My name is Li Cuihua, and I am 70 years old this year, and I am an ordinary retiree. My family background is very ordinary, my parents are farmers, I am the eldest daughter in the family, and I have a younger brother and a younger sister. I was a primary school teacher when I was younger, then worked in the Education Bureau, and finally became the Deputy Commissioner before I retired.
I have a pension of 8,500 yuan per month, which is the financial security of my later life. I have a son and a daughter-in-law, both of whom are working in the field and rarely come home. After retirement, I lived in my own house and lived a calm and comfortable life.
However, last year, an incident happened that turned my otherwise peaceful life into a twist and turn. My daughter-in-law suddenly offered me to put my pension in their hands, on the grounds that I was old and needed someone to take care of me. I didn't say no right away, but after thinking about it, I decided to manage my own pension.
My daughter-in-law was very dissatisfied with my decision, and she began to be cold to me, and from time to time she gave me a look. My son was also very dissatisfied with my decision, and he began to call me and persuade me to go back to my hometown, saying that it would reduce their burden. But I don't want to leave my home, because this is my roots, my spiritual sustenance.
As time went on, my daughter-in-law and son became more and more cold towards me, and they began not to pick up my ** and not reply to my messages. I'm worried that they'll cut me off because of this. But I don't want to give up on my decision because I feel like it's a respect and security for myself.
Until one day, I couldn't stand the coldness and indifference of my daughter-in-law and son, so I decided to talk to them. When I arrived at their house, I found them chatting in the living room, ignoring me. When my son saw me, he simply said hello and continued to chat with his daughter-in-law. My daughter-in-law looked at me with disdain, as if I didn't exist.
I couldn't take it anymore and said to them, "I have decided to take back my pension and I will not give you any financial support in the future." My son was so surprised that he asked me why I had made this decision. I replied, "I need to manage my own money to make sure that I have security in my old age." "My daughter-in-law got angry when she heard this, and she started yelling at me that I didn't respect them. I ignored her and turned to leave their home.
When I got home, I found that my decision lightened my mind. I no longer worry that my daughter-in-law and son will disown me because of my pension. I know that I made the right decision because it is a respect and guarantee for myself. I decided that I wanted to enjoy my old age and stop living for others.