Confucius has long taught us the principle of making friends: "Three friends are good, friends are straight, friends are clear, and friends are knowledge." "To put it simply, it is to find friends who are frank, honest, open-minded, and well-informed, because such friends deserve deep friendship the most.
A closer look at this old saying is actually just telling us a profound truth: life to middle age is like a long journey, which requires more wisdom and reflection. At this stage, we might as well examine our words and deeds, properly put away some past habits, and meet the future days with a more relaxed attitude.
1.Stop the comparison.
There's an old saying, "People are more likely to get angry than others." "Comparing is like setting limits on yourself, because there will always be someone better than you.
We should look at life more rationally and not let comparisons overshadow our inner peace. As the saying goes, "Different ways don't conspire with each other." "Everyone has their own path, and the game is their own perseverance and hard work.
In this society where comparisons are rampant, we are always pushed forward, wanting to surpass others, not wanting to fall behind. However, comparison will only make us lose ourselves in the light of others and ignore our own uniqueness.
Life is not a marathon, but a dialogue with yourself. Therefore, when people reach middle age, they must learn to stop, examine themselves, understand what their pursuit is for, do not be swayed by the voices of the outside world, and maintain inner peace.
2.Don't be impetuous.
As you reach middle age, you may have achieved some things in your career, but you may also face new challenges. At this time, we need to think calmly and not be affected by the impetuous atmosphere of the outside world.
Lao Tzu said: "The more you learn, the more the Tao is damaged, and the more you lose it, so that nothing can be accomplished." "In your career, you can learn to calm down in order to see the direction of progress more clearly.
On the road of pursuing our dreams, we are often easily carried away by the utilitarian and beneficial interests in front of us, and become impetuous. But middle age is a time when reason and emotion meet, and we need to think more calmly about our goals and pursuits.
Learn to precipitate and look at the gains and losses of life rationally, so that we can face the future variables more calmly.
3.Cut unrealistic spending.
In middle age, managing money becomes even more important. Don't let your career success lead to the neglect of sound financial planning. As Warren Buffett famously said, "Don't put all your eggs in one basket." ”
Reasonable investments and expenditures can better protect life in the future.
Wealth is not the only indicator of happiness, but it is crucial to deal with financial issues rationally in middle age. Whether it is workplace income or investment and financial management, you need to look at it rationally and don't overindulge because of the momentary scenery.
In life, we must learn to be moderately restrained and rationally plan the road for the future.
4.Let go of nostalgia for the past.
We get caught up in memories of the past and nostalgia for who we used to be. However, dwelling on the past can cause us to lose faith and courage in the future.
Looking back on past accomplishments is something to celebrate, but dwelling too much on the past can lead to stagnation. Only by letting go of the past can we better meet the challenges of the future.
Remember, life is moving forward, and only by letting go of the past, cherishing the present, and not forgetting the original intention, can you live more calmly in middle age.
In middle life, putting away some past habits moderately is more conducive to a balanced life and having a better middle age. I hope that everyone's middle age can live a more leisurely life, cherish the present, and embrace the future.