My name is Li Xiaomei, I am 28 years old, and I have been married for a year. My husband's name is Li Xiaoxiang, and he is the son of Lao Li and Lao Zhang. The two of us were high school classmates, and after many years of love, we finally entered the palace of marriage. The wedding was supposed to be a happy life, but I found out that my parents-in-law were not as kind and kind as I thought.
On the night of the wedding, my parents-in-law warmly let us live in the vacant room on the first floor, and said that it was a "dowry room" for the daughter-in-law. At that time, I was very happy and felt that my in-laws treated me like my own daughter. The next morning, my mother-in-law said to me, "Xiaomei, this room is well-lit and spacious, you and Xiaoxiang must be very comfortable living here." If there is anything you are not used to, tell your mother-in-law, and I will let Xiaoxiang improve immediately. ”
I smiled and said, "Mother-in-law, you are so considerate, we like this room very much, there is no problem at all." ”
My mother-in-law touched my head and said, "That's good, you will be a member of our family in the future, and your mother-in-law will definitely be good to you." ”
I was quite touched to hear her say that. Unexpectedly, the good times didn't last long, and the faces of the in-laws were quickly revealed.
A month later, one day I woke up late, and my parents-in-law were rummaging through the cabinets in our room to sort things out. When my mother-in-law saw me coming, she hurriedly said, "Xiaomei, you are up, we just watched you live for a month, and we want to help you clean up your room and dispose of the things you don't need." ”
I felt strange and said, "Mother-in-law, we don't have much to do, so you don't have to bother." ”
My father-in-law also helped: "We just want the children to live comfortably." ”
In the days that followed, the in-laws showed that they were eyeing our room.
One day at noon, I went to the yard to bask in the sun after making lunch, and I vaguely heard the voice of my in-laws talking upstairs.
Lao Zhang, I think it's a big loss for us to move in, this room is small and dark. ”
yes, I mislooked, this floor is obviously more spacious and bright. ”
If you want me to say let's move back, why not squeeze with the little couple? The house is ours anyway. ”
Also. We are old and comfortable to live in a larger place. Let's just say that it's to take care of them, I don't think Xiaoxiang and Xiaomei really object, right? ”
I was very surprised to hear it, it turned out that my in-laws had the intention of occupying our room from the beginning, it was unbelievable!
I hurriedly ran back to the house and said to Xiaoxiang, "Listen to me, my in-laws are discussing moving back to this big room while we are away!" ”
Xiao Xiang was surprised: "How can this be? I'll have to talk to them and figure out why. ”
At dinner, I watched my in-laws look at our room, consciously or unconsciously, looking like they were looking at us. After eating, Xiaoxiang asked straight to the point: "Mom, Dad, Xiaomei said that I heard that you want to move back here, is it true?" ”
The in-laws' faces turned red as soon as they "swished", and the mother-in-law said, "How can we mean this, just say it casually." ”
The father-in-law also denied it, saying, "We are just joking, how can we really occupy your room?" ”
Xiaoxiang and I glanced at each other, and we both saw that my in-laws were lying. We can't just leave it at that, otherwise my in-laws will use tricks to seize our room in the future.
Xiao Xiang said in a resolute tone: "Mom and Dad, although this house is yours, you were going to live for us at the beginning, and we officially moved in." We can't take it back because we regret it, it's very unfair to us. You want to be bigger, I understand, but you can't. ”
The mother-in-law immediately pretended to be angry, saying that we were too ignorant to know what to do. Xiaoxiang and I were speechless, and it seemed that the next days would not be very peaceful.
After that conversation, the in-laws' attitude was obviously much colder. Every day at dinner, I tried to talk to my mother-in-law about homely things, but she only said a few perfunctory words and no longer responded to me with the enthusiasm she used to.
One day, my mother-in-law passed by our room with a rice bowl and saw a few empty boxes and said, "How can you pack so many big boxes, it really takes up space." If you want me to say, empty is also empty, it is better to clean it up, just to clear the space of the cabinet inside. ”
I could hear her voice that my mother-in-law clearly wanted to buy our cabinet and make room for her and her father-in-law's things to move in.
I couldn't help but say, "Mother-in-law, we can use these boxes, and we won't take them away." ”
The mother-in-law said dissatisfiedly, "I don't see you putting things in it." In other words, this house is still ours, and you can use it however you want. ”
Xiao Xiang and I looked at each other and shook our heads helplessly.
