As the old saying goes: "Keep your mouth shut in the group, and keep your heart in solitude." ”
People begin to get busy when they enter the wax moon, preparing to return to their hometowns for the New Year and welcome the arrival of relatives and friends. It's the most festive time of the year, when families come together and have fun together.
Parents and elders usually talk about their children, and their eyes are full of anticipation for the future and memories of the past. The reason why this kind of family gathering is warm is that family affection is always the most important support in our lives.
But when you meet people, you can talk about it, whether it's showmanship or complaining, don't talk about everything.
Especially the following 5 things, smart people will rot in their stomachs, but foolish people will say it when they meet people!
If your children have money, don't show it off
The old adage says: "Wealth is not exposed." ”
Many parents like to show their children's income to their relatives and friends out of comparison.
Behind this kind of show-off and vanity, they often want to be recognized and praised by others.
But face to face, what people say is envy, but behind their backs they may be jealousy or disdain.
In fact, even in the most intimate relationships, there may be people who don't want you to be better off than they are, but just want you to be well. We don't care what others think, what matters is our own life and happiness. Let's strive to create a better tomorrow for ourselves.
No one knows what kind of evil intentions will be caused behind the red eyes, and what kind of negative impact will be brought to children.
At the worst, it will make people chew on the root of the tongue behind their backs, and at worst, it will attract many relatives and friends to borrow money, and there will be constant trouble during the New Year.
When it comes to the future wealth of children, there will always be some people with bad intentions. Some people want your child to become a talent and seek more benefits for themselves; Others may try to take your place and intervene. However, no matter what, we must not lose faith in our children, but also build a solid foundation for their future financial future.
Really smart parents are most concerned not about their own image, but about their children's future. They don't interfere too much in their child's life for the sake of showing off, but are willing to make the necessary sacrifices so that the child can grow up freely and pursue his dreams. They know that the child's talent and strength are not used as capital to show off, but a treasure that truly belongs to the child himself, which is worthy of the pride and celebration of the parents.
Some people always like to show off their children's achievements and talk about how much money they have, but they often don't know the truth. What they do is only superficial, but in daily life, they change the law to find trouble and right and wrong for their children. Sometimes, we should pay more attention to the inner quality and moral cultivation of our children, rather than only focusing on external performance.
*: Visual China.
Children who fall in love should be handled in a low-key manner.
As the saying goes, "Men should get married, and women should get married." ”
When children reach a certain age, they begin to think about the major life events of marriage.
It's in our nature to be in love, but getting married requires a longer relationship foundation. During this time, we need to learn to understand, tolerate and support each other. Let's work together to hold on to love and move towards a better future through the challenges of long-distance relationships.
If the parents do not keep their mouths open, once the children find a slightly better partner, they will show it in public, which will cause unnecessary interference and annoyance to the child's romantic relationship. Excessive parental involvement will only make the child feel unfree and silently constrained. Parents should let go and let their children grow up slowly on their own, seeing the world from their perspective, thus experiencing more frustration and growth.
Children will also lose the freedom and joy of love because they receive more attention and expectations.
In case of problems or breakups in the future, it will not only affect the reputation of the children, but also make the children more embarrassed and sad.
Children's love and marriage are a major life event. As parents, we should respect our children's choices and give them support and understanding. We can help and advise, but the final decision should be made by the child. This is not only respect for children, but also our vision as parents. Let's work together to build a good family environment for the happiness of our children.
*: Visual China.
Children conflict, don't complain
As the saying goes, "Don't make a family ugly." ”
Family is the closest bond in our lives, and parents and children are always there for each other and supportive. But even so, contradictions and strife are inevitable. We can live under the same roof, we can live in two different cities for a long time, but that doesn't mean we can avoid quarrels and conflicts. It is only through communication and inclusion that we can make our relationship more stable.
Each era has its own unique ideological concepts, and different people also have their own unique values and choices. We cannot force others to think the same as ourselves, but we can truly achieve mutual understanding and harmonious coexistence by respecting each other's views.
Many times, the parents and children will be dissatisfied, and the children will also complain.
As a parent, tolerance and open-mindedness are a must. We need to actively solve existing problems, rather than running away from them or blaming them on our children. Only by facing the problem seriously can we better guide and educate our children so that they can become better people.
