Original Wen Xiqing.
After having a baby, my life is very simple. Almost all social interaction was cut off.
At the beginning, I will chat in the Bao Ma group, learn from the experience of pregnancy and baby, and later, I basically understood it with me, no doubts, everyone went out to work one after another, and the once lively group has become a zombie group, and I have lost the chat on WeChat.
All the energy is spent on children, reading parenting books, and educating children with the methods in books, Dabao is okay at present. Some time ago, my high school classmates stayed with my child for a day and told me that my child was educating very well.
In the past few years of marriage, I have been getting along with my husband very harmoniously. There are no major differences, the big decisions in the family are discussed together, and the education of the children is all left to me. After going through some things, I admire my husband very much, especially in the handling of my relationship with me, and I recognize him very much.
A few years before I got married, when I was in a bad mood, he would coax me. In recent years, he didn't coax, but chose to do his thing, he called me a few times, I ignored him, and he went to play with his phone. If I ignore him, he will say something that will make me laugh.
Of course, when I have emotions, I have a cold war with him first, and when I see that he really ignores me, my emotions will disappear. I don't think I can always be immersed in that unpleasant thing, I have to eat, I have to live, and I have to collect my emotions.
One of my biggest drawbacks is that I shed tears easily. When I quarrel with my husband, he stings my self-esteem and I feel wronged, I can't stop crying.
Sometimes I cry secretly, sometimes I cry openly. After having a baby, there are more times when I cry quietly. Don't let my children cry when they see me, they will cry too.
The situation where women can cry has helped me release a lot of emotions. Therefore, when you feel wronged, when you feel that you are difficult, you can't help crying out loud, which is a kind of relief and release for yourself.
The gentleman was also very accommodating to me. He works until 10 o'clock every day, and I have to accompany them after bathing in order to get the children to bed early, so that they can fall asleep. I often sleep with me, the child's clothes are not washed, and he will help wash them when he comes back.
When I don't have time for housework, he doesn't talk about messing up at home. Even if I don't cook well, he eats. I will also help take care of my child when he is sick. These little things make me feel like I've found a good husband all the time.
He has no other bad hobbies except for swiping his mobile phone when he has time. Of course, he's too homely. I just want to use my phone during the holidays. I would complain that he wanted to spend more time with the children, and would take us out to play from time to time when he was free.
I'm also more homely and like to be alone. When I take the baby, I won't go out far away, and the children need to take them out to see, so I hope that my husband can go out for a walk during the holidays. I would complain to him about the monotony of life. Life after marriage is all about livelihood, and there is no time to enjoy life.
But just talk about it, nothing has changed. It's not easy to support a family, now is the age to work hard to make money, just leave the sweetness in old age, isn't that what the old saying goes. When I was young, I couldn't appreciate profound words, but when I think about it now, it's true, many times I feel that Chinese culture is broad and profound, and those idioms are the correct philosophy of life left over from ancient times.
It also reminds me of my mother's persuasion, when I was young, I liked to fight against my parents, but now I feel that I should do what they said at the time.
It is said that marriage is not a matter of two people, but of two families. My husband and I have made our lives a matter of the two of us. My mother's family will not interfere in our affairs, and my mother-in-law's family will not interfere in our lives. Both of us are far away from our hometowns and settled in a third city, and our relatives are too far away from us, except for the Chinese New Year, we usually don't have the opportunity to meet each other, I think this is to a certain extent, so that we have less complicated interpersonal relationships and can focus more on our small family.
Sometimes I envy career women, sometimes I also feel that I am very good now, I will also be anxious about career and children, every time these moments, I will say to myself in my heart: "Everything is the best arrangement, do the urgent things in front of you well, and leave the rest to the arrangement of fate." ”
I also have a mother-in-law problem, a few years before the wedding, I thought that my mother-in-law was very good, and she was a good mother-in-law who was rare to meet, and as we got along for a long time, there would be opinions and disagreements. I agree with the phrase "family and everything", so in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I choose to remain silent and adjust my heart.
The quarrelsome marriage model of my parents' generation made me cherish my married life in the past few years. I am content with the status quo and accept the present.
Write at the end:
Don't be too ambitious, don't think too much, live every day with steadfastness and hard work, and marriage is not difficult. Do it and cherish it, I think I will definitely take care of the intimate relationship.