child, I had the privilege of witnessing a unique performance that was the pinnacle of aesthetics in my life. My mother sat on the piano bench with a chubby aunt, mimicking the love scene in the movie, and their smiles, movements, and voices seemed to transport me into a dreamlike world.
Sometimes, my aunt would play the piano next to me and my mother would sing along, and the soulful and romantic atmosphere is still fresh in my memory. At the same time, Huang Yifan also attaches great importance to the education of her daughter Zhang Ailing, and she knows the importance of knowledge and culture for a person's growth.
Eileen Chang's mother not only wants to make up for the unfair treatment she has suffered, but also wants to rebel against traditional injustice in this way. Therefore, Zhang Ailing's learning path was completely unfolded under her mother's planning.
In order for Zhang Ailing's younger brother to receive an education, Huang Yifan has to monitor his learning goals and report on them every day. However, when she tried to send him to elementary school, she was opposed by Zhang Zhiyi.
From this moment on, the gap between the two sisters and brothers gradually widened.
Zhang Ailing's childhood was full of happiness because of her mother's company. However, two years later, after her father Zhang Zhiyi recovered from his illness, not only did he not get rid of his bad habits, but instead intensified them.
Not only did he not pay for the family, but he also forced his mother Huang Yifan to pay for it.
The conflict between them stems from the scramble for money and the clash of values. Men try to deplete a woman's wealth so that she can't leave, and women can't tolerate men's profligate lifestyles and negative attitudes towards life.
This divergence of values has led to the intensification of their contradictions.
She eventually couldn't stand seeing Zhang Zhiyi smoking drugs in bed, so she decided to take action. She knew the process of marriage abroad, so she hired a lawyer to draft the divorce agreement.
However, Zhang Zhiyi does not seem willing to sign and tries to salvage the relationship.
Huang Yifan said firmly: "My heart is like hard wood. Soon after, she successfully divorced through legal channels, becoming the first woman in China's history to actively seek a divorce and succeed.
Although there is an opportunity to break through the shackles of the family, Huang Yifan still can't let go of his concern for his children. At the time of the divorce, they agreed on an agreement that the two children would live with their father, but could visit their mother frequently, and that Huang Yifan would need to be consulted on the issue of the children's schooling.
In this way, Huang Yifan can not only pursue his own life, but also ensure the growth and happiness of his children.
With the wealth of her marriage, she once again embarks on a journey around the world. This time, she followed her inner voice and spent a year on a stylish trip around the world.
After Huang Yifan's divorce, she was always surrounded by wealthy businessmen and military officers who were willing to serve her, but she seemed to just wander between different men and didn't care about marriage. This may be because she thinks very highly of herself and thinks that she doesn't need a man to live a good life.
Huang Yifan didn't want to sit on the empty side by selling antiques, which made her feel miserable. In 1937, when she returned to China to visit her two children, she found that Zhang Ailing had just graduated from high school.
So, she gave Zhang Ailing a dilemma: either continue her studies or enter the palace of marriage as soon as possible.
Zhang Ailing chose to face difficulties and actively solve them. Huang Yifan did not hesitate to spend ** to ask foreign teachers to help her with her math courses. However, the outbreak of war disrupted their plans for life.
Huang Yifan failed to realize her dream of letting Zhang Ailing study abroad, and instead sent her to Hong Kong. From this point, it can be seen that Zhang Ailing's mother is a person with a contradictory personality.
She knew that her mother's purpose in returning to Shanghai was to repair her relationship with her children.
When she really needs her help, she shows arrogance and coldness. The mother's suspicion, indifference and selfishness gradually eroded her daughter's expectations for life. This kind of scene made Zhang Ailing more and more silent.
It didn't take long for Huang Yifan to leave the house again.
While pursuing a free life overseas, Zhang Ailing left the mark of living with her sister-in-law in China. In the ups and downs of life, Zhang Ailing's feelings for this mother became complicated when she was growing up, with deep love and hatred.
Zhang Ailing was self-reliant and self-reliant, and finally repaid her mother's debt for her to go to school when she was able, avoiding emotional entanglements with her mother. This kind of self-reliant and self-reliant personality may have been cultivated under the persecution of his mother Huang Yifan.
Therefore, in her work "Little Reunion", there is a plot where the daughter gives her mother two taels of small gold bars, and laughs politely and distantly and says, "I have been spending your money for so many years, and I have never been happy".
Wong Yifan was deeply in love with someone when she was in France, and in order to raise capital to go to Singapore to start a leather business, she did not hesitate to sell some antiques. However, at the end of 1941, the Japanese occupied Singapore, and her lover was tragically killed.
In the days that followed, Huang Yifan decided not to accept love anymore and chose to be celibate.
Although his wealth in Paris was lost due to World War II, Huang Yifan's life in the following life can be described as miserable. As a lone person overseas, she tries to find work to make ends meet, but more often than not, she relies on selling antiques to make ends meet.
Huang Yifan's life is full of contradictions, and her relationship with her daughter Zhang Ailing, as well as her attitude towards money, all reflect her inner struggle. Although she thinks of herself as high and looks down on money, she can't leave it.
When her daughter Zhang Ailing had become famous, someone suggested that she go to her daughter, but her arrogance made her unable to accept this suggestion.
After Zhang Ailing went to the United States, the relationship between the mother and daughter was severed. When Huang Yifan's life was dying, she left a letter for Zhang Ailing, but Zhang Ailing, who received the letter, did not meet her mother as agreed in the letter, but only sent her a check.
Huang Yifan's life came to an end before the check arrived, and the dispute between mother and daughter disappeared. That year, Huang Yifan's arrogant soul finally left this world.
Huang Yifan, a woman in the new era who bravely broke free from shackles and pursued self-independence, her career is admirable. In the next 30 days, let's record life together in Toutiao and challenge ourselves.
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