We know that many children love their mothers very much at first, and since when do children start to hate their mothers.
When I was a child, my child admired my mother very much, listened to all my mother's opinions, was very close to my mother, and often clinged to my mother.
What puzzles many mothers is that they have paid so much for their children, but their children begin to hate themselves.
No matter how much mothers please their children, how good things they buy, go to restaurants to eat delicious food, and buy expensive shoes for their children, they can't make their children like themselves.
At this time, the relationship between the child and the father is much better than that of the mother, and many mothers can't stand it, obviously they pay the most, but the child is close to the father.
Maybe the reason why there is little nagging and discipline from the father, at this stage, the child feels freedom and distance from the father, and the suffocation feeling of being under the same roof with the mother is unbearable for the children and really wants to escape immediately.
1.Caring too much about grades.
Because the mother's ability is not enough, she hopes that her child can study hard and have a good future in the future, which will cause the mother to pay attention to the child's learning, staring at homework, staring at the grades, and overwhelming the child.
2.Too many bundles.
We usually reprimand, nag and blame our children more, and even control them more strictly.
Mothers participate in their children's learning and life in every detail, taking care of all the big and small affairs, even sacrificing their own time, but the more we do this, the more children will rebel and hate.
*。3.Mothers will vent their bad emotions on their children.
Mothers vent their emotions on their children because of their bad emotions, and the children take on the role of garbage cans, or morally kidnap the children and be sad with themselves, otherwise the children will not be filial to themselves, and the children are so young that they have to bear the mother's emotions, which is too distressing.
4.Strong desire to control.
Forcibly arrange your child's work, life, making friends and other things, and hope that everything for you will develop according to her vision.
Some mothers will control their children's lives, even what clothes they wear to work, they have to interfere, what kind of friends they make, and if she buys you something, they will also control you, instead of really giving, such parents feel really depressed and even bored.
5.Won't communicate.
She often complains and loses her temper, and the conversation always revolves around her.
Many mothers are not very good at communicating, after all, she has not learned to communicate in her original family, and all topics are her own words, and she does not discuss them with you at all.
6.No ability to empathize.
Not seeing your emotional needs will not comfort you, and in turn will make you responsible for her emotions.
When you are sad and sad, when you are depressed, when you cry bitterly, mothers will not empathize and comfort their daughters.
7.It feels like her love is conditional, and she will only be loved if she meets her standards, otherwise she will not be loved.
8.Doesn't respect your independence, thinks you are an extension of her life, and always imposes her own will on you.