Does talking about money hurt feelings in marriage?
Mr. Li and Mrs. Li were both sweet couples at the beginning, and their relationship has always been very good. However, as time went on, money problems slowly began to affect their feelings.
One day, Mr. Li suddenly said, "Honey, we have to start saving money, for the sake of future stability." Mrs. Li frowned: "Why are you always so stingy, can't you enjoy your current life?" ”
During the consultation, Mr. Li complained: "She always looks like she spends money unscrupulously and doesn't think about the future at all." Mrs. Lee complained, "He is a miser, and he never spends money for our happiness." ”
I realized they needed some help, so I came up with an interesting approach. I said, "Mr. Li, Mrs. Li, let's try a role-playing game to understand each other better." Mr. Lee, you play Mrs. Lee, go shopping and enjoy life; Mrs. Lee, you play as Mr. Lee, managing money and investing. Then you experience each other's feelings. ”
Mr. Li said a little hesitantly: "Well, okay, I'll try it." Mrs. Li smiled and said, "No problem, I'm a master of financial management!" ”
A few days later, Mr. and Mrs. Li came back to tell me about their experience. "I didn't expect that spending money could bring so much happiness, and I can understand why Mrs. Li likes it," Mr. Lee said with trepidation. Mrs. Li said frankly: "Financial management is actually quite interesting, and I now understand why Mr. Li attaches so much importance to the future." ”
Through this game, they begin to understand each other's needs and perspectives. They began to communicate more openly and found a way to compromise with each other.
Mr. Li smiled and said to Mrs. Li, "My dear, I understand that you like to enjoy life, and we can spend money moderately, but also think about it for the future." Mrs. Li also happily responded: "No problem, we can work together to create a financial plan that can not only meet our wishes, but also lay a solid foundation for the future." ”
Therefore, talking about money in marriage does not necessarily hurt feelings. When couples are able to be honest about money issues and resolve differences through effective communication and compromise, their relationship will be stronger and more stable.
If you and your partner are also experiencing money problems in your marriage, you may wish to try a role-playing game like this, which I believe will bring you a deeper understanding and better solutions. If needed, remember to seek the help of a counsellor who will provide you with professional guidance to make your marriage happier and more harmonious.