"I don't know if I'm a boy or a girl, I have gender-specific organs. Wang Ziqi said helplessly when facing **.
In daily life, we often hear adults ask, "Do you have a boy or a girl", in our common sense, a person is either a boy or a girl, there is no other option, but for some special people, there is a third option, that is, we often hear a word "yin and yang people", also called intersex people.
Faced with her identity, the young Wang Ziqi not only had to suffer from the gossip outside, but was finally kicked out of the house by her parents, what kind of life does she live now at the age of 34?
"Monster".
In 1989, an ordinary family in Taiyuan, Shanxi Province, gave birth to a special child, but no one found out about her problem at that time.
Wang Ziqi's family conditions are very ordinary, but as the only girl in the family, she has been loved by her parents and brother, and she has not suffered from life.
Before she went to the third grade of primary school, Wang Ziqi was a little princess who opened her mouth with food and stretched out her hands with clothes, but God didn't seem to be used to seeing a child so happy, and insisted on adding some tribulations to her life.
When Wang Ziqi was ten years old, one day she suddenly felt a pimple between her legs, which was very uncomfortable, so she hurried to find her mother, "I have a pimple, am I going to die." ”
The mother looked at the small bag that had just been bulging, and was also very strange, afraid that something would happen to the child's body, so she called her husband and hurriedly took the child to the hospital for examination.
I don't know if I don't check it, I was shocked when I checked it, the test results showed "46,xx", and the doctor explained: "The child is not a tumor, but a congenital hermaphroditism, although the prevalence of this disease is very small, but there are still some, but according to the current level is not good**." ”
The prevalence is like this, why did it fall on Wang Ziqi? In fact, there are two explanations, the first is that the mother may have an accident during the pregnancy of the child, resulting in a defect in the child's genes.
The second is the problem of the child itself, but what it is in the end is still uncertain, no matter what it is, the final result has been determined, that is, Wang Ziqi is still a girl, but she has grown a male *** official.
When she heard the news, her mother seemed to change her face, and kept muttering: "It's better to be a tumor, why is it such a non-male and non-female appearance." ”
In such a scene, even the young Wang Ziqi deeply felt the malice from his parents.
Depressed days
When she got home, her parents still didn't say a word to her, and it wasn't until much later that her mother said, "Don't tell any of your friends about it when you go to school." ”
At first, Wang Ziqi didn't understand why, but as she grew older, she gradually understood, she knew that her body was different from others, and she was like a "monster".
has both male and female organs.,Obviously I was a girl before.,Now the voice is getting stronger and stronger.,All kinds of signs on the body are swearing one thing - "monster".
The more she grew up, the more she knew about her distress, and in order to hide the secrets of her body, Wang Ziqi rarely drank water at school, just to avoid going to the toilet, because the toilet is the easiest time to be discovered.
Usually, she will also fight with her classmates around her, everyone says that she is a cheerful girl, but she will always avoid the distance between two people when others are inadvertent, and behind her very good personality is her most real inferiority complex.
During the school period, the girl's favorite thing is to be inseparable, even if she goes to the toilet together, although she is very careful every time, but often walks by the river, how can she not wet her shoes.
Once, when she went to the toilet, she was accidentally discovered by the girl who was afraid of the right girl next to her, and the whole thing was out of control, and the child would never know how much harm innocence can bring to people.
Although many words will not be said on the bright side, Wang Ziqi can also faintly hear the surrounding discussions, from a few people to a group of people, and then from a group of people to various classes, the sound of the entire campus discussion seems to have become a closed loop of chanting, and the depressed Wang Ziqi can only breathe.
Even the few little girls who often played with her stayed away from her, because they thought that Wang Ziqi was half a boy and didn't want to play with her.
Some boys are also open-mouthed, insulting with all kinds of ugly words, and making some inappropriate jokes, which is very uncomfortable.
The rebellion and the separation
As the saying goes, good things don't go out, bad things spread thousands of miles, originally Wang Ziqi's body, no one in the whole village knew, but there were many people in the school and her place, the students told their parents about it, and the adults talked about it as a topic of chat, and this came and went, and Wang Ziqi's secrets were made public.
Whenever Wang Ziqi appears in front of everyone, she is like a monkey performing on the circus stage, for people, looking up and down, as if everyone's eyes are on her.
The adults in the village also did not let the children play with her, they cursed and said ugly words, and some children even threw stones at Wang Ziqi's body.
She didn't understand why the people around her spit on her, and she didn't want to be sick.
Just when Wang Ziqi thought that she could take these gossips as a deaf ear, her closest parents came to a draw.
Although my parents have almost given me a smile since my physical problems, everything is normal in terms of life.
But what she never expected was that her parents would kick her out of the house, and one day, Wang Ziqi returned home against the noisy outside sounds, only to see that her clothes and daily necessities had been placed in the living room.
Wang Ziqi asked curiously"Mom, is my mom going to visit relatives? ”
Go away, stay away from here, we won't have to hear these ugly words anymore, you have the ability to work now, we don't ask you to feed us in the future, only ask you not to come back. Mother said indifferently.
Every word her mother said was like a sharp sword, piercing Wang Ziqi's heart one by one, and the blood in her whole heart became indestructible.
After that, her parents never called ** again, as if they really hadn't given birth to this girl, and only her brother occasionally called ** to ask if there was a place to live, if she ate well, and would transfer a little money to her to maintain her life.
Looking forward to the future
After leaving her hometown, Wang Ziqi came to Shenzhen, which has great employment prospects, to look for a job.
After working in a place for a period of time, she will choose to quit, for fear that she will find her secrets around her at the same time, she lives in anxiety every day, and her life is uncertain.
She has always hoped that after the development of medicine, she can recover her health through surgery and become a normal woman, and finally one day, the doctor told her that the current surgery is very safe, as long as she has 200,000 yuan for the operation.
Faced with such good news, Wang Ziqi cried with joy, she was finally able to live the life she dreamed of, but how could she find it difficult to deal with the 200,000 yuan surgery fee?
Even though the road ahead is very difficult, she still chooses to forge ahead, fortunately, a hospital is willing to give her free surgery, a total of two surgeries, when all the surgeries are done, Wang Ziqi can be a healthy girl.
On December 7, 34-year-old patient Wang Ziqi announced that she would undergo surgery in the near future to become a woman, and her long-awaited life was finally coming true, no longer having to worry about the secrets of her body being discovered all the time, and she could make friends openly and happily at will.
Although Wang Ziqi can live a normal life in the future, the shadow left on her body is not easy to eliminate, the damage in a person's heart, the shadow of childhood, must be taken to ** for a lifetime, never underestimate a person's psychological damage, far greater than the body.
Therefore, when we are faced with "different" things, we should be considerate of others with the greatest kindness, and perhaps our own insignificant kindness will be a light in the lives of others.