It is estimated that many friends know a bad habit, that is, in some places, girls are not allowed to eat at the table, either in the kitchen, or when the man finishes eating, eat some leftovers or something, in short, men and women must be treated differently.
As a result, a female Internet celebrity went to her mother-in-law's house for the first time during the Chinese New Year, and she encountered the treatment of not being able to eat at the table.
I have always felt that it may be the case in some rural areas, but how can there be a similar situation in 2024, 10 years ago, I had an aunt's sister who found a husband in Rizhao, Shandong, because her first child gave birth to a daughter, so she was not allowed to eat on the table during the New Year, and the second child gave birth to a son before she was allowed to serve it, and I only learned about this custom two years ago, which refreshed my three views.
Of course, this matter should be seen as such, all men go out to socialize, so the guests are men, and men and women are awkward at a table, so it is also the men in the family who go to chat and eat with them, in fact, it is said that the men accompany the men to eat, but the men in their own family don't move their chopsticks much, they only eat with the guests first, and now there are so many things.
Therefore, before getting married, it is best to see clearly what the other party's family is like, and don't think that you can overcome all problems with love, some problems are simply unsolvable, just like a poor family is still a bunch of poor and exquisite.
Some netizens also said that she had also encountered what happened to this girl.
This is the kind of bad habit in some places, and so is my husband's grandmother, who obviously has a large table and a lot of vacant seats, but this old lady just refuses to eat at the table.
She had to eat the leftovers from the previous few days in the kitchen, and they were all finished, and her grandchildren were helping to collect them, so she had to tell them to rest, and then asked her daughters to clean up with her.
Eating a good meal is also, we all sit and drink tea and eat snacks and chat, there is air conditioning in the house, she will not pay more air conditioning fees if she is alone, she has to sit in the kitchen alone to do things, there is nothing to find things to do, anyway, can not rest.
In the afternoon, everyone went to take a nap, she cleaned up, wiped the floor, obviously very sleepy but also hard, sometimes dozing off while wiping the floor, the waist was fractured, and she had to endure the pain to work. Her children were very filial, and they told her to rest well and stop working, but they didn't listen, and they didn't go to bed until after eleven o'clock at night, and got up at five o'clock in the morning.
I estimate that most people have personally experienced this custom when they returned to their hometown when they were young, and some people should have experienced it when they got married and returned to their parents' home.
Of course, some places are more tolerant, and they didn't use this kind of rule to restrain me as a guest at the time, but I saw four or five older women sitting by the stove with a bowl to eat, and one of them was even a gray-haired grandmother, which was outrageous, and the most outrageous thing was that my relatives were very proud when they explained it to me, and it was disgusting.
Some netizens also said that they also have similar customs, but we are women and children who have a separate table, and it is not leftovers, they are all fried twice at a time, and if there are too many, fill the table with a little bit for the male guests.
If it were me, I would throw 2,000 yuan on the table and ask if there was enough place to eat? This kind of person who wants face will definitely not accept it, so I will give him face, so I will just say that I will not let the person who is on the table, that is, not give us New Year's greetings, and take my family directly.
If there are too many people to sit down, I will take the initiative not to sit at the table, after all, when I am young, I usually let guests and elders sit (regardless of gender), but under normal circumstances, there is no such place and family that does not allow women to serve the table, everyone should stay away.
Although some places feel that women and children are on the table, taking care of the children while eating, the etiquette is not thoughtful, and the children are screaming, and the perception is not good.
But now who still thinks that it is a burden for girls to eat on the side, no one is bad at that meal, but many people's minds have not been corrected.