Marriage requires impulsiveness, and it is difficult for people who are too sober to enter into marr

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Once, her parents asked people everywhere to find her blind dates, and there were at least 10 blind dates.

Later, as she grew older, her parents slowly followed her.

When I went to her house last year to pay a New Year's greeting, I asked her why she was so picky. Find someone who can live and get married quickly.

She said: Every time she goes on a blind date, as long as she meets and chats with those boys, she knows what kind of person the other party is.

I asked: What kind of people are they?

She said: A few of them are just trying to cope with the family members coming to go through the motions, and they themselves don't want to go into the siege of marriage.

There are also people who are just looking for a woman to live with, and it doesn't matter if they feel like it, as long as everyone is okay.

Some people don't even know the purpose of the blind date.

She said"I'm 35 years old, and I'm past that impulsive age, and it's not like young people who generally just need to have love.

My understanding of marriage is that there must be enough material foundation to ensure the longevity of marriage, life is a lifelong thing, all kinds of expenses need money, if there is only love, it will eventually be reduced to a poor couple; If you only have money, but you have to compromise in your marriage, you will not be happy.

Therefore, if you want to make your marriage stable, love and money are indispensable. And now, at my age, it's too rare to find a boy who can give me money and love. ”

After listening to her words, I couldn't help but think of several college classmates.

They are all in their 30s, but they are still alone, not that they are unwilling to find a partner to marry, but they are too sober, and their requirements for the other half have been refined to:How to distribute housework after marriage, how to arrange children's education, parents' support, and personal career development.

Perhaps, after reaching a certain age, many people will become more and more realistic, after all, everyone has been stumbling in society for many years, and they are no longer as simple and naïve as they were when they were students.

Many people slowly realize that the matter of feelings is not just a matter of human affection, and there are many factors mixed with various pros and cons and different needs.

Therefore, when I go on a blind date, I think in my heart: how much time is this person worth me to understand, how much energy is worth me to maintain, and how much money is worth me spending to please.

If you exceed your budget, you will immediately stop your losses and give up decisively.

I've seen this statement online before:If entering into marriage will lower your standard of living, make yourself compromised, and let yourself spend time in constant quarrels and poverty alleviation, it is better to be single.

Yes, we are all adults, and many people don't want to spend time and energy on maintaining a relationship now, they just want the results at their fingertips.

The more sober a person is, the more difficult it is to enter into marriage.

Because when people are sober, they will think about how good it is for them to enter marriage, if there is no benefit, then what is there to expect from marriage?

When we were 18 years old, we thought that marriage was all about love.

When we were 25 years old, we thought that marriage would be fine as long as the door was right and the three views were the same.

It wasn't until we were in our 30s that we learned that marriage is a partnership that weighs the pros and cons and averses risk.

So, if you look closely at the men and women around you who are already married, many of them enter into marriage when they are in their 20s, and some of them get married after less than a year of love.

There is a saying on the Internet that the longer people are in love, the less they can get married.

The best period of love for marriage is one year.

Because men and women at that time were immersed in the sweet period of love, each other's small surprises and various romances would make men and women in love get carried away and then enter marriage.

And once the impulsive period of love has passed, it will slowly consider whether the three views of the two parties are the same, whether the family background is the right one, and weigh various interests.

Therefore, marriage requires impulse, and when people are sober, many people cannot get married.

Don't blindly follow the trend just because others are in a hurry to hand in their life answers.

In this life, it is good to be able to meet the right person, and it is good for the two to work together for a lifetime; If you don't meet it, don't panic, it's good to stay awake and stay alive.