Since ancient times, the Chinese nation has advocated the spirit of being consistent with words and deeds and doing things in a down-to-earth manner. This is not only a code of conduct, but also a kind of wisdom in life.
The quality of a gentleman is perfectly reflected in this aspect, and they advocate a way of dealing with things with caution in words and quick action.
In the relationship between words and actions, it is not difficult for us to find that words are the shadow of actions, and actions are the implementation of words.
When Zeng Guofan was an official in Beijing in his early years, he was outspoken and proud, lost many friends, and even offended the emperor, laying a lot of hidden dangers for his career as an official.
In the midst of being targeted again and again, Zeng Guofan made up his mind to speak well.
After reflection and awareness, when communicating with others, he takes care of other people's emotions, is kind and modest and thoughtful, and gradually becomes more comfortable in officialdom.
A gentleman does not lose his footing in others, does not lose his luster in others, and does not lose his mouth in others”
First, we need to understand the importance of words. Words are not only a way to express thoughts, but also a window to the soul. Through a person's words, we can get a glimpse into his inner world, his emotions, attitudes, and values. Therefore, the caution of a gentleman's words is not a sign of silence or silence, but that they understand the weight of their words and know the possible effects and consequences of their words. Before they say anything, they think carefully to make sure that their words are true, appropriate, and beneficial.
However, caution in words does not mean sluggishness or weakness in action. On the contrary, the gentleman acted swiftly and resolutely. They know that words are only a picture of the heart, and action is the brush that turns this picture into reality. When doing things, they stand firm, are not afraid of difficulties, and dare to take responsibility. They use the mountain as a metaphor, steady and powerful, no matter what challenges and changes they encounter, they can remain calm and rational, and show their value and influence with practical actions.
In interpersonal communication, the principle of a gentleman is also worthy of our reference. There are only two kinds of interactions in the world: softness overcoming rigidity and hardness against hardness. The former emphasizes the resolution of contradictions and conflicts with gentleness, rationality and patience; The latter is to stick to principles and positions in the face of toughness and unreasonableness, and not to back down or make concessions. The gentleman's way of dealing is obviously more inclined to the former. They know how to communicate patiently with watery words, with a sincere attitude and a silent moisturizing attitude. This way of communication is like a spring breeze, making people feel comfortable and at ease, and it is easier to achieve spiritual resonance and understanding.
To sum up, the wisdom of "a gentleman who wants to be obedient to his words and quick to act" is not only a personal cultivation and quality, but also an attitude and method of dealing with the world. In today's society, we should advocate this spirit, take words and deeds as the criterion, and pursue practical work. Only in this way can we go further and more steadily on the road of life.