The famous female writer Tie Ning once said: "It's better not to get married than to make do." "Yes, men are afraid of getting into the wrong business, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, so you must keep your eyes open before getting married. External conditions are only superficial, and a happy married life is supported by the following feelings: two people.
So, what does it take to have a happy marriage? There are six conditions for a happy marriage.
1. Is there love between you?
It has been said that marriage does not necessarily require love. It doesn't matter if there is love or not, as long as two people are suitable or both want to get married. Love or not, marriage is the same. A skyscraper without a solid foundation is fraught with danger, but a marriage with a spiritual foundation is stronger.
It is true that it is difficult to find a loved one who is willing to be with you these days, but don't worry. Love also needs fate. Don't rush to get married until you meet your beloved. Don't think you can get married. You can cultivate affection in marriage.
You can live together even after getting married. Don't marry just for the sake of succession. Marriage is a lifelong event. It's up to you to decide whether you're happy or not, and it's not as simple as buying groceries.
2.Are you a good match?
Compatibility is an old phenomenon that is still very important in modern times.
If you look closely at the people around you, you will find that harmonious families rarely talk about love. What maintains family stability is the compatibility, fit, and sense of responsibility between two people. The background, educational background, economic conditions and other conditions of both parties match.
If the family backgrounds of two people are very different, it may be like a woman marrying a husband with a mediocre family background but a very good family background.
Ever since you got married, your mother-in-law has started looking down on you in every way. She feels that you are dependent on your family and that you become worthless. She looks down on you, on your family, relatives and friends.
3. Do the two have compatible personalities?
Personality plays an important role in determining whether a marriage is happy or not. Whether a person is suitable for you depends on your personality. If your personalities don't match, you'll have more problems. After all, once a person's personality is formed, it is difficult to change, so if you want to get married, you need to choose a person with the right personality.
For example, you like to play outside, and he likes to stay at home. You like to watch TV, but he likes to watch football games. The things you like are completely different from his, and your thoughts are completely different from his.
4.Are your values equal?
Only by sharing the same values can we unite. For example, you are loving, have a sense of justice, and value friendship and affection, but your lover may say, "You are selfish, and if you value your relatives and friends, they will do their best for you." "Expressing such feelings is opposed.
When people think about things differently, there will naturally be more arguments and fewer emotions. After all, in a long-term marriage, similar values will reduce a lot of misunderstandings and quarrels.
5.Do you have a common purpose in life?
Both must have a common goal. If you work hard and struggle together, no matter how difficult it is, sooner or later you will reach the end.
If one person is wandering around and the other person has their own goals, one person stops and the other person reaches the 19th floor, he or she will meet a person similar to himself on the 18th floor and leave you. Work alone and with that person to achieve your goals in life.
6.Do you have a similar outlook on life?
For example, if your outlook on life is not the same, and your outlook on life is to read more, but the other person thinks that you are old, then what is the point of reading? Isn't it? , and the other person's outlook on life is wealth, he thinks that you study, spend time studying, but waste money, have little value to the family, and quarrel over disagreements.