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I am handsome, with a good diploma, but my family background is average. At marriageable age, I prefer to find a beautiful girl who can live with me in the future, but my dream has not been able to come true. In the end, I had no choice but to settle for my ex-wife. Although the ex-wife is average-looking, she has a solid family background. Considering that after marrying my ex-wife, she was able to help me in my career, and when she took the initiative to pursue me, I reluctantly accepted her.
The year after we got married, our child was born. At this point, my parents-in-law were no longer defensive about me, so they provided me with start-up capital for my business, and at the same time, they also introduced me to a lot of contacts. So, I'm also having a smooth ride in business. After a long time, I forgot the kindness of my parents-in-law and felt that the wealth I currently possessed was the result of my own outstanding ability. So much so that when I was in the sixth year of my married life, I filed for divorce from my ex-wife. During this period, my ex-wife had struggled to keep me, but I was bent on finding a young and beautiful woman to start a new life, so my ex-wife's hard work was ineffective, and I felt that she was an obstacle in my life.
The actual situation is that those contacts introduced to me by my parents-in-law, after hearing the news of my divorce from my ex-wife, took the initiative to choose to stand by my parents-in-law and immediately stopped cooperating with me in business. At the same time, some of my own contacts also terminated their cooperation with me after hearing that my character was not up to par. As a result, my business started to lose money. In this case, I naturally don't have the mood to look for a young and beautiful girl, not to mention, in the case of my career is more decadent, there is no young and beautiful girl willing to be my girlfriend. At this point, I realized that divorcing my ex-wife was a stupid decision, so I cheekily went to my ex-wife to remarry, but my ex-wife refused. My ex-wife's riposte about what happened to me now: I desecrated the sanctity of marriage and deserved to be beaten by life.
In this case, I had no choice but to close the company and start working for others. Looking back at the experience of recent years: I was "made" back to the original point by myself.
Mu Zi Li emotion**:
In life, we must not fail the following four kinds of people:
1. People who have been kind to you in your career.
In the process of struggling for a career, ability, opportunity, Bole, and luck will all occupy more important factors. Let's take a look at the business giants we all know at present, they basically have a good educational background, and there must be bigwigs behind them to support them at the beginning of their careers, the key is that they have caught up with the trend of the times, although there are people who follow them, but it is difficult to surpass them. Since career is a relatively important existence for a person, then, after the career is successful, don't stage crossing the river and demolishing the bridge, otherwise, it will bring you very unfavorable comments at the ** level. Once your credibility is denied by too many people in the industry, it will inevitably affect your career, and even worse, it will make your previous efforts go to waste.
2. People who really give you in the emotional field.
There is a saying that if you don't cherish the person who treats you like your life, you will inevitably meet someone who treats you like a dog. The correct interpretation of this sentence: 1) Some people, because of their solid family background, because of good conduct, or because of their strong ability to run a family, and can form a look up to you and tolerate you. Once you lose the other party and make a mistake in front of a person who is harsh to you, it will inevitably affect the stability of your career; 2) People like to compare, when you lose a person who is particularly good to you, and meet a current one who has not been able to surpass your predecessor's good to you, you will invisibly gain a sense of loss, so that you have regret and shame for the loss of your ex.
3. People who can provide you with positive energy on an emotional level.
In the long river of life, we can meet all kinds of people, among them, you will feel relaxed when you are with some people, and with some people, you will be inexplicably depressed. For this reason, many people prefer to admire those who have a special sense of humor. The reality is that some people are with you, which can bring you open-minded and happy positive energy, while with some people, they will only take you with a heavy heart with a pessimistic attitude towards life. For this reason, we need to have a more sober understanding of the part about appearance: when the other party is not in a state of being extremely ugly, the more comfortable it will be; In the case that the other party makes you fall in love at first sight, it's just like watching too much. For this reason, interesting souls are the main factor you should consider.
Fourth, there is no one who dislikes you when you are down.
Some of the things we often hear about life: no profit is too early; There are no eternal friends, only eternal interests; Man dies for money, and birds die for food. It can be seen that people are originally a group that pursues profits. Because of this, we should cherish those who do not dislike themselves when they are down, and even help us within the scope of their ability. It's a pity that there are always some people who forget their roots after their careers have developed, and think that they are now in a role that many people can't climb, so that they are ungrateful in life. As everyone knows, there is another phenomenon in life: the boat can carry the boat and capsize the boat. The phenomenon we often see: some people are in a relatively adrift state after they have money, so that they are unable to enjoy the wealth they have struggled for, and finally return to the origin of ordinariness or poverty.
At the beginning of your career, your ideal other half: has an outstanding appearance; Similar to your family background; can accompany you through a hard life. Unfortunately, your dreams didn't come true. At this time, with your outstanding appearance, you met your ex-wife who was a nymphomaniac. So, you see him as your second best in the emotional realm, and the result of your marriage is formed. Especially after you have children, you should have the mentality that your married life is as it is, but unfortunately, after you have succeeded in your career, you forget how your career started, and self-righteously feel that you are more capable of it. So, you played the negative man in front of your ex-wife. As a result, your divorce led to a devastating career.
When you don't have the protection of your ex-wife and her parents, you finally see the reality: your abilities are actually very average. During this time, you tasted the dilemma of the wall falling down and everyone pushing it. So, you realize that divorcing your ex-wife is a stupid decision. At this time, you cheekily go to your ex-wife to remarry, but your ex-wife has completely denied your character, and in this case, she will naturally not re-accept you. Although the divorce turmoil will make your ex-wife bear the label of a second-hand woman, because of her solid family background, she is bound to remain a more sought-after presence in the remarriage market. On the other hand, after so many years of struggle, once returned to the pre-liberation period. Without the blessing of age advantage, without the blessing of money advantage, you will become a difficult household to find a remarriage partner. At this moment, I can only say to you: you deserve it.
Editor's note: There is an instinct for profit in human nature, and at the same time, you can't let yourself be a white-eyed wolf. When a person's virtue is denied by too many people around him, it will naturally result in isolation. For this reason, at the level of dealing with the world, never think that you are very smart, and everyone around you can be played with by you. If you don't behave properly, you may eventually sigh: the clown is actually yourself.
When people first meet, they can usually show hypocritical politeness, but it is impossible for people to stay at the stage of first meeting. We must always understand that life is a continuous process. Don't just focus on vested interests and hurt too many innocents. Once you lose your way, you will form a helpless situation, and at that time, there will be no regret medicine for you to take.
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