If parents need to hold a certificate to work, I think most people may fail the exam for the first time. Jackie Chan welcomes the New Year
Why?
(1) I am still a "child".
That's how I am. When I had the boss, I felt like a mother, but there are many issues, and now I look back and look back at the way I handled it at that time. That's why I say that adults are still children. You can also understand this behavior as **childhood. Because of the flaws in his childhood, when he became a parent, he couldn't see through the flaws, and sometimes he even compared himself with his children.
(2) Insufficient knowledge reserves
Now if you want to raise an excellent child, either the child himself is highly talented, but most of them still require a lot of energy from parents. For example, what should I do with newborn milk? What causes babies to cry for 3 days and nights? How to intervene when the child grows slowly? The child began to talk back, incarnate 100,000 whys, didn't want to learn, and had no goals......These problems of children require pediatrics, nutrition, family education, parenting, psychology, encyclopedic knowledge, etc.
Like a child who is milky, crying at night, and growing slowly, we can also take the child to the child care department. Children talk back, 100,000 whys, don't want to learn, have no goals, really want to find someone to ask for advice, and have no goals. For the same problem, different growth environments and different parental personalities, the solutions may be very different. Moreover, our education methods may be influenced by our original family, and we don't know that we have used the wrong method.
(3) Self-righteousness with a good face
Many parents always want to hold their own shelves and maintain the authority of their parents in the face of their children's problems. This kind of behavior is like a blinding leaf, blinding the parents to see the essence of the matter.
Therefore, if you can only be a parent by exam, I guess many parents will fail the exam for the first time. Because they don't have children, they don't know what changes will happen to their lives after they have children, and what changes they have to make. If a person does not understand the actual situation of things, he only inputs knowledge, but only stays on the surface of knowledge, and will also make some behaviors that he thinks is correct due to his own experience from childhood to adulthood.
Many mothers who raise their children with their own hearts find that accompanying their children to grow up is the process of their own secondary growth. In order to learn more about her child, mothers have to learn a lot of knowledge, read a lot of books, constantly improve themselves, and expand their knowledge. After the child goes to school, he will accompany the child to re-learn from the first grade, which is more useful than when he was in school. Therefore, many mothers also say that it is the child who has taken advantage of himself.
Having given birth to 2 children, I admit that the process of raising children was hard. But we can't stop at the "child-rearing problem", we still have to make progress. It is recommended that mothers read heart-warming parenting books, which will contain empathetic examples, practical experiences shared by other mothers, and some scientific theories to help us better understand our children, understand ourselves, and make correct behaviors and judgments. 
Add**Annotation, no more than 140 words (optional) "Good mothers are not tired of parenting" is very easy to read, I feel that my parenting problems have been sorted out after reading, and I also know that some children's problems are common, and I also clarify my own methods. It is recommended that mothers who are confused about parenting read this book, and there may be the answer you want.
I'm a mother, a mother who is serious about parenting and making herself stronger.