My surname is Zhu, I am 78 years old, I am a retired worker, and I have been taking care of each other with my wife all these years.
We have a son, and when he graduated from college, he was determined to stay in the big city in consideration of career development, and to be honest, we were such a son, and when we learned of his decision, we were very reluctant.
But I don't want to tie up my son because of myself, so I still support him to go out and start a business, my son is very competitive, has a successful career over the years, and has a good life in buying a house and a car.
If you want to talk about the regret of these years, that is, I don't see my son much, and my son's family will only come back during the New Year's holidays, go back here to visit relatives and live for three or five days, and go to my daughter-in-law's house again, and every time I leave in a hurry.
Over the years, my wife and I have also adapted to this kind of life.
We also figured out in our hearts that as long as the two of us are in good health and live our lives well, we can enjoy life as well, and my wife is a warm-hearted person, and she has not been idle since retirement, she first went to her son to help bring up her grandson, and then participated in various activities for the elderly, and also took me to travel everywhere, and lived a very fulfilling life.
This kind of life lasted until the year before last, our body obviously felt bad, and we couldn't run, and my wife was also found to have cancer during a physical examination.
In order to stabilize his wife's mentality, my son and I chose to hide it.
We just want my wife to be optimistic, because of a good attitude, the wife who was sentenced by the doctor to only live for half a year has survived for more than a year, and of course I have suffered for more than a year.
My son didn't come back often, so I found a nurse for us, at first the nurse took care of it well, but after a long time, my wife disliked the nurse and was not satisfied, my wife and I are a lifelong husband and wife, of course, we know each other best, and then I simply dismissed the nurse and took care of it myself.
Those days became the last warm moment for my wife, I cooked food for my wife every day, scrubbed her body, chatted with her, encouraged her, although my wife was painful, but I was always with me, but I was not lonely.
My wife left later, and I couldn't afford to be sick, and it took me a lot of energy to take care of my wife, and my spiritual support was gone.
In the past, my son was not by our side, and my wife and I often said that if we take care of our health, we will rely on each other to support the elderly, but now my wife does not keep her promise and leaves first, leaving me alone and not knowing how to live.
Because of mental decadence, I lived a very confused life, I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, my health was getting worse and worse, my son looked at me distressed, and offered to take me back to care for the elderly, this time I didn't refuse to follow.
When I came to my son's house, my son was very considerate to me, and my daughter-in-law was also very filial to me, but I still felt uncomfortable.
Although someone cooks for me to eat, and someone washes clothes, but my son's home is not my home, I always feel very strange, during the day my son and they all go out, and I am left alone at home, I want to go downstairs and walk, but I don't know anyone anywhere, I don't know people, and I can't understand the locals, this feeling makes me feel particularly depressed.
After staying at my son's house for more than a month, I insisted on going home, and this time my son agreed.
Later, my son and daughter-in-law discussed it for one night and offered to find me a babysitter.
My son told me the truth, and he said:
Dad, looking for a babysitter isn't exactly for you, it's also for me.
Now I really don't feel at ease to let you live alone at this age, plus my mother has just left, in case you have something, what should I do, there is a nanny to take care of you, I can also work with peace of mind, so that you can be taken care of, and I also have no worries.
I have always been thrifty, and I wanted to refuse, but my son said that if he didn't agree, he wouldn't let me go back, so I had no choice but to agree.
Xiao Lu came to the door at that time, she was 52 years old and lived in my house as a nanny.
Xiao Lu is a fast-talking person, the personality is a bit similar to his wife, and he is also neat in doing things, after she inquired about the situation of my family, she knew that my son was out of town all the year round, patted her chest and said that she would take good care of me, I was very relieved to hear it.
The son gives Xiao Lu 5,500 yuan a month, and Xiao Lu is also very satisfied with this salary.
Because of Xiao Lu by my side, my life is much easier.
I don't have to do any housework, I only tell Xiao Lu what he wants to eat every day, Xiao Lu goes to the vegetable market to buy and do, as a living expense I give Xiao Lu 2500 yuan a month, and I want to understand a lot because of time, after returning to my hometown, I play with old friends, occasionally play chess, walk, and live a very leisurely life.
Because my body is okay, I don't need Xiao Lu to take care of me all the time, plus I'm a good talkerXiao Lu's attitude towards work has gradually changed.
She sometimes goes to the vegetable market to buy vegetables for a week, can't finish the food on the refrigerator, the next day when it is hot and then eat, I remind Xiao Lu that there is no nutrition, I want Xiao Lu to go to the vegetable market to buy some fresh vegetables, she is troublesome, this disgust is sometimes put on the face, I am embarrassed to say her because of the embarrassment.
Xiao Lu later ran out every day, sometimes coming back from the supermarket to buy a lot of daily necessities, big bags and small bags to take home, but in the end these things were only very little used in my house, most of them she took away, and later I learned that she took them back to her own home.
Xiao Lu's son just got married, she came out to work to give her house to her son and daughter-in-law to live in, and she took those daily necessities home for her son and daughter-in-law.
Unexpectedly, Xiao Lu smiled and said to me, these are not worth anything, and besides, I can't eat so much by myself, so I will be kind enough to give it to her sonWhen she said that, it seemed that I was very calculating, and I didn't know what to say.
Until one day, Xiao Lu suddenly told me that she was going to raise her salary.
In fact, I don't think Xiao Lu's workload in my house is large, I can eat and walk, and I don't need her to take care of me, but she threatened me with resignation and asked me to increase her to 6,000 yuan, but at this time she has only been here for 4 months.
I haven't had time to discuss this with my son yetXiao Lu's side changed his hexagram again.
She said that the two of us were suitable, or we would live together together, and said that if I bought a car for her son, she promised not to leave in the future.
I didn't expect Xiao Lu to have such a plan, I obviously just found a nanny, but she calculated me again and again in terms of money, and this time I resolutely let Xiao Lu go.
Later, I hit my son **, I didn't tell the truth, I only said that the nanny had something at home and resigned, and my son wanted to find a nanny for me, but I refused, and my body has adjusted a lot in the past six months, and I have no problem taking care of myself at present.
I asked my son to wait until I couldn't take care of myself.
After experiencing this babysitter, I also have some insights that the elderly must follow the following 3 points when looking for a nanny.
1. When looking for a nanny, you must find an honest and reliable babysitter.
Honesty and reliability, you may not be able to find it at first, but after a long time, you must see that there is an honest nanny, who will only do things in a down-to-earth manner, and some nannies always calculate you all day long, lazy not to say, but also want to make some oil and water, such a nanny must not be used.
2. When the elderly are looking for a nanny, it is best to have children by their side to take care of them.
Xiao Lu only found out that my son's family was out of town and felt that there was no one to supervise her, so she dared to bully me with her nose and face.
She used my living expenses to buy my own things, and also took the nutritional products that my son bought for me, she felt that my son was not around, and I was an old man who encountered this incident, so I could only calm down, thinking that I would be worried that I would not find a nanny and choose to compromise.
This kind of nanny has been testing my bottom line, and she doesn't have the heart to do housework at all.
3. In matters between men and women, they must be clear.
I'm so old, Xiao Lu, who is more than 20 years younger than me, is still willing to follow me, in fact, I understand that she just likes my money, and my son is not around, in case there is anything, there is no one to come forward.
At this age, I just want to live my life quietly and quietly, and be a person who doesn't cause trouble to my children, if I partner with Xiao Lu on impulse, I think my life will be miserable, not only will the money be gone, but my son and daughter-in-law will also look down on me.
Asking for a nanny is originally a contribution, a contribution, you must be clear at the beginning, you can't mix up other things, and the elderly must always stay sober, and only in this way can you live a happy and stable old age.