Hemingway said: "Learn to speak in two years, learn to shut up in one life." ”Life is a practice, it is not difficult to speak, but it is difficult to talk less. Often, many people talk too much, which leads to misfortune from their mouths and hurts others and themselves. To be a man, we must know how to stop in moderation and learn to be restrained. Suffering without speaking, joy without speaking, forbearance without argument, is the highest state of a person. 
Bitterness is not spoken, it is tenacityThere is a cloud in "Human Disqualification": "It is futile to complain to others, and it is better to bear it silently than this." ”
Bitterness without saying anything is not to make meaningless complaints, it is a kind of tenacity to calm down and wait for the opportunity. In ancient times, there was a village where a temple was built and a statue of Buddha was needed for prayer. The local people prepared two stones. The carver selected one of the smooth, high-quality stones and carved them. Before a few chiselings, the smooth stone began to complain. The carver patiently said: "Without careful carving, you will always be just an inconspicuous stone, hold on a little longer." However, no matter how much the carver tried to persuade him, as soon as the chisel fell on the stone, the stone wailed: "Pain, pain, don't hurt me." The carver had no choice but to pick up another stone that was far less coarse than it was. No matter how painful it was, the other rough stone endured silently without saying a word. Soon, the rough stone became a grand Buddha statue, which stood majestically on the altar and was deeply revered and worshiped by the people. The smooth stones are used to pave the road and fill the pits, and they endure the pain of people and cars running over and stepping on their feet every day. Zhang Ailing once said: "When you laugh, the whole world laughs with you; When you cry, you're the only one crying. ”In life, there are countless people who listen to stories, but there are very few people who understand them. In the eyes of others, his unforgettable tragic experience is just an after-dinner conversation. Often the wound is not on one's body, and I don't know how painful it is; If the grievance is not in your heart, you don't know how uncomfortable it is. Even if the wound is festering, it is still yourself who cleans up the mess, and even if you are full of grievances, you can only swallow it in your stomach. Outsiders only look at the result, and the process must be supported by themselves. Instead of complaining to others, it is better to learn to transform quietly, turn the cry into silence, turn the grievances into motivation, and wait for the time to run and make a splash. 
Joy but not words, is low-key
There is a cloud in "The Mean": "Water is low into the sea, and people are low into kings." ”Joy without saying a word, is a kind of low-key and introverted open-mindedness. ** Talented girl Zhang Ailing, her life is bumpy and tragic. I once had a close friend named Yan Sakura. The relationship between the two is very good, and Zhang Ailing also made "Yan Ying Quotations" specifically for Yan Ying, recording the interesting things in Yan Ying's conversation. Later, when Zhang Ailing lived in the United States, she was poor and depressed. When Yan Ying came to visit, she always talked about her wealth with relish and kept boasting about her earning ability. Zhang Ailing has a bumpy love road and has been widowed for many years, but Yan Ying is boastful of her happy and sweet marriage. Because of Yan Ying's frequent multilingual shows, the two gradually drifted apart. In the end, Zhang Ailing couldn't bear it anymore and completely broke off her friendship with Yan Ying and broke off contact. I once heard such a saying: "A person who shows off too much in the face of success will eventually lose the brilliance of success in showing off." ”The aura that comes from showing off never illuminates others, only brings harm and even eclipses oneself. Everything has a degree, and chattering and showing off will not only fail to win respect, but will attract disgust and disgust. You must know that life will not be wonderful because of publicity, but it will be full because of low-key. Hide your words in your mouth, hide your clumsiness, be a low-key person, do things in a high-profile manner, and abandon exaggeration and show-off, so that you can truly live your own life. Joy without saying a word is the beginning of a person's real strength. 
Endure humiliation without arguing, it is the pattern
Lao Tzu Youyun: "It's better to keep the middle than to talk too much." ”Patience and humiliation without argument is a kind of self-cultivation and great wisdom for dealing with the world. During the Warring States Period, Lin Xiangru was awarded the title of Shangqing because of his complete return to Zhao Yougong, and his status was above Lian Po. Lian Po was dissatisfied and declared that he wanted to insult Lin Xiangru in person. When Lin Xiangru learned about it, he refused to meet him. Every time he went to the court, he deliberately did not compete with Lian Po for the order of the rank on the grounds of physical discomfort. Soon, when he went out, he saw Lian Po from a distance, so he turned around and avoided it. For this reason, the doormen have quoted their speeches. Lin Xiangru said: "Qiang Qin did not dare to invade Zhao State, because I and General Lian were here, and the two tigers were fighting, and they would inevitably not be able to coexist, and the reason for retreating to General Lian was because he put the danger of the country in the first place and put personal grudges in the second place." Later, Lian Po heard this and pleaded guilty. In the end, the two became close friends who lived and died together. Lanling smiled and smiled: "Those who are clear are self-purifying, and those who are turbid are self-turbid." ”People live for a lifetime, not all right and wrong twists and turns, you have to distinguish right and wrong, and time will give the answer. No matter how much you justify, you can't get understanding, you will only let yourself suffer from internal friction and fall into pain. No matter how humble and low-key you are, there will always be people who will point fingers at you. In the face of inexplicable misunderstandings and reproaches from others, silence is the best counterattack. Life is always your own. Do not fight for the honor and disgrace in front of you, regardless of the right and wrong for a while, and endure the humiliation in case of trouble, you can not be disturbed by the outside world, advance and retreat in a certain way, and live at ease. "Huainanzi" has a cloud: "Linyuan envy fish, it is better to retreat and form a net." ”Life has ups and downs, and setbacks are the norm in life. Often many people are in pain and helpless because they do too little and think too much. Instead of looking up to others and being insignificant in other people's worlds, it is better to achieve yourself and shine in your own world. No matter what kind of situation you are in, you must accumulate strength and strength. Only by knowing how to face difficulties can we turn the tables against the wind and become the scenery in the eyes of others.
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