The cooperation between men and women is really effortless! Having a goddess-level female colleague next to me makes it much more fun to work and even motivates me to work harder and create better results.
Of course, if you're a little more lucky and win the hearts of beautiful colleagues, you might even have a beautiful relationship.
It's just that there are pros and cons to everything, and if heterosexual relationships are not handled properly, it can get into trouble.
Many successful people in the workplace have ruined their good future because of this.
So here I have listed for you four forbidden areas in the workplace, don't step on it, even if you have a strong relationship with female colleagues, these things must not be easily tried.
1.Accompany her to borrow wine to kill her sorrows
Everybody has bad things, sometimes, we use alcohol to kill our sorrows, and sometimes men find friends to drink and relax. Girls, more often go shopping with their girlfriends.
But some girls will also find male colleagues to drink and tell them what is on their minds.
It sounds good to improve communication, but when you are drunk, your brain is not clear, and if you do something wrong, it will be difficult to do it later!
An experience I had. My female colleague Xiaomei took the initiative to invite me for a drink.
Xiaomei is a beautiful girl, beautiful and tall, and has always been the focus of attention in the office.
She has been a little troubled recently, because she has repaid a lot of debts, so she wants to borrow alcohol to kill her sorrows.
We came to a small bar nearby, **gently wrapped around, the atmosphere was warm and cozy.
We ordered a few glasses of wine and chatted about work and sipping wine. Xiaomei revealed a unique charm that made me can't help but take a few more looks.
Gradually, Xiaomei got a little drunk.
She looked at me shyly and said, "My husband is on a business trip, can you take me home?" I knew she was telling the truth after drinking, so I agreed to her request.
When we arrived at Xiaomei's door, she gave me a sweet smile and went straight into the house.
I hesitated, but walked in.
As soon as I entered the house, Xiaomei went straight to take a shower, and I blushed and looked at the closed bathroom door.
After a while, she came out in her pajamas and said to me, "Don't leave tonight, okay?" ”
I was slightly stunned, then smiled and said, "You're giving me a problem." ”
Xiaomei blinked her drunken eyes and looked at me, as if waiting for my answer.
I began to hesitate in my heart, after all, we are colleagues, will such a relationship be too complicated?
Drunk parties, once in a closed space, are prone to accidents, and many times, they will be controlled by their own desires.
2.Frequent help
When a colleague asks you for help, it probably means that they have a good relationship with you. In reality, many people want to help, but they don't have the opportunity.
This kind of thing can occasionally help without harm, and can even deepen friendships.
But if someone always asks you to help, you have to subtly push it off.
First of all, helping others often becomes a responsibility.
Secondly, female colleagues may think that you have bad intentions when they see your dedication, and others will definitely look down on you in private, saying that you value sex and ignore friends.
A colleague named Anan. Always willing to help at work, this personality has made him famous in the company.
Until one day, the appearance of Wenya made a subtle change in his life.
Wen Ya, a new female colleague, is married, and her husband has been working outside for a long time.
The first impression of urbane is gentle and reserved.
Whenever she turned to Anan for help, she always had a grateful look in her eyes.
At first, Anan didn't think much about it, after all, in the workplace, it is normal to help each other.
Over time, Wenya's dependence on Anan seems to have gone beyond the norm.
Every time she encounters difficulties, Anan is always the first to come to mind.
Anan also slowly noticed that whenever Wenya looked at him, there was always a special emotion in her eyes.
Every time she asks for help, it seems to go beyond the help of colleagues and contain more emotional colors.
However, it didn't take long for her to leave the company suddenly.
A month later, Anan received a text message from Wen Ya.
Because her husband came back, because she divorced her husband before, and met such a good person as Anan, she really wanted to be with Anan.
Therefore, every time Wenya asks for help, every look in her eyes, it is a hint of Anan's emotions.
Anan is also a normal person, and after a long time, he will definitely be able to feel it.
If it weren't for Wen Ya, because her husband changed his mind and went home.
There will definitely be a cheating relationship between Wenya and Anan.
3.Go out and play alone
Sometimes the company has a holiday for us to travel, and there must be a lot of people at that time.
Some girls may not want to be with so many people, and they will choose to make a private appointment with you.
In this case, there are two reasons, either your relationship is too good or the girl likes you a little.
However, be careful, because she may suddenly confess to you when she has had her heart.
But if you don't have any feelings for her, it's best not to go out alone with her, lest she confess to you when the time comes
It's awkward to accept or reject. After all, you haven't opened your mouth yet, and everyone can still be friends; Once you say it, I'm afraid even ordinary colleagues can't do it!
A few years ago, I went on a business trip with my colleague Cortana.
