Middle-aged people attend a party, there is a big gap between classmates, and the script has been written when I go to school!
When people reach middle age, when they go to parties, they have a particularly strong sense of distance between their teammates, and in fact, the script was written when they were in school.
When people reach middle age, attending a class reunion is undoubtedly a long-awaited and meaningful experience. Memories and excitement are intertwined, and countless emotions come to mind like a dazzling picture.
In contrast to the carefree years of our youth, when we are together again, we are all burdened with the burdens of life and destiny. Life stories and personal encounters became the most interesting topics.
The former campus bully of the same age talked about his bloated figure now, his eyes were full of suspicion, and he seemed to be wrapped in endless loss. The other classmate, who is not tall, obese, and unattractive, is now a financial elite, and his smile reveals an indescribable pride.
However, we may have forgotten one group: those who were considered diligent and sensible when they were younger"Good student", may not be interested in attending class meetings nowadays. The following is the speech of a netizen.
When people reach middle age, when they attend class reunions, the gap between classmates can be very exciting. A class reunion may seem like a special occasion, but it's actually a gathering of show-offs. People carefully match their best outfits and jewelry to show"Health"image.
Especially those former athletes who are obsessed with it, apparently hoping to prove their brilliant achievements by showing off on the outside. Girls relied on designer bags and extravagant coats to assert their status.
And the boys are on their own"Rides"to inadvertently and confidently demonstrate personal success. Whether you're a participant or a bystander who doesn't like to compare, this phenomenon is undeniable.
However, the questioner found that no matter how much we package our appearance, we will never be able to pass the level of classmates. This kind of classmate seems"Noble"They exude a sense of superiority in their words and deeds, making people feel that they don't need to prove themselves to their older colleagues.
The subject was not yet 40 years old, and he found several people attending the meeting"Classmates"He has not worked since the birth of his child. At first, he thought he could help them find a job in the future, but it turned out that his vision was too idealistic.
It's not that they can't find a job, but their families are wealthy enough to support a stay-at-home wife. On the premise of prioritizing education, they choose not to sacrifice their families for thousands of dollars. One of the women said:"If a mother becomes grumpy because of her work, how can she raise a child of good character?
After hearing these words, the subject understood the truth. However, considering his abilities, he realized that he was not qualified to think about these issues for them. In addition, there are many more around him"Male students", which made his mood even more complicated.
When they were students, these boys were not the kind of students that teachers and parents looked forward to. Some dozed off in class, and some were once at the bottom of their grades, and even fell in love. Although the guy is not a school bully, he has always held a strict attitude of self-discipline, studied hard, and never let his parents worry about it.
However, after graduating, he himself could not find a stable job and had to endure difficulties in surviving and his family. In contrast, the neglected male students are doing well.
The one who fell asleep returned to his hometown to be a teacher, which attracted a provocation: Isn't this state afraid of deceiving people? The students who scored the bottom half were arranged by their families to a well-known listed company, not only enjoying two days off, but also having a relaxed position, and always busy organizing after-work drinking activities.
In fact, when he was in school, he had already prepared a life script, but everyone didn't want to admit it at that time. After the recent class reunion, it took him quite a while to adjust his mentality. He was confused because he seemed to be doing the least well among his colleagues of a similar age, who even thought he was tougher and harder.
In a netizen's reply, I saw a thought-provoking summary: In fact, when we were studying, we had already written about our lives"Script"。It's just that we didn't want to admit it at the time, and there was a clear presence in the school"Class differences"。
However, in this matter, there is no need for us to complain too much about injustice. From another point of view, as a certain celebrity said: Why would the ** meeting, which was created by three generations working together, lose to the life of a reader who suffers from a cold window?
When it comes to diligence and hard work, the parents and grandparents of these students either have the resources or dare to be the first generation to work hard. From this point of view, the reality is actually relatively fair.
It's just that the school or parents at the bottom of the society will teach us that as long as we study hard and work hard, we will get ahead and change our destiny. This kind of thinking is often overlooked"Antecedents and consequences", exaggerating the impact of the individual.
Of course, this does not mean that being born into a low-income family is destined to give up the effort. Without the past, without the support of the family environment, relying on learning to change one's destiny is almost the only viable option.
After attending a class reunion, learn to adjust your mindset. Some students live a luxurious life, wear famous brands, and drive luxury cars, which is enviable. Some middle-aged graduates can only struggle to maintain basic living expenses and studies, and look forward to paying their salaries every month.
We have witnessed first-hand the dramatic difference in the family environment, and the magnitude of the difference is staggering. This strong contrast can easily make some people feel mentally confused and helpless, and produce complaints.
The nature of life is full of differences. Each person's resources and conditions are unique, and this difference cannot be bridged by simple effort. We need to learn to adjust our mindset correctly, pay attention to our own lives, and compare ourselves less with others. It is also an important life skill.