With the rise of the Chinese New Year of separation, the problem of children's New Year has become the focus, how to solve it for families?
It's less than a week before the Spring Festival, and many families used to be arguing over where to go for the holiday, but in recent years, the "husband and wife separation" atmosphere has been solved, but new problems have also arisen!
Professor Yao of the Department of Sociology at Guangzhou University recently expressed his agreement with the idea that "husband and wife are separated", that is, children return to their hometowns with their husbands, and wives return home alone. Families without children go home during the Spring Festival, go home separately, and look for their own mothers, but if they have children, "husband and wife live separately", where should the children go?
Although Xiaoyue married very early, her hometown is in another place and she is not close to her in-laws, so she usually celebrates the New Year at her in-laws' house. This year, Satsuki also asked to go home, but her husband said that he was the only child in the family and rarely went home, and if he didn't go home, the house would be very deserted. In the end, the two went home separately and sent their daughter to her grandmother's house.
However, she doesn't want to, she wants to be with her parents, shouldn't she be with her parents? Why do parents want to separate? Xiaoyue couldn't help it, and after persuading her for a long time, her son still refused to go back to his grandmother's house, saying that he wanted to go back to his grandmother for the New Year. Her father was angry and scolded her for being ungrateful, and she didn't like her at all, even though she had raised her. In fact, Satsuki just hopes that her mother can accompany her mother, so she will be with her mother. The "separated" Spring Festival may seem beautiful, but it is not suitable for families with children, because parents have to go home, so they must separate.
Her colleague Min Min, who was also separated from her husband, sent her daughter to her parents because her son didn't want to follow her father home. Min Min said that she had been married for eight years and had not gone home for the Spring Festival, thinking that her parents would be very happy, but after only two days of going home, her mother told her to pack up and go home for the New Year.
Many people in the village came to Minmin, wanting to know if Minmin was divorced and was going home for the New Year. Min Min's mother explained to everyone with a smile at first, and then there were rumors that Min Min had no children all these years, was abandoned by her husband, had divorced her husband, and she lived alone and had to return home.
Min Min said that it was okay for others to say anything, and her own happiness was the most important thing, but Min Min's mother was not happy, she couldn't stand those gossips, so she bought Min Min a lot of New Year's gifts and told her to go home early because she had to be with her family in the New Year. Min Min had no choice but to ask her husband to take her to her in-law's house for the New Year. After becoming a mother, she realized that many things were not what she wanted!
Li Li and her husband also planned to live separately, but her mother-in-law did not agree. Their grandson had just been born, and according to local custom, the New Year was celebrated at their grandmother's house. However, the temperature in her hometown is very low, and Li Li's husband is worried that his son will catch a cold when he returns home, so he asked her to stay at home temporarily.
Unexpectedly, as soon as Li Li's husband returned to his hometown, her mother-in-law rushed home again, saying that she wanted Li Li's husband to celebrate the holiday with his father. "Now that your daughter-in-law can be separated, it's time for me to go home. Both of them choked, and in the end, Li Li took her son over, otherwise she wouldn't go back.
Li Li's husband had an argument with his wife over this and moved to her home, leaving her father-in-law alone at home. Li Li was also distressed when she saw this scene, it was supposed to be a time for the family to reunite, but it turned out to be such a big commotion. "Living apart" has become a trend, but it also brings more questions, where to spend the New Year after getting married? In fact, the following three methods are all better.
Too close, too close.
Nowadays, most families have only one person, especially on holidays like the Chinese New Year, and parents want their children to be around. If the in-laws live nearby, then they will have both, for example, they will eat at their in-laws' house in the morning and go back to their parents' house in the evening, and both parties will be taken care of.
Year to year? Especially for some girls who are far away from home, living outside for a year and living outside for a year is the most just way, which will neither tire the child nor make the parents regret it.
Celebrate the New Year at home.
For most families with young children, the best thing to do is to invite two parents and let the two of them live in one home, which is both lively and meaningful. There is no need to worry about the Spring Festival.
At the end. The Chinese have had a new year, a new year, year after year, and a day of reunion, and for us, this is a very special day. No matter where you spend the New Year, you must first explain the affairs of your family clearly, and your family will be the most happy!
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