Instead of feeling a little unhappy in his heart, he couldn't help but make the discord with his children known to the world.
We often can't help but complain about our grievances, but we ignore the fact that these complaints can undermine family harmony and lead to the separation of our children. We need to recognize that words and actions can affect the family atmosphere and the development of children. Therefore, we should always pay attention to our words and attitudes to create a harmonious family environment.
It is inevitable to encounter difficulties and setbacks in life, who has never had a gray pot bottom in their life? Even if the wall is thick, there will be a hint of wind blowing in. In such a society, when others listen to your troubles, they may not sympathize with you, but ridicule you for not educating your children well. If these words reach the ears of their children, they will cause another uproar. Therefore, we need to have the self-confidence and courage to face setbacks and solve problems positively, instead of complaining and complaining. Only in this way can you promote your own growth and set a good example for your children.
When dealing with family conflicts, we always habitually blame our children and ignore our own problems. In fact, before blaming, we should first reflect on our own behavior, and if it is our fault, we should put it down and correct it in time; If it is a child's problem, it is necessary to teach patiently and solve it internally. Only in this way can harmonious family relationships be established and everyone feels cared for.
*: Visual China.
Children's shortcomings, don't complain
As the saying goes, "No one is perfect without gold." ”
Children are also ordinary people, and there will inevitably be shortcomings and shortcomings.
There are many parents who want their children to be tolerant and understand their imperfections, but at the same time neglect tasks that they sometimes can't accomplish. They will be strict with their children and want them to be perfect. However, we, as parents, should first recognize our own shortcomings and not impose them on our children. We should model tolerance and understanding to our children, not harshness and ruthlessness. May we be role models for our children and create a safe and stable environment for them to grow up.
Some parents are easily picky and dissatisfied with their children, and they can't find their children's strengths, but they like to complain about their children's shortcomings in front of others. They even envy other people's children, thinking that their children are inferior to others. However, every child has unique talents and characteristics, and we should see the good in our children and help them reach their potential, instead of blindly criticizing and complaining.
What's more, they also reduce children to waste, a small thing, which immediately changes its taste when it comes out of their mouths.
After a child leaves home, whether it is the external image or the inner quality, there will always be certain influences and challenges. After a long period of separation, if there is a problem with the child's image and quality, it will hurt his self-esteem to a certain extent, and it will also lead to alienation and difficulty in communicating with each other. Let's remember that families are a reliable haven for our children, and we need to care for and care for them better.
The true maturity of parents is to accept both their own ordinariness and the ordinariness of their children.
Do you want to maintain a harmonious and close relationship with your family and friends? Then keep your mouth shut! We usually praise others more and smear less, so that everyone will like us more and trust each other, which will also make our children better. Let's start today and try to be a person who behaves appropriately!
*: Visual China.
Don't disclose your child's privacy
*There is a saying: "People have selfishness, don't say it." ”
The privacy of others cannot be openly disclosed, let alone the privacy of children.
Some parents are very talkative and often make a big deal about the trivial matters at home. I think it may be out of pride in one's family life, but for children, it can be embarrassing and distressing. Respecting family privacy is one thing we need to learn.
Since he doesn't have the focus of his own life, he especially likes to tell outsiders about his children's dynamics.
But if a child has any thoughts or secrets, he mentions them out of trust, and within a few days, no one knows about them.
For example: children's emotional experience, current job changes, and future planning expectations.
We all have our own problems, but if we are always unaware of them, repeating our mistakes again and again, then we will keep losing what is important. Especially as parents, our actions have a huge impact on our children. If our children always see our problems and are unable to correct them no matter what, they will end up resenting us. They will no longer be willing to share their private affairs with us. Therefore, we must seriously reflect on our behavior and actively improve ourselves for the sake of the happiness of our children.
We often hear irresponsible remarks that inadvertently cause dissatisfaction or even misunderstanding on the other side. Especially in family education, we should be more cautious in our words and deeds. Because the speaker has no intention, but the listener has the intention, we cannot guarantee that it will not cause trouble to our children. Therefore, think twice before speaking to avoid unnecessary consequences.
Therefore, there are some words that should be swallowed in the stomach, and some things, don't say to outsiders.
Only by being less open-mouthed and more cautious can you win the respect and favor of your children and keep the fortune of your family.