In the eyes of most people, 22 years old is a beautiful time of youth, college students and newcomers in the workplace pursue their dreams and enjoy sweet love. However, Feng Juan's life is very different from these.
She has been through 7 relationships and has given birth to 3 children for two of her boyfriends. Each time the ending is a tragedy, making her life full of vicissitudes and exhaustion.
Now, she is pregnant again, and her boyfriend Huang Ming cruelly said goodbye and abandoned her. Feng Juan's 22-year-old has no sunshine and self-confidence, only the hardships of life and the pain of love.
Uncle Ou's daughter, Fengjuan, is a 22-year-old girl who dares to love and hate. However, her emotional path has always been full of ups and downs and setbacks. She threw herself into love again and again, but was hurt again and again, like a moth to a fire.
This made her father very sad, he hated iron and steel, and thought that his daughter did not know self-love and shame. The cause of all this can be traced back to the end of December 2016, when Feng Juan was abandoned by her boyfriend Huang Ming when she was 4 months pregnant.
At that time, she was still looking forward to the future with Huang Ming, but she didn't expect to be abandoned by him. Feng Juan's emotional setbacks and Huang Ming's ruthless abandonment plunged Uncle Ou's family into a gloomy atmosphere.
However, Feng Juan did not give up, she is still looking for her own love. Despite her many tribulations, she remained obsessed with the power of love.
Uncle Ou and his wife have always been dissatisfied with Huang Ming, a prospective son-in-law, thinking that he is incapable and unreliable, so they have "obstructed" him many times, wanting their daughter to give up on him.
But Feng Juan had a deep affection for Huang Ming, insisted on not listening to dissuasion, and was even willing to fly away with Huang Ming privately. Now Feng Juan is pregnant, but Huang Ming ran away. This is really "eat a trench, grow a wisdom".
Uncle Ou thought that since he was gone, he regarded it as a lesson and took the opportunity to cut off relations with Huang Ming. This kind of irresponsible man, if he doesn't break up, will he still keep him for the New Year?
But the result was that Feng Juan secretly went to "save love" without the knowledge of her family.
Ask me what I was doing at her house. Huang Ming said angrily that Feng Juan's parents were critical and difficult for him, so he couldn't bear it, and felt that his dignity and self-confidence had been seriously hurt, and he had been mired in negative emotions for a long time.
Unable to bear it, Huang Ming eloped with Feng Juan many times, trying to break free from the shackles of Ou's parents and mothers and live their own little lives. However, every time Feng Juan asked to go home for various reasons, and even vowed to promise that her parents would never abuse Huang Ming again.
However, when they returned to the same roof again, Feng Juan's parents would always treat Huang Ming with arrogance, shouting at him and saying bad things about him. This was also confirmed by Feng Juan, who wept bitterly and said that her parents were indeed not good to Huang Ming, and even sow discord in their relationship.
Between the two, Feng Juan felt very difficult, but between her parents and Huang Ming, she chose Huang Ming without hesitation. Although she was beaten and scolded by her parents, and even confined herself, she would try her best to escape and find him.
In the agitation of emotions, Feng Juan knelt directly at Huang Ming's feet, tearfully begging him not to leave. However, Huang Ming did not react to this at all, his face always remained calm, he said: "I can only say that I can't bear it anymore, every time I choose to believe you, you return to the original point again and again, I don't know if I can still believe you." ”
Huang Ming's attitude is like that of the villagers in "The Child Who Herds the Sheep", they no longer believe the boy's third lie that the wolf is coming. In Huang Ming's view, Feng Juan repeatedly lured him back with lies, but let him suffer verbal attacks again and again, which has formed a vicious circle that cannot be escaped.
He really couldn't stand this pain anymore.
Feng Juan knelt in front of Huang Ming with tears streaming down her face, begging him to stay. However, deep down, Huang Ming had already begun to question Feng Juan. He used to think that she was a gentle and considerate girl, but now he found that her mood swings were unusually large, and he would lash out at the slightest disappointment.
This made him feel very tired, and it also made his feelings for Feng Juan gradually wear off. So, he decided to leave. However, after Feng Juan heard the news, her emotions were completely out of control, and she clung to Huang Ming's collar and loudly declared that she was pregnant with his child.
At this time, Huang Ming's brother Huang Liang suddenly appeared, he pointed at Feng Juan's nose and scolded loudly: "Don't pretend, go check it, I want to see for myself if you are really pregnant." ”
Huang Liang's words made Feng Juan recover from the bitter crying, lowered her head, and seemed hesitant. Huang Liang was very angry about this because he had thought in the past that Feng Juan was a liar, and pregnancy was just one of them.
Huang Liang's wife followed suit"False pregnancy"Doubts were raised. Everyone knows that the first noticeable symptom of pregnancy is the cessation of menstruation. However, Feng Juan has her period every month, which seems abnormal.
What's even more surprising is that from December 25, when Huang Ming fled to Shenzhen, to December 31, when he was confronted in person, Feng Juan gave 3 different versions of pregnancy. Huang Liang's wife knew that it was 6 months, but in the dispute, Feng Juan said that it was 5 months, and when she found the reporter for help, she said that she was already 4 months pregnant.
From this point of view, it is indeed unknown whether the child in Fengjuan's womb is real.
At Huang Liang's strong request, the group decided to rush to Guangming Hospital for an examination in the middle of the night. However, in the face of the doctor's inquiry, Feng Juan's answer was surprising.
She didn't answer the question, but kept emphasizing that when she had a free check-up in Dongguan in July and August, the doctor told her that she was two months pregnant, and she didn't know anything else.
