As parents, our wish is always simple – to give our children the best. However, in the pursuit of this goal, we may sometimes inadvertently go astray and have a negative impact on our children. When you are over fifty, it's time to stop doing it to your children, because the consequences may be too much for us to bear.
1. Overprotection.
Many parents tend to shelter their children from any form of setbacks and difficulties as they grow up. This desire to protect may seem warm, but in fact it can make the child weak and unable to face life's challenges independently.
Case: Xiao Chen's parents put him in a sterile environment when he was growing up. They didn't let him do the housework, they didn't let him go out to find a job, they didn't even let him go out alone. As a result, when Xiao Chen grew up, he became extremely dependent on his parents and could not live independently.
2. Excessive interference.
Even when their children are adults, some parents still have a hard time letting go and continue to interfere too much in their life choices. They want their children to live according to their own plans and not give them enough space to explore and grow.
Case: After graduating, Xiao Li's parents helped him choose a job, a partner, and even his hobbies. Xiao Li felt very painful, he felt that his life was controlled by his parents and he could not pursue his dreams.
3. Neglecting the independence of children.
On the other hand, some parents are still unable to treat their children as independent individuals when they grow up, ignoring their growth needs. This neglect can make children feel disrespected and affect their self-esteem.
Case: Xiao Zhang's parents still don't let him make decisions when he grows up. They always think that Xiao Zhang is not mature enough to make the right choice. This made Xiao Zhang feel very frustrated, and he felt that he would never be able to get the approval of his parents.
As parents, we should learn to let go and give our children enough freedom and support. Overprotection, over-interference, and neglect of our children's independence are all behaviors we need to avoid. Only in this way can our children truly grow up and pursue their own lives. Let us accompany our children through their journey with love and understanding.
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