I was very dissatisfied with the thought of my daughter-in-law taking leftovers to send me away, and I planned to wait for my son to come back from work to educate my daughter-in-law together.
But what I didn't expect was that when my son sued, he said something that surprised me.
In our time, very few people could go to university. But luckily, I was one of those few. After graduating, I also got a job with an iron rice bowl.
Not long after, under the introduction of a colleague, I got married and had children.
Originally, my husband and I planned to wait for the policy to open up and have another one. But the world is unpredictable, when the son just turned four years old, her husband died in a car accident.
Since then, I have been raising my son on my own. Many people persuaded me to remarry, but I was reluctant because I was afraid that my son would be insecure.
Although my salary is not small, it is not enough to splurge it, so in order to prevent my son from developing the habit of spending lavishly, I taught him to be thrifty from an early age.
Mom is tired of feeding you alone! Can you save and not add to your mother's burden? "I've been talking to my son since he was just a year old.
Looking at him as if he didn't understand, I thought to myself: it's okay, take your time.
Since then, whenever my son wants to buy toys or snacks, I will teach him that it is not easy to make money, and not to spend it on things that do not matter.
But I'm not always so my son, sometimes I see that he is doing well, and I will take the initiative to ask him what he wants.
At first, my son's eyes lit up when he heard me say this, but then slowly, not only did he not talk about his needs, but even when I asked him what he wanted as a gift, he shook his head and said that he should be frugal and not need to.
I couldn't help but feel a little relieved, thinking that my son was so sensible.
As my son grew up, he was admitted to a prestigious university with excellent grades, and I received praise from my friends and family.
They all asked me how I taught my children, but I replied humbly"It's all the result of the children's own efforts! ”
But for some reason, my son has grown up more and more reticent, not only does he not have friends to hang out, but even when he comes home, he doesn't take the initiative to talk to me much.
I asked him why he was the way he did, but my son looked at me for a while and finally shook his head and left.
After he got married, he settled in the first-tier city next door, and he didn't even return to his home often. It made me a little disappointed and a little angry.
Although I have a pension of 8,500 yuan, I play cards and go shopping everywhere every day, although I am materially rich, I am very bored and lonely inside. At the same time, I am afraid that one day I have three longs and two shorts, and no one around me will find out.
So on this day, under the pretext that I was too poor to eat, I called my son**, and the next day I wanted to go to my son's house with my luggage to stay permanently.
My daughter-in-law and I actually don't know each other, because my daughter-in-law is also an only child, so later the two couples decided to go back to their respective homes every New Year's Day.
During a long holiday like the National Day, they usually come to see me first, then go to see their in-laws, and finally set aside a few days to spend time in the world of two.
So when my daughter-in-law drove to pick me up, I almost didn't recognize it.
Along the way, my daughter-in-law was talking to me about nearby places to play, but I said a sentence in order to pretend to be poor"I can't afford to go! I don't have any money, these places are expensive, right?! ”
Hearing this, my daughter-in-law didn't know what to say, so she silently drove me home and didn't talk to me again.
Mother-in-law, did you talk to Cheng Yi like this before? After returning home, the daughter-in-law asked.
I looked at my daughter-in-law blankly, not understanding what she was saying.
Seeing me like this, my daughter-in-law also shook her head, she turned around and went to the refrigerator to get the leftover food from noon, and then brought it to me after heating it up: "Mother-in-law, eat, you should be hungry on the way!" ”
I'm a little dissatisfied, how can I say that I'm also a guest, and if you don't invite me to the restaurant, why do you still use leftovers to send people?
I thought that when my son came back from work, I must tell him well, this daughter-in-law doesn't know how to be filial.
Unexpectedly, when I complained to my son, he asked me suspiciously, "Is it because I can't eat?" There's instant noodles at home. ”
Even if I am alone at home, I have never treated myself badly in terms of food, so what my son and daughter-in-law are doing now only makes me feel insulted.
So I stood up angrily and said to my son and daughter-in-law, "If you don't welcome me, you can say it!" Don't make these little moves to answer me! ”
As soon as the words fell, the son hurriedly said:"Mom, you're mistaken! My husband and wife just bought a car recently, so we are a little tight on money and can't entertain you with big fish and meat! ”
When I heard this, I felt better.
Since I didn't know my son's current family situation, I believed him, and I was thinking about whether to give them some money to subsidize them, but I also thought that I was pretending to be poor and couldn't do that.
And I think as long as my son hasn't asked me to borrow money, he's not in the worst possible situation.
Since then, I have stayed with my son Cheng Yi. But I didn't expect that for a week in a row, my son and daughter-in-law would either eat porridge or instant noodles.
I can't help but think of my own carefree days at home. At that time, I could eat whatever I wanted, and I didn't have to eat two more bites of food like now, and I felt sorry for my son and daughter-in-law.
After that, I thought about it for two more days, and then I decided not to pretend to be poor, so I gave my son 20,000 yuan and asked him to eat something good and not starve himself.
But my son refused, and he looked at me and said:"I know what you've been going through these days, because I've been doing it for more than 20 years. ”
I was stunned for a moment, then looked at him, "What do you mean?" ”
Cheng Yi smiled bitterly, he told me that these days mainly wanted me to experience his previous life.
Then he also said that the reason why he has always listened to me is because I implanted in him a kind of "family is poor" idea when he was a child.
This made Cheng Yi live in self-doubt all the time, and he felt that he was dragging me down, so he redoubled his efforts to make me proud of himself.
And Cheng Yi never asked me for his own request. If he could solve the problem with a black pen, he wouldn't let me buy him another colored pen, because he felt that it was sucking my blood.
Over time, Cheng Yi was afraid that his classmates would ask him to play, and he was also afraid that his classmates would ask him if he knew about the new game console recently.
Cheng Yi didn't know about this, because he hadn't even gotten much of a plastic toy.
Later, as he grew older, he knew that his family was not short of money, which made him feel cheated, so he dreamed of escaping.
When he has his own home, he can do whatever he wants, without fear of affecting the lives of others. That's why he doesn't go home often when he goes to college, because he's afraid I'll say the words "I don't have any money at home."
I listened to my son's complaints, and then thought of my own feelings these days, and I couldn't help but feel a little guilty: "Then you should have told me earlier!" If you don't say it, I don't know! ”
But Cheng Yi told me that he said it more than once, but I was blocked back on the grounds of "what do children know".
I was a little confused, because I didn't remember that I had ever said such a thing, so I told Cheng Yi: "It's all my fault!" But you've lied to me once now, so let's settle it, okay? ”
Hearing this, the son nodded silently, and he said:"I didn't do this scene to deliberately slap you, but you were too stubborn! There are some things that you don't want to believe until you've experienced them yourself! ”
I have to say that my son understands me. I think he might have told me that before, but at the time I stuck to my own ideas and stubbornly thought I was right.
That night, our family finally talked about it, and I finally enjoyed the joy of my son by my side and my daughter-in-law shopping with me.