It was almost ten o'clock that night, and Cortana knocked on the door, and joked, "Sir, is there anything you need?" ”
I almost spat out a mouthful of old blood and asked her, "What do you command?" Sister! ”
Cortana said angrily: "Who is your sister, call the eldest sister." Let's go out for some supper. ”
I had to put on my T-shirt and tell her, "Please, I'll go." ”
On that business trip, the company arranged for me to train new customers with Cortana in a small coastal town in the north.
Because I have lived in the mainland for a long time, I feel a little new to the beach, especially Xiao Na, who took the initiative to apply to the leader to go around.
This job is actually not easy, it needs to be busy for several days, training and practicing at the same time. The leader saw that she took the initiative to ask, and she didn't say anything, anyway, the accommodation is also paid for by the customer, and it doesn't matter if you open an extra room.
After the first day of work, the customer invited him to dinner, and he drank a lot on the wine table, but he didn't eat much.
Back at the hotel, after less than an hour, Cortana felt a little hungry, so she knocked on the door and told Daqiang to go out for supper.
I asked about the location of the snack street at the front desk, and I decided to walk over after walking for more than ten minutes.
Out of the hotel, only to find that this seaside town is particularly quiet at night, after ten o'clock on the road pedestrians in twos and threes.
Cortana and I chose a route by the sea that we passed during the day, and we talked as we walked.
That day, I don't know if it was because of the previous drunkenness or the breeze blowing on the beach, anyway, I walked out with Cortana for a while, and suddenly put my arm into the crook of my arm, held it and said, "It's a little dizzy, so safe." ”
I said, "Why don't we go back, and you won't vomit on me again ...... later."”
Before she finished speaking, Cortana gave me a "snap" and said, "My mother is not like that." ”
I quickly begged for mercy and offered to sit on a bench on the beach, and she readily agreed.
Later, after sitting on the bench for half an hour, Cortana lost her appetite and slipped down the street before returning to the hotel.
Cortana rested on Daqiang's shoulder on the bench for a while, but I didn't dare to move, and I didn't dare to ask more.
When she returned to the door of her hotel room, Cortana said "I like you" softly, turned around and entered the house.
Leave me with a confused face, eldest sister, you are married**, say you like me, what do you mean?
4.Contact is too intimate
Opposites attract is an animal instinct, and as long as you are emotionally rich, you will naturally pay attention to the opposite sex around you.
If a female colleague is also interesting to you and likes to take the initiative to chat with you, others will inevitably think that you are mixed together every day.
This can cause others to be jealous or even ostracize you, and your boss can misunderstand that you are in love in the office and cause problems for your work. If you are sincerely in love, you should fall in love underground; If you don't mean that, don't be too intimate. Don't interact too often with female colleagues, and try to avoid bad influences.
A female friend shared with me that her husband had an affair with a female colleague.
Once, after my daughter's dance class, my husband didn't come to pick us up, so we braved the rain to go home on a rainy day. But I saw a reminder message on my phone that my car was entering the mall, so I was suspicious.
That night, I looked through my husband's mobile phone and found that he had dinner with his female colleague after work, and at the same time picked up the unmarried female colleague from work for more than 3 months, and told me that he was just stopping by.
At first, I strongly expressed my dissatisfaction, explaining that colleagues of the opposite sex need to have a sense of boundaries when getting along, but he still picks them up the next day.
I added the female colleague's WeChat, and she explained to me on WeChat that she had no contact with my husband except for work.
Subjectively speaking, the man took the initiative to pick up and drop off at work, so I communicated with him later from the aspects of bad impact on the family and work, so he did not pick him up again.
And then came the 1On Chinese New Year's Eve, my husband's company had an early holiday that day.
He reported in advance that he would be having a party with a few of his colleagues (two men and one woman) who were having a better time that day, and I agreed.
But on the same day, he went to the mall to buy fruit cakes and other things to send to his female colleague first, and picked up the female colleague to the place where he had a dinner, and deleted the consumption record afterwards.
When I confronted him, he went from being stunned to reacting later, directly denied it, and asked me, how do you prove that I sent a female colleague?
At present, the female colleague's WeChat has been deleted by me.
But the relationship between husband and wife is average. Waiting for the child to go to cram school together, sitting together is also his mobile phone and I brush the mobile phone, no more communication.
He's been saying he doesn't like me lately.
My husband once teased a girl in 18 years, and this time it may be my frightened bird, or it may be a wake-up call for me.
Conclusion:
That's it for an office romance. It is simple and convenient to be ambiguous, close to the water, the time cost and capital cost are low, and at the same time, you can take care of each other, take care of both public and private, and kill multiple birds with one stone.
Deficiencies, once exposed, both sides lose, at least embarrassed with each other, difficult to get along, or heavy to roll up and leave, lose work, embarrassed.
Get along with female colleagues, leave some self-esteem, self-love, to others, but also to yourself, no longer have nothing to do, have a little kindness, have a little beauty, be kind to others, let others go is to let go of yourself, and it is convenient for you to be convenient with others.