"Procrastination"It is a very common phenomenon in society now, there are many things, parents are very anxious, but children are not in a hurry, children do not do, let parents do it, so children will be more and more procrastinated, procrastination will become more and more serious.
1. Lack of confidence
When children find homework difficult and unable to complete it on their own, they will start procrastinating. When doing homework, the time consumption can bring mental comfort to the child, who will constantly self-suggest in his heart, "I've tried my best!" Procrastination was a good antidote for him to avoid his inability to complete his homework.
2. Fear of setbacks
A child's frustration at school may be due to the wrong answers in class or unsatisfactory test scores. He will especially resist this bad feeling, and when he expects that what he is doing now will meet the same result, he will not want to face it and start to procrastinate.
3. Pursue perfection
One of the most striking characteristics of perfectionists is that they are particularly concerned about what others think of them. When a child is a perfectionist, he will set high demands on himself, for example, I must win an award for the science assignment I handed in this time, then the child will force himself to be very mature in his thoughts, all kinds of preparations, and start this homework without any mistakes.
But the actual situation often does not go according to his thoughts, when the child is insecure, never able to take the first step, always wants to wait for the best idea, the best time, and eventually leads to procrastination.
1. Procrastinating children are prone to lack of concentration
When it comes to procrastination, Xiaomi said that her son loves to procrastinate in addition to his homework during the winter vacation, and he usually likes to procrastinate in his homework, and every time he tutors his son to write his homework, Xiaomi feels like he is broken, and his son has a lot of crooked ideas before writing his homework, and he wants to eat when he is hungry, and he wants to go to the toilet for a while, or he suddenly remembers what happened in the class and complains to her.
Now it is emphasized to cultivate children's concentration in doing things, but procrastination will erode children's concentration little by little, and often think about doing things is one, it is easy to be anticlimactic, and the son has no concentration in doing things, and does not have initiative, which is a special headache for Xiaomi.
2. It is easy to be afraid of difficulties in learning
Cai Cai said that her daughter's procrastination in kindergarten was very obvious. At that time, in order to connect with the young and the young, not only did I sign up for two interest classes in piano and dance, but also some cram classes, and the right to go out to play every weekend was canceled, and my daughter was a little resistant. Especially before practicing the piano, I always make a lot of excuses, such as going to the toilet, washing my hands, wanting to eat, etc.
As a result, after practicing for more than half a year, I didn't make any progress at all, and I couldn't keep up with the teacher's explanation, and I began to be afraid of taking piano lessons, feeling that I might as well not practice well anyway, and my self-evaluation was also very low.
3. Procrastinating children lack the concept of time management
Whether it's a child or a person with procrastination, they all live in their own time, and their concept of time is often out of sync with "clock time". Therefore, today's things will be postponed until tomorrow, and the result will be tomorrow and tomorrow, tomorrow is so much, many children are like this, they always feel that the vacation is very long, then there is always time to do homework, and it turns out that they find that they still have a lot of homework to do when school is about to start.
Piling up to the last moment, not only is the amount of homework large, the quality of the child's homework is not high, and the homework has lost its role in checking and filling in the gaps in the child's knowledge. In the long run, the child's knowledge system is not established firmly enough, and there will be a fear of difficulty in learning, a vicious circle.
How can parents help their children develop a proper sense of time?
If your child is already able to read the clock, you can try using the alarm clock as a timer to set a time for your child to do things and stick to them.
Whether it's building blocks to draw a picture, or doing homework and watching cartoons, before the start of each activity, we make an appointment with the child in advance for the time of the activity, set the alarm clock with the child, and when the time comes, the alarm clock sounds, we must immediately stop what we are doing.
Many children do not have a sense of time because they are not proficient in doing things, so parents need to pay special attention to cultivating the basic skills of daily life in their children to help them become proficient.
For example, dressing, washing face, brushing teeth, tying shoes, etc. are all basic skills that kindergarten children must master. When a child becomes proficient, the speed of completion will increase accordingly.
To put it simply, time play is to complete the goals agreed in advance with your child within the specified time, and tell your child the importance of time during the game.
The method of play not only brings a lot of fun to children, but also simplifies the abstract concept of time, so that children can understand the meaning of time. In addition to this, it can also strengthen the parent-child relationship. It can be said that it is a way to kill two birds with one stone.
When children are young and ignorant, parents are their time stewards, carefully preparing them for every second.
However, when parents and children leave each other, the only thing we can do is to cultivate children's sense of time, teach children to learn to be the stewards of their own time, and let them grasp the most easily lost moments in their lives.
The sooner parents guide their children to learn how to manage their time and adjust their own learning methods, the stronger their children's learning advantages will be.
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Who stole my time" guides children to arrange their time reasonably and not to do "little procrastination".
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Writing homework is no longer difficult for me" tells children that writing homework is actually very simple.
I'm not afraid of exams" tells children that by doing so, they can get good grades.
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