Today I would like to talk to you about a question that we all face in relationships: how do you choose a marriage partner to avoid falling into the so-called "hell"?It has been said before that a good marriage is like heaven, and a bad marriage is simply hell. But what makes a good marriage? Here, I would like to share some experiences from books and reality.
First of all, let's take a look at this complaint I saw on the Internet: A man came to ask netizens if he should divorce because his wife spent his 180,000 bride price and gave him 5,000 yuan a month to live. But in fact, before he posted what happened to him, everyone in his family persuaded him to break up with his daughter-in-law. This story tells us that when people talk about marriage, we have to understand how the other person thinks about money and see how they perceive it. Because sometimes it can really judge a person's attitude when you are in trouble, and it can also tell whether they are worthy of your trust.
Then, let's talk about another situation. Some people are even intellectuals themselves, but they often seem to be confused when faced with marital problems. For example, I once read a book called "Dear Andrei", which mentions a very important point for us: a compatible partner should be the one who is willing to go through the ups and downs of life with you, support each other, share good times in happy moments, and at the same time give comfort to the soul in times of hardship. That's the ideal state we're after. So when we are looking for a partner, we first think about what special qualities we expect from them.
Let's talk about the marriage problem, sometimes when we start to wonder if the marriage is worth continuing, maybe we should try to get to know each other more deeply. As you ponder this question, don't forget to ask yourself, "Do I really love this person?" This question may help you find the answer. If you feel that your current marriage is no longer what you thought it would be, then you may want to reconsider your options.
Of course, I would like to conclude that everyone's lifestyle is different, and we can't simply conclude that sharing everything in marriage or sharing all of your finances is the right thing to do. And what should really be done should be based on reality, when two people are together, they should strive to understand each other, and mutual respect is the most important thing. At the same time, we must also learn to realize that whether in a relationship or in modern society, it is always true actions that determine everything, not sweet words. Only when we sincerely pay and endure the **, can we finally establish our own happy marriage.
All in all, there are definitely a lot of factors that we need to consider in the process of choosing a partner. But don't forget, it's the feelings of our own hearts that matter most, especially for those of you who you plan to share the rest of your life with, and you need to think hard to ensure that this marriage lasts a long time. I hope you can make a careful decision, and remember that only when you are full of love in your heart and are willing to do your best for this love, you will be able to find the person who makes you feel extremely relieved!