When doing B ultrasound, Feng Juan even collapsed directly on the seat in the corridor, holding her chest and moaning in pain, saying "My heart hurts so much". In the end, after the doctor checked and confirmed that there was nothing wrong with her body, Feng Juan quietly told the reporter the truth: "Because my godfather said that I should not give birth, and my parents did not agree with me to give birth, I beat the child out." ”
However, this is only Feng Juan's side of the story, whether the child was knocked out or does not exist at all, only Feng Juan herself knows.
The child became the only connection between Feng Juan and Huang Ming, but it all ended with the child "gone". The relationship between the two is like a balloon that has been punctured, which can never be repaired.
Feng Juan returned home accompanied by reporters, sat down face-to-face with Uncle O, and tried to break the mustard between father and daughter for many years. Uncle Ou didn't look down on Huang Ming, but in the face of what happened to his daughter, he chose to be calm and rational, and did not scold, but tried to find a solution to the problem.
New Copywriting: The development of events was unexpected. Although Uncle Ou was furious, his anger was only aimed at one person - Feng Juan. Uncle Ou constantly blamed his daughter, using fierce words such as "too **" to describe her: "In order to avoid us now, she will take refuge if she has any refuge, and she can leave immediately if she knows someone."
I've known someone for about a month, and I ran away right away. "It's been like this for four years, it's been like this for all three children for four years, and we've called the police a lot for her business. ”
She met a total of seven boyfriends, all of whom ran with him for a month. Seven boyfriends, I remember all their names and ** numbers. All of them were deceived, and she was still obsessed with it, and she still wanted to go. ”
It turned out that Feng Juan had staged the scene of chasing her boyfriend to elope for the seventh time. In the past four years, she has found a total of seven boyfriends online. Every time, I confirmed the relationship as soon as I met, and then eloped with each other desperately, and only went home in disgrace after being abandoned.
Again and again, again and again", Feng Juan's blind trust in online dating is suffocating. Despite experiencing many injuries and deceptions, she is still obsessed with pursuing that ethereal relationship, turning a deaf ear to her family's dissuasion, as if falling into a state of love supremacy.
Even, she interpreted her parents' worries as an obstacle to her love, and had a deep conflict with her family. Although she chose to remain silent in the face of her father's accusations, she finally revealed her heart through the guidance of reporters.
It turned out that she met Ah Cheng 4 years ago, the man who used to be her first love. They spent a wonderful time together, Feng Juan loved him so much that she even had a lovely son Xiao Yong with him.
However, Ah Cheng left her and the child without warning, leaving Feng Juan in deep despair. This story allows us to see the complexity and uncertainty of love, and it also fills us with empathy for those who blindly pursue online dating.
Feng Juan's first love experience left an indelible shadow in her heart, and the arrival of her child made her bear a heavy psychological and physical burden in her early 20s.
She said that the biggest reason why she is still unwilling to give up after experiencing injuries again and again is to find a father for her children. The reason for finding a boyfriend online is that the social circle in real life is relatively small, and you can meet more people online.
Every time she chats with her boyfriend and has a good impression, Feng Juan will take the initiative to reveal the fact that she is an unmarried mother, looking for a man who is willing to accept her child. However, every time the boyfriend promises to be good to her and the child for the rest of their life at the beginning of their relationship, but once the passion passes, they will break their promise.
It is worth mentioning that during this period, Feng Juan gave birth to another pair of twins, but her boyfriend also chose to evade responsibility.
Huang Ming once said something similar, saying that when he was with Feng Juan, he didn't care at all that she was a mother of three children, and was willing to take on the responsibility of taking care of them.
However, it doesn't matter if these words are true or not, because they have been completely separated. In short, Feng Juan's stubbornness made her addicted to love, but she was deceived repeatedly, which made Ou Dad and Ou Ma both heartbroken and angry.
And Ou's father and mother's continuous lessons and strong intervention also triggered Feng Juan's rebellious psychology. This situation has made the relationship between Ou Dad and Ou Ma and Feng Juan more and more estranged, and the originally harmonious family has now become like enemies.
In order to solve the conflict between father and daughter, the reporter took Fengjuan to see a psychiatrist. However, the expert's diagnosis turned out to be surprising. Experts pointed out that the reason why Feng Juan became willful and paranoid was not because her parents were too strict, but because they were too permissive and tolerant.
The expert said: "Feng Juan has children in the front and is taken care of by her parents in the back, and she has two children in the back, and she is still taken care of by her parents." When she doesn't have to take on these responsibilities, she doesn't learn from them. ”
Experts suggest that while learning the correct way of communication, Ou Dad and Ou Ma should also gradually let go, so that Feng Juan can learn to take on the responsibility of being a mother herself. Only when she truly understands how much responsibility and hard work it takes to be a mother can she truly grow and not act recklessly.
With the help of reporters and psychiatrists, Feng Juan and her parents finally reached a reconciliation. Uncle Ou said that he is Feng Juan's only father, Feng Juan is his most important person, and he will work hard to guide his daughter to grow up in the future.
Feng Juan also promised: "From now on, I will be more careful in choosing friends, no longer easily trust men on the Internet, and I will not easily hand over my children to them." ”
Feng Juan chose to give up on herself because of a relationship failure. Her original intention was to find a reliable father for her children and a person to rely on for herself. There was nothing wrong with this thought, but the problem was that her mind was too obvious and urgent, and a few sweet words from a strange man convinced her and made her desperate.
The results of such feelings are almost predictable. Therefore, we can only say that "people's hearts are separated from their stomachs", and when getting along with others, we must keep our eyes open and don't blindly trust others.
At the same time, we have to remember that most of the time, the parents who gave birth to us are more reliable than anyone else.