Emotions There is a saying on the Internet called "the heart is separated from the belly".
The meaning of this sentence is: the man's heart is fickle and elusive.
He didn't know that no matter how fickle a man was, he also had emotional weaknesses.
Especially emotionally, these three fatal weaknesses are something that all women must understand.
It's a great way and a great way.
His past
Everyone has their own past, perhaps the darkest time, or the most memorable.
Either way, it will remind people of some of the past, while some will be buried deep in the heart and cannot be mentioned.
For some men, it was once a scar that should never be touched.
In fact, there are always people who have a grudge against a relationship and are difficult to let go; Some people let go of themselves because they let go.
And those men who hide their past in their hearts, although they seem to be strong, are all pretended to hide their weaknesses.
Some men, when their significant other half talks about their past, will lose control of their emotions, or do not say a word, do not say a word.
At this time, if a woman has to get to the bottom of it, it is rebellious.
Actually, you can pretend that you don't know and don't mind, so that you can give him a chance to make amends.
Instead of continuing to ask about his past, it is better to let him come out of the shadows of his past.
His spiritual needs
The author Xin Yiwu once said:
For a man, a relationship is just a short period of life. ”
It is true that men care more about spiritual needs than love.
Men pretend to be strong and hide their negative emotions and thoughts, and those wounds that have been hurt are often slowly digested by one person in the silent night.
But no matter how strong a person is, if he hides too many psychological needs, he will crush himself.
Therefore, women should pay more attention to the psychology of men, especially the needs that cannot be expressed directly.
When people encounter a low point in life, they will have doubts and lack of confidence in themselves, and at this time, they need the affirmation and encouragement of others;
When people are filled with the trivial things of life, they need a space where they can think freely;
In a busy life, a person is tired of work, but also longs for a home that can make him physically and mentally tired, and have a home of his own;
When people are lonely and depressed, they need someone to understand, someone to hug, and someone to warm up.
Women should pay more attention to men who are not good at expressing emotions; For someone who is willing to confide in you, you should listen more.
As it is said on the web:
The beauty and loneliness of the soul must always be experienced by someone. ”
His self-esteem
Wang Xiaobo once said:
All human suffering, in the final analysis, is due to their own incompetence. ”
For such feelings of powerlessness, men usually manifest themselves as maintaining self-esteem.
In life, there are always a few people who are not afraid of hardship and hardship.
However, they are afraid that their self-esteem will be hurt, especially that the woman they love will laugh at them for their incompetence.
A man's self-esteem is to maintain his "face", and no one can touch it.
Therefore, when it is time to give him face, you should also save some face for him.
In front of others, you have to know your own face;
When communicating, do not be too aggressive or aggressive;
When you fail, don't say cool things, and don't say no easily.
Of course, this kind of respect is not to tremble, be submissive, and grovel, but to protect his fragile heart, tolerate his inferiority complex that he does not want people to know, accept his flaws, and encourage him to move forward firmly.
There is such a line in "Girls' School":
I have always believed that love is fiery and lasting, but you can always overcome me. ”
In fact, there is no eternal love in this world, and long-term love must be maintained by love.
The most direct way to like a person is to find his weakness and then take good care of him.
Only in this way can the relationship between the two people be maintained.
Finally, I hope we can have a good partner to spend the rest of our lives: shallow and deep, happiness forever, meet and cherish each other, and never say that we are old.