Colleague Xiao Huang's family lives in the suburbs of the city, many years ago when our Nanjing girls got married without the bride price, she said that when she got married, her mother said that the bride price does not matter, but to marry a daughter must receive a bride price, do not accept the bride price to marry the daughter, to make people laugh, indicating that the daughter is not worthless, in the in-law family can not be respected.
I asked Xiao Li, "Then how much did your mother ask for the bride price at that time?" ”
She said: "I didn't ask for much, I asked for 200 yuan at that time." ”
I joked, "So you're worth $200?" ”
She said: "That is to say, there are such rules for marriage in the suburbs, and it is a shame for a family to marry a daughter who does not receive a bride price." ”
Not to mention that my colleague Xiaohuang's family status at home is very high, and she has a hot temper, but for so many years, her husband and daughter have thought that he is a saddle and obeys her words. She said everything at home, and her status was very strong. I don't know if it has something to do with his mother receiving a 200 yuan bride price back then?
More than 20 years ago, when I got married, no one in my family thought of a bride price, and the older generation of our family, the girls of my generation and the next generation, never asked the man's family for a bride price.
I thought that more than 20 years ago, there was no such rule at all, and now the children ask for a bride price for marriage, which is also a rule derived from the good living conditions. Who knew that my peers had the rule of asking for a bride price when they got married more than 20 years ago. It seems that I am lonely and unheard.
With the development of the times, I feel that many marriages in the city have also put forward the requirements of bride price, and the era of marriage in our era and the woman's family not caring about material conditions has passed.
Whether it's a custom or a bad custom, I think it's okay not to go too far, as long as both parties agree to it. If it is because of the bride price and the families of both parties are unhappy, and it affects the relationship between the in-laws and the young couple, it will outweigh the losses.
Friends, do you have to accept or give a bride price for your wedding?