Below I have summarized 13 symptoms of the end of a marital relationship, if there are 5 or more, it can become painful to be together.
1.They slept in separate beds and were not married.
As the saying goes, a husband and wife fight at the end of the bed, and in the end, it is still a bed fight. No matter what the reason, the two had no chance to reconcile and slept in separate rooms, but the relationship between husband and wife deteriorated day by day.
When the couple's life is not satisfactory for a long time, the other person will become very depressed. This is an opportunity for outsiders. When a relationship is fragile, outsiders are most likely to sabotage it and are more likely to cheat. 。
I have a friend who sleeps in separate beds with her husband because she has to take care of the children. Every time her husband said he wanted to be with her, she refused. She said the kids were all here. If she refuses for a long time and you take the initiative again, the two of you will be separated for a long time.
Her husband was very depressed and often complained outside. Later, he met a woman outside, and he immediately fell in love with her arms, because she met his physical needs and listened to her husband.
2.They don't want to talk to each other, zero communication with each other.
Their relationship faded. Some people have no expectations of their partner and feel cold towards their partner. This is not true. There is no communication between two people, there is no other person who lives their own lives, and even if his partner wants to talk to him, he will not take the initiative to try to talk to him.
3. One or both parties have an extramarital relationship, and the marriage relationship exists in name only.
For a long time, the marriage relationship existed only in name. They are ostensibly affectionate in front of their children, but one or both of them are husband and wife. In an extramarital affair.
Due to his wife's betrayal, Xiao Gang was unable to forgive her even though the marriage continued. I was tired of seeing my wife since I learned about her betrayal, but I was reluctant to divorce her for the sake of my children. Married life is just a name, let's live our own lives.
Xiao Gang often finds women outside and does not come home at night. It's up to you to come home when you want to go home or not to come home when you don't want to. His wife never asked about him, and their relationship was long over.
4. Without emotion, no one cares about each other.
The two have not had a relationship for a long time, and no one cares about each other. For the sake of our children, we make ends meet through marriage.
Shaolin doesn't care about Shaolin because she has been treated badly by her husband and hates him. Xiao Lin is depressed and has no expectations for her husband. For them, for me, this marriage is just for the children.
5. There is no trust between husband and wife.
There is no trust between husband and wife. For example, if someone wants to go out, you can ask them where they're going and who they're with. If the other person doesn't come home at night, you suspect that the other person is home. Some people secretly check other people's phones at night, track their location during the day, and have their friends *** ask them all day about what they are doing and who they are with.
6.They quarrel at every turn and do not give in to anyone.
We often argue over small things, but no one concedes to anyone. In fact, it is normal for couples to quarrel, but one party is bound to lose. Bow your head and have a chance to reconcile. If two people quarrel and neither gives in to the other, then the quarrel becomes even more serious.
7. The money is separated and clear.
All fees are clearly separated. Each side spends its own money. After marriage, it is the joint property of the husband and wife. The more you care about it, the more detailed it becomes. On the other hand, the heart of the party is cold.
8.Perennial ignorance of the relentless violence of your existence.
Quarrels in marriage are common and often become violent. Whether at home or outside, the brutal violence lasts for more than half a month at a time. You are air.
9. There is a serious lack of communication, and the call time is less than 10 minutes a day.
Communication between husband and wife is serious. Even though we were together every day, they did their own things and didn't talk much. At least 10 minutes a day.
10.His primary concern is you. This includes parents and siblings.
He never cared about you or your feelings. He cares about others and his family, but not about you.
11.I hate my parents and family. No matter how hard we try to make amends, it is useless.
He really hates your parents and family and often gets into conflict with them. No matter how hard you try to make it up, it's useless.
12.If you feel uncomfortable when you encounter something, you will file for divorce if there is a conflict.
When he encounters something, he will feel that he can't stand it and will often bring up the topic of divorce in front of you. Bringing up the topic of divorce during a marriage can be very emotionally hurtful. Whatever conflict you have, don't bring it up. "You can always get a divorce. People often ask for a divorce, even if they didn't get divorced in the first place. If you want a divorce, the other party may agree to the divorce because they think you really want a divorce. You often file for divorce, even though it's not worth it. You're just talking, you don't really want a divorce.
I have a friend who faked a divorce from her husband in order to buy a house. She said that when she bought a house, they would remarry. Later, my husband had to agree and file for divorce. When the woman wanted to remarry, her husband had no intention of divorcing or remarrying at that time, but she often mentioned this matter, and he also attached great importance to it.
13. Frequent quarrels, the beginning of the Cold War.
The quarrels between the two became more and more frequent. After the quarrel, they often had a cold war that lasted more than a week. No one wants to bow their heads. and reconcile.
If there are more than five people, the marriage is over. If we stay together, we make each other suffer. If you want your marriage to last, you need to run it well.