That night, my father-in-law also started to pick on us and said that our room was a mess and full of our clutter. He deliberately took some of our daily necessities into the common area, saying that he was "tidying up the environment".
Xiaoxiang couldn't stand it, and said to his father-in-law seriously: "Dad, you have gone too far. This room is our living space and you don't have the right to dispose of our stuff without permission. We ask that you respect our privacy. ”
The father-in-law was furious, saying that his son was completely ignorant and contradicted his parents. My mother-in-law also said that we are so inch-inch, and we don't know how to be grateful.
For a while, the atmosphere was very tense. In order to avoid further escalation, Xiaoxiang can only give in first, but we know that the in-laws have already revealed wolf ambitions.
That night, Xiaoxiang and I lay in bed for a long time and couldn't sleep, worried that my in-laws would do more to seize our room.
They're going too far, and we're going to have to do something about it. Xiao Xiang said indignantly.
I clasped his hand and said, "I want to cry, how my in-laws have become so unreasonable." We just got married, and we should be warm, but they have to embarrass us. ”
Xiaoxiang comforted me: "Don't be sad, honey. My in-laws want to take advantage, but I'll protect you. ”
So what are you going to do? Since they are so stubborn, it seems that they will not give up until they fight a tough battle. I said worriedly.
Xiao Xiang was silent for a while, and then said to me firmly: "Although I don't want to clash with my parents head-on, they are going too far. In order to protect our rights and interests, I decided to turn against them! ”
I was taken aback: "It's too intense, isn't it?" In case the relationship breaks down, it is not good for anyone. ”
So what else can be done? If they are tolerated, they will only get more rampant. I have to let them know that we will not compromise! Xiao Xiang's tone was full of anger.
When I saw him like this, I regained my confidence: "You're right, we can't continue to put up with it." As long as the two of us are united, we will definitely be able to defeat the conspiracy of our in-laws! ”
Right! We must defend our happy life! Xiao Xiang clenched his fists and said.
In this way, we mustered up the courage and decided to turn against our in-laws and resolutely keep our room.
Early the next morning, my mother-in-law knocked on our door.
Xiaoxiang, Xiaomei, open the door! The mother-in-law shouted anxiously outside.
We looked at each other, and we both saw a determined gaze in each other's eyes. So Xiaoxiang strode to the door and opened the door heavily.
The mother-in-law stood outside the door nervously and said, "I have something important to tell you. ”
Xiaoxiang and I tacitly did not let my mother-in-law in, but stood at the door and waited for her to explain her intentions.
The mother-in-law looked at us as she was waiting, and her face was even more embarrassed. She hesitated for a long time before she said, "Xiaoxiang, Xiaomei, about the room, my mother-in-law and father-in-law misunderstood. After thinking about it last night, we thought it would be better not to bother you. ”
Xiaoxiang and I were both surprised, we didn't expect that my mother-in-law, who had always been strong, would suddenly change her mind.
Xiao Xianghu asked suspiciously, "Have you finally agreed to leave this room for our own use?" ”
The mother-in-law blushed, nodded and said, "Well, we have decided to respect your privacy space. We were old and confused before, you adults don't remember villains, don't take it to heart. ”
That's good. Xiao Xiang's tone was still cold. I didn't fully believe my mother-in-law's words either.
I'm sorry, it's really my mother-in-law's sin, and I won't be in the future. Xiaomei, let's go grocery shopping and make a good celebration together, let's make peace, okay? My mother-in-law said to me with a smile.
I hesitated, but agreed to go to the market with her. The mother-in-law seemed relieved, but she was still a little prevaricated when she mentioned the room. I guess she and her father-in-law may have made concessions after a heated argument all night, but I must always be vigilant and not careless.
When I went out to buy groceries, I was absent-minded, but my mother-in-law noticed it and asked tentatively, "Xiaomei, do you still mind what happened before?" ”
I pondered and said, "I can understand that you want to change rooms, but it's hard for me to accept." Xiaoxiang and I need to feel that this is really our home. ”
The mother-in-law nodded heavily and said, "You're right, we're wrong." When I get older, I like to annoy some people who don't have land, which is too much. Don't worry, I promise I won't talk about it again! ”
Her tone seemed sincere, but I didn't take it lightly. Back at home, I said to Xiaoxiang: "It seems that we must always be vigilant, and it is difficult to predict when my in-laws will turn their faces." ”
Xiao Xiang also frowned and said, "Yes, their concession may just be a strategy." We must be ready to fight back at any time and defend our home! ”
As a result, a contest is brewing faintly, and we are in harmony with our in-laws on the surface, but secretly we are preparing for a fight.
At noon that day, I made lunch and went upstairs to call my in-laws for dinner, and found that the door of their room was closed, and there was a sound of rustling inside. I knocked on the door several times, and my father-in-law's voice came from inside: "I know, I know, we are coming!" ”
After a while, the in-laws opened the door and came out. I noticed that their expressions were a little flustered and embarrassed.
During the meal, my in-laws were uncharacteristically silent, and Xiaoxiang and I could see that they were weak-minded, and they must be planning some kind of ghost idea.
Sure enough, after eating, my in-laws said they would go downstairs to our room to get something. Xiaoxiang and I followed, for fear that they would cheat. My father-in-law took out a key to open our wardrobe and wanted to take away the two quilts inside.
Xiao Xiang asked, "What do you want our quilt to do?" ”
The in-laws were hesitant and said that the room above was cold at night and needed more quilts.
Before I could speak, Xiao Xiang had already roared angrily: "Enough! Didn't you say to respect our private space? And now, what means? ”
The in-laws were startled by his loud questioning, and the embarrassment on their faces was even worse. My mother-in-law hurriedly explained, but neither Xiaoxiang nor I bought their account.
Go back, this is our territory, and no one is allowed to touch our things without our consent! Xiao Xiang said angrily.
The in-laws fled as if they had been hit hard. Xiao Xiang and I glanced at each other, and we both saw a determined gaze in each other's eyes.
It's too much! They didn't really figure it out at all! I said indignantly.
Xiao Xiang clenched my hand and said in a deep voice, "We can't bear it any longer." Honey, get ready to turn your face with them! ”
Good! I can't take it anymore! I also said angrily.
So we went upstairs and forcefully demanded an apology from our in-laws in person and stop messing with our room. Only then did my in-laws realize that the general trend had gone, and they could only re-promise that they would not ask about our living area in the future.
Not an example! You must learn to respect us! In the end, Xiaoxiang said solemnly.
From that day on, my in-laws regained their initial enthusiasm and care for us, but Xiaoxiang and I no longer had any trust in them. We understand that we must always be vigilant and resolutely defend this home. We won the battle, but the battle for family sovereignty is far from over.
Just after Xiaoxiang and I triumphantly fought against my in-laws' desire to control, my mother-in-law talked to me for a long heart-to-heart conversation.
Xiaomei, in fact, this time it's the mother-in-law who is wrong. The mother-in-law said with red eyes, "I interfered too much in your life and didn't respect you and Xiaoxiang." ”
I looked at her with some surprise.
Actually, since you got married, my mother-in-law has been a little nervous. The mother-in-law continued, "I'm worried that the house matter will make you look down on us old people and think we are stingy and unreasonable. Also, you and Xiaoxiang just got married, and we old people are next to you, do you feel constrained? ”
It dawned on me that my in-laws actually wanted to control our lives because of low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence.
Mother-in-law, I see what you're thinking. I said mildly, "Of course you can't look down on it." I never felt that you would restrain me, you were my relatives. It's just that this time it's hard for me to accept, but I don't hold grudges, as long as you respect us. ”
When my mother-in-law heard this, she held my hand with red eyes and said, "Xiaomei, thank you for being so reasonable." I really reflected. I will never meddle in your affairs again. You can rest assured that it will be your own home. ”
This time, my mother-in-law's words sounded very sincere. I also began to reflect on whether I had failed to understand the thoughts and anxieties of the elderly before.
That night, I told Xiaoxiang what the conversation was about. He was also surprised.
I didn't expect my parents to be so insecure. Xiaoxiang sighed, "It seems that they are actually in a difficult situation, and we should be considerate of them." ”
Yes, maybe this time can be a turning point, so that we can understand each other and family relationships can be more harmonious. I said.
After that conversation, Xiaoxiang and I softened our attitudes towards our in-laws. The in-laws are also less controlling, giving us more autonomy. Gradually, the family atmosphere eased a lot, and trust and understanding were restored between us.
This incident made me understand that harmony actually requires constant communication and understanding between the two parties, and thinking about problems from the other side's point of view. Even if there is a conflict, it can be resolved by tolerating each other.