In the journey of raising children, many parents will encounter situations where they get angry at their children and even reprimand them loudly, and the more the children are in such situations, the more they want to hug us tightly. Why is that?
In their world, mom is their whole world. No matter how angry and angry we are, they will approach us with their small bodies and shout "Mommy hug" in their childish voices to confirm that we still love them. Because children are most dependent on their parents before the age of 3, they need us to feel safe from their parents. So, whether we give it or not, they will persevere, and they will want to get a sense of security from us.
These negative emotions will lay "mines" for their future growth and affect their mental health. Therefore, as parents, we should not use our children as a punching bag and vent our emotions at will. We need to constantly examine our own behavior and emotions, and put ourselves in the shoes of our children.
When we want to be angry with our child, we might as well stop and say to ourselves, "I need time to think about the moment." Allowing ourselves to stop, even if it is really a child's problem that needs our guidance, but when we are angry, it is meaningless for us to guide the child, the child can only see our anger and not listen to our reasoning.
Finally, we have to remember that parenting children is never easy.
From this moment on, we can face up to our emotions, often examine our hearts, and do more self-criticism, so that our children's childhood will not repeat our mistakes!