What are the manifestations of poor self-control? It is mostly reflected in young boys, who are mostly boys in grades 2-5 of elementary school. One parent once complained that her son was naughty and could only concentrate on the class for 15 minutes, after which he began to mess around and affect other students.
There are many cases like this, children with poor self-control have the following characteristics: they often say things that make people angry, so as to interject and interfere with the activities of adults, and often cause annoyance to adults; They are bold and do not avoid danger, especially when they are emotional, they can have bad behaviors, like to quarrel and scold; They have difficulty concentrating, for example, during class, they often look around, absent-minded, or seem to be quiet, but in fact they are "distracted". As a parent, you can't blindly blame and preach, which will not only fail to solve the problem, but will also easily intensify the conflict. Therefore, it is important to find the cause of the problem.
1. Children's sense of time is weak
For children to be self-disciplined, they must have a good sense of time. This is the premise and foundation of children's self-discipline. Because self-discipline is when the child does the prescribed thing within the prescribed time. Our children are not self-disciplined, and the lack of time concept is also one of the main factors.
2. Imitating your parents
Parents are their children's best teachers, and some parents do it at homeWatching TV on the couch or in bed a lotFor housework at home will always tooBlame each other, which will also make the childLook in the eyes, remember in the heart.
1. Parents should be role models and strict with themselves
A lot of children's behaviors are imperceptible from their parents, so if you want toParents should set an example for children to develop good habits of self-discipline. In life, parents should also be active and self-disciplined, concentrate on work, and never procrastinate what can be done, so as to play a good role model.
2. Help children set a goal and learn self-control in a goal-oriented manner
The reason why children play games and do not concentrate on learning is due to lack of self-control. If you want to develop your child's self-control and let your child learn to manage his or her own learning, you need to set a goal. Parents help their children set a clearer goal, so that the child has a direction in mind, and will naturally be more motivated to do things, and can take the initiative to learn in order to achieve the goal.
StillBe reasonable when setting goals, not too easy and not too difficult, too easy and not challenging, the child will get bored quickly, if it is too difficult, it will hit the child's confidence, and the child will soon give up. This will not only have no effect, but will discourage the child's enthusiasm.
3. Teach children to make time plans
Formulating a time planning table is the most important part of children's self-control, and when children make time planning tables, they can not only recognize the importance of time, but also be able to control the scale of time. This process requires a subjective understanding of what you are about to face, and then a general idea of how long it will take to complete it.
When planning for the first time, there may be too much or not enough time left due to the inaccurate time scale. Parents should guide their children when they encounter such difficulties, so that children know how to deal with problems and modify the schedule, and over time children will exercise better self-control skills.
In fact, the so-called education is to start from the details, so that children can avoid mistakes and reduce the probability of going the wrong way. In fact, the most important thing isIt is necessary to focus on the cultivation of character and character。Therefore, it is very important to cultivate children's good behavior habits in a timely manner for children's growthCultivating the quality of self-disciplineHaving a confident and optimistic attitude, learning to control their emotions, and reasonably resolving negative emotions in life are the skills that children should learn.
There are no bad children in this world, only parents who can't teach, and parents put more effort into growing upGive the right guidance and raise excellent childrenIt's actually quite easy.
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