In a relationship, there is often a sense of satisfaction that we want from our boyfriend: demands and expectations, and if he can't give it to me, I'm unbalanced.
If the tone is not well controlled, it will trigger a round of attacks and accusations from him.
Not everyone has Internet addiction or smoking addiction, but almost everyone has some degree of addiction to interpersonal relationships, including parent-child relationships and romantic relationships.
This addiction is a desire to gain the approval of others, or the desire to be dependent on others.
Because most of the ways to achieve happiness and happiness require others to cooperate with me, that is, you need to cooperate with me, I can't be happy myself, you have to contribute a little happiness to me, and I will cooperate with your happiness.
However, this model is a bit problematic.
A kind of control over the outside world, I want you to do what I want, it's not a natural way.
You are able to fully get this sense of satisfaction, the feeling of fulfillment, from within yourself, and then share that feeling with the people in question. Such as boyfriends and parents.
Come to the state of happiness first, and you don't need other people to satisfy your state, and then share this state with them. You can still date, travel, and play. But the premise is different.
How am I going to change, or what am I going to change? How do you use the new mode?
The answer is to realize that you are complete and happy in yourself, and that you don't need to be dependent on the outside world.
Of course, breathing, eating, eating, and drinking water are not in the scope of our discussion. In addition to these dependencies on the outside world, other emotional needs in relationships can be self-sufficient.
We are awareness, one, not two. Our inner fulfillment does not require the satisfaction of external relationships.
Give your body some nutritious food, fresh air, and nice clothes. Remember that you are the essence and the outside is the illusion, and in the process, enjoy the illusion and provide help to others, if